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Penalty-free IRA withdrawals through an annuity

September 1, 2014

For those who have an IRA (an individual retirement account) and are concerned about avoiding any 10% early withdrawal penalties (before age 59 1/2), there are a variety of exceptions to the penalties, including to pay for medical costs. For people with a Roth IRA, there are special rules, such as stated below from this article: http://www.dailyfinance.com/2013/09/23/how-to-avoid-ira-savings-early-withdrawal-penalty/

Withdraw from a Roth IRA. If you have a Roth IRA that is at least five years old, you may be able to withdraw your contributions, but not the earnings, without incurring an early withdrawal penalty.

However, the most intriguing method is the “annuity” method, which allows “a series of substantially equal payments” at least once a year (annually). That is what I will focus on here.

 

From what I can tell from reading section 2.01 (a) of www.irs.gov/pub/irs-irbs/irb02-42.pdf, an example would be that a 36 year-old person could set up a withdrawal of about 1/60 of the total account balance without a penalty (if they are setting this up to be a regular annual distribution). For a married couple, the exemption would be basically doubled (with slight variables like how far apart the ages are of the couple).

 

First, for reference, here is the full list of exempt withdrawals: http://www.irs.gov/publications/p590/ch02.html#en_US_2013_publink1000231064

Next, here is the text of the IRS publication concerning the exempt annuity withdrawals:
http://www.irs.gov/publications/p590/ch01.html#en_US_2013_publink1000230896


Annuity.
  You can receive distributions from your traditional IRA that are part of a series of substantially equal payments over your life (or your life expectancy), or over the lives (or the joint life expectancies) of you and your beneficiary, without having to pay the 10% additional tax, even if you receive such distributions before you are age 59½. You must use an IRS-approved distribution method and you must take at least one distribution annually for this exception to apply. The “required minimum distribution method,” when used for this purpose, results in the exact amount required to be distributed, not the minimum amount.

There are two other IRS-approved distribution methods that you can use. They are generally referred to as the “fixed amortization method” and the “fixed annuitization method.” These two methods are not discussed in this publication because they are more complex and generally require professional assistance. For information on these methods, see Revenue Ruling 2002-62, which is on page 710 of Internal Revenue Bulletin 2002-42 at www.irs.gov/pub/irs-irbs/irb02-42.pdf.

For further info, see pages 3-7 (#710 – 713) of the document in the last link.

The war on open-mindedness

August 31, 2014

In reference to open-mindedness, I cannot think of anything more threatening to the mainstream culture than open-mindedness. In schools, certain kinds of “open-mindedness” are promoted (though in a huge irony of a context of shaming and political correctness). However, in regard to many established scientific issues, schools systematically excluded curiosity and debate. This is perhaps most obvious as it relates to health (and things like the fraudulent practices recently publicized concerning the CDC and hiding vaccine risks).

So, what is the solution so that institutions do not ever promote close-mindedness and a war on science (like the CDC, FDA, DOJ, etc)? Open-mindedness does not need an institution to promote it. Institutions exist to promote low-quality information to the masses of human resources in order to benefit the beneficiaries of those institutions.

For instance, pharmaceutical companies are not health-promoting systems. They are profit-making systems.

Governments are not human welfare promotion systems. They are systems for managing human resources through coercion and propaganda.

Of course, government propaganda will promote other perceptions. Likewise, drug companies may use slogans like “the best choice for your health.” That kind of thing is just what works in using language to influence the attention and perception and behavior of the human resources.

So, my main concern with the “open-mindedness” of most new agers is that they are just herds repeating propaganda slogans. To be truly open-minded would mean refraining from taking a position on any issue AT ALL.

An open-minded person can say “I do not KNOW for sure, but here is my presumption that I am using for now based on a conscious FAITH rather than an unexamined presumption/ belief.” That one operating not from a “faith in God” but from the Faith OF God is not likely to have tantrums about alleged threats to their conscious presumptions.

The reality is that sometimes people promote a particular perception. That is the directing of other people’s perception. That is not promoting open-mindedness.

When I “train” someone in spiritual maturity, I do not impose open-mindedness on them. I simply demonstrate it.

People can experiencing a relaxing of their chronic tensions. Some could be disoriented by relaxing “too fast.” They might even experience some panicking. That is actually not a problem. It is normal for there to be an arising of suppressed emotions, such as shame, jealousy, resentment, and anxiety.

If someone is brave enough to intentionally explore those emotions as possible allies, that is notable (and perhaps rather rare). All that really happens is an exploration of how presumptions form and how they change.

Again, nothing could be more threatening to the mainstream herd mentality. They are lost in the worship of demons like cancer and autism and diabetes and political corruption.

Politics is corruption. So what?

Do we have contempt for those with contempt for us?

August 30, 2014
  • We can notice that some churches promote conflict and others promote cooperation. Can we accept both as valid? Can people form cooperative teams then enter conflicts with other teams?

    What about promoting contempt? In the mass media and public schools, are any behaviors targeted with contempt? Terrorism? Pedophilia rings? Churches and governments that operate pedophilia rings and protect the participants?

    In the US, we have laws that punish people who trade weapons illegally, launder money, and engage in the trade of illegal drugs. However, in the famous case of Lt. Colonel Oliver North and Caspar Weinbeger (and 4 other defendants), there is also a rule for the protection even of convicted criminals.

    Because of the involvement of Bill Clinton and George H.W. Bush in the smuggling and laundering operations, either of those two Presidents would have interrupted the legal proceedings against their allies / co-conspirators / business partners. Incidentally, it was Bush who actually did so, because he was the first one with an appropriate opportunity, but that is a trivial detail.

    http://www.nytimes.com/…/general/onthisday/big/1224.html

    Clinton’s most “corrupt-looking” pardon (in my opinion) did not involve the drug smuggling part of the Iran-Contra affair, but the illegal oil deals made by Marc Rich:


  • “In 1983, billionaire financier Marc Rich was indicted for tax evasion and charged with 51 counts of tax fraud. The commodities trader was also in trouble for running illegal oil deals with Iran during the hostage crisis, therefore violating a US TRADE embargo with Iran. During his prosecution, Rich fled to Switzerland and was surprisingly pardoned by former President Bill Clinton, who claimed Rich’s charitable donations in the Middle East helped bring peace to the area.”

    http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,99302,00.html

Holism includes exclusion

August 30, 2014

One way to consider reality is from the perspective of monotheism, which is often mentioned but rarely “practiced.” If an Almighty God is the source of all manifestations and developments and perceptions, then which one “should not be?”


Ancient Hebrew teachers presented a model that we could call holism (or inclusiveness). There is a time for every thing under heaven: every season, a time for war and for peace, a time for love and for hate, a time to plant and to harvest.

Within the all-inclusive mansion, there are many rooms. Which room is not part of the mansion? Which branch is not from the tree? Which creation violates the laws of nature?
An interesting question could be “what really would be the *seed* of misery?” Consider this: “What happened but should NOT have happened (according to me) is ___.” That is relating to something as a tragedy- a source of misery!

So, if a monotheistic god is almighty, then that single source produces even misery. Who created polytheism? God. Who created the idea of a devil? There is only one source recognized in authentic monotheism.

 

 

So, the trick for new agers is that an all inclusive model… completely includes exclusion. When peace and war (or misery or activity) are like the front and back of a piece of paper, then exclusion is… Included.

Who divides people? God. How? Through churches or public schools or linguistic barriers or brick walls- whatever.

Most people arrogantly exclude some part of God’s creation. why? God caused that too.

 

People sometimes use unexamined language. An instance could be “getting closer to God.” Are you clear that saying that invokes an interpretation of isolation/ separation/ exclusion?

Every time that the branch makes a flower blossom, it gets closer to the trunk. Or, it is already as close to the trunk as a branch could be.

When language is deemed “holy,” then there is no real examining of it. It is worshiped (like linguistic concepts can be believed). That is just another idolatry.

Language is not holy. Only God is holy. Everything else is merely sacred- everything!

Who is present amidst turmoil and peace and so on? Not peace. That is just a quality of polarity. Who is present? I am.

“Prior to Abraham, I am. Prior to Noah and Moses and Isaiah, I am.” – Jesus

Of course, you may be aware that even as Jesus quoted ancient Hebrew texts (like “Ye shall be Gods”) to the Pharisees, some of them were apparently a bit challenged by how he was speaking. They did not recognize for themselves that, prior to Jesus, the eternal is never anything but eternal.

Prior to Adam, is life still eternal? When is life not eternal?

music video: Come for you (“act normal”)

August 29, 2014

Come for you (“act normal”)


She had her hopes and her day dreams    About how her life would be
She had her sacred opinions        About how her life should be
She had her history of panic        don’t let them see the embarassment
She had her quiet desperation         trying hard just to fit in

Could you pretend to be relaxed
Ain’t that the right thing to do?
Okay, everyone: act normal…
or else they’re gonna come for you!

She didn’t meet some expectations          all the ones that didn’t fit her
Other people could condemn her          she could learn to be alone
everyone has had their complaints            like she should have been more fun
She had her healthy paranoias         like while driving watch the road

Could you pretend to be relaxed
Ain’t that the right thing to do?
Okay, everyone: act normal…
or else they’re gonna come for you!

Well, when she’s scared she’d say something is wrong
then before long she’d say someone is wrong
After a while she’d say I don’t belong
around all of these people who don’t know how to be strong… like me
but she was weak
and hiding her fears
behind a mask of raging arrogance
to cover her tears
and distract from her shame
She was terrified of courage
she called it the fear of fear itself
but it still feels tense by any name

Could you pretend to be relaxed
Ain’t that the right thing to do?
Okay, everyone: act normal…
or else they’re gonna come for you!

She had her hopes and her day dreams About how her life would be
She had her sacred opinions About how her life should be

 

 

 

alternate takes: (with extra improvisations on the guitar)


 

Obsessing over salvation and how priorities change

August 28, 2014

I was just chatting with Reverend Lieberwirth about the possibility of mindful relaxation and he raised a very interesting point. Here is my reply:

As for the idea of **attachment** to being mindfully relaxed, I like it. Of all possible obsessions, it could be the only one that actually offers a reasonable possibility of “salvation.”

I like the idea [mentioned by Reverend Lieberwirth] of emphasizing that priorities CHANGE. I emphasize that by making reference to priorities as distinct from preferences (as distinct from trivia). We always can identify more than one priority if relevant.

Further, the idea of an inevitable shift to a new priority is the basic idea of economics: for someone starving, food is a high priority. So, they get some food. If they can get more food, they may do that. However, after some point, they stop getting food and either get something else or just conserve their excess wealth for another time. I do not get more frozen food for my freezer than can fit in it, or else I have to either start defrosting or else get another freezer, etc….

In “Austrian Economics,” the technical jargon for that is “ordinal utility,” which means that the usefulness of any particular investment (of attention or time or resources) has a certain place amongst an order or sequence of other options. I may comb my hair for 30 seconds, but not 100. Then I brush my teeth for 30 seconds but not 100. Then I shave for 3 minutes, but not 20.

What do I do first? In a relaxed mode, the sequence of activities may be organized by “convenience.” In an emergency, I may feel that I “have to” finish washing all the dishes before I empty the trash. Why? Because my brain is overwhelmed. I want to complete one task before I add another ball to my juggling.

In honor of the importance of the idea of priorities inevitably changing, I purchased the domain name “The New Priority,” though I have not put any unqiue content on it yet. http://thenewpriority.com/

Are there good reasons to hate stupid liars?

August 28, 2014

Reverend Fritschler’s message for today:

I just wanta be a smarter. The best way to live in heaven is to always be sincere and never say anything incorrect or wrong. Always abide in the abode of perfectionism and never playfully act stupid or say things that sound stupid, you fools!!! The stairway to heaven is always doing your best with a serious demeanor and if you mess that shit up be sure to worry and agonize over how stupid you are.

I for one am tired of all these little devil’s saying stupid jokes and acting stupid on purpose. Come on grow up and be serious and sincere for once and quit trying to act like an idiot. What an epidemic…

In summary the best way to be is a compulsive liar stuck in a mindset of impressing others and always do your best but if it doesn’t work out instead of whining like a bitch keep it real by playing a clown. Why can’t all these straight faced miserable human beings that I am surrounded by get the simplicity of heaven or the complication of struggling against the strong winds of opposition in the metaphorical hell?

I just wanta be a smarter.  The best way to live in heaven is to always be sincere and never say anything incorrect or wrong.  Always abide in the abode of perfectionism and never playfully act stupid or say things that sound stupid, you fools!!!  The stairway to heaven is always doing your best with a serious demeanor and if you mess that shit up be sure to worry and agonize over how stupid you are.  </p>
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JR replies:

  • FYI, I did not get the reference to strong winds [actually, yes, I did], but what I what I am really curious about is this:

    “In summary the best way to be is a compulsive liar stuck in a mindset of impressing others….”

    Taking the example of a four year old child who likes to dress up and pretend to be various interesting people such as Santa Claus, are you suggesting that such a child might be dressing up in order to influence how other people interact with the child? “Yeah, now you have to line up to even talk to me and then sit on my lap and ask me for favors! This is AWESOME! I am like a judge in the courtroom, right?”

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn Some women wear make-up and some men wear rings on their fingers. Do you think that they do these things for some reason other than impressing others?

    Is it ever useful or valuable to influence the perceptions or behaviors of others? For instance, consider someone who says “Hell no, I am not at all in to impressing other people. Don’t be ridiculous. That is the wrong way to be. I am compulsively the opposite of that wind, which, by the way, I would never light on fire if it happened to be coming out of my butt.”

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn I like to tell people how stupid it is for people to light their farts on fire and reassure them that I would never do something like that because that is probably just trying to impress others and I am already very arrogant so why would I need to do such a thing? Naivete is for young people and those with things still left to learn and I certainly have not been like that for months.
  • J R Fibonacci Hunn So anyway, you know what I really hate? No? Well, then I’ll just tell you.

    Not that I want to tell you. I am just doing it for your own good because that is the right thing to do and I am doing unto others how I would want them to do unto me. People have a duty to do the things that I think they have a duty to do, like in this case I simply must tell you what I really hate because I want you to know that I don’t mind either way. In other words, impressing you or influencing you has nothing to do with these words that I may or may not be using.

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn I hate liars. Like this one actor who played Napoleon Dynamite told me that when he was 4, he dressed up as a clown named Santa Claus and told fictitious stories to naive cows simply to warn them about the dangers of a certain haristyle called an afro.

    Disgusting right? Repulsive! Sickening! Disturbing! The dude needs to be given some serious medications and locked in a “correctional” warehouse so he can learn to have more respect for that one social prohibition against “thou shalt not lying.”

    You’re welcome. Oh, and I also hate people who do not appreciate me as much as I seem to think that they should. They SUCK!

Fear, shame, and repenting

August 25, 2014

Repenting is simply to admit an instance of fear or being scared that one has been terrified or shamed in to hiding. Repenting does not require communicating with another person. I just notice that it is an instance of terror to say something like “what should not exist is stress hormones which can produce heightened alertness in animals including humans which we can call fright.”


Any rejection of some aspect of “God’s creation” as “a mistake” is arrogant sin. It is shame to say “that should not be.”

 


Further, shame should exist. We know this because it DOES exist. Also, repenting of our shame is simple and easy, but very rare. Immense amounts of energy can be invested in the avoiding of shame.

As for belief, belief does not replace understanding. When understanding is present, then faith is the automatic result (the fruit)… as in a faith that, even without already knowing, one can learn. That is a total contrast to “belief” or “positive thinking.” Those are typically methods that frightened people use to pretend not to be frightenened.

It is fine to be frightened. It is fine to ask for help or explore other new actions because of the motivation of desperation or anxiety. That is intelligent. Fear is intelligent. Even extreme forms of fear like paranoia and shame are intelligent, but they can be very inefficient.


The idea of being attentive to the actual physical experience (of stress or distress) as “the most effective form of repentance” is an important note that you added. Instead of being terrified of a physical experience as “shameful or sinful” because someone else might call it fear, we can recognize that in the lives of many people, we assessed that it was unsafe to display fear openly, so we repressed the display of fear (like in our facial expressions or our gestures). That anxious, ongoing repression of fear is paranoia.

Celebrate fear. Admit past paranoia. Admit any past condemnation of fear as “something that should not be.” That is all trivial and sinful. It does not matter now.

Recognize that there are times to keep one’s physical experience private as well as times when being attentive to one’s physical experience is uniquely valuable. Experience yourself with total respect. You are holy. Your past has always been perfect. You just were intelligent enough to hide elements of your past in shame when you experienced distress.

To be cautious in the midst of animosity is not shameful. It is wisdom. To disengage from trivial antagonisms is courageous.

Any past distress was perfect and holy. Any condemnation of the past was also trivial, sinful, perfect, and holy.

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The above was  written in response to the following: (published by Hope Johnson here: https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10201647056817143&set=a.1268571653323.37765.1800792202&type=1 )

“For all have sinned and come short of the glory of God”. This is not a judgment, and it doesn’t mean anyone has done wrong.

Every child is conceived in God’s glory, and birthed into this environment where they are immediately impressed with fear – which is to sin.

Once fear is impressed upon the child mind, mental patterns are formed to continually create different circumstances that trigger the same fearful reactions throughout the lifetime. Every time there is a reaction to fear, sin is repeated, and ego (energy of fear) becomes more prominent as the child progresses through adolescence, adulthood and old age.

As most humans never come to realize that they live through childhood fear, they are like scared little children in that life circumstances…even seemingly adult circumstances like losing a job, home or relationship…trigger the same fearful emotional responses they experienced as a child.

If the child never repents for their sin, they suffer tremendously through the lifetime and especially in old age as their body deteriorates and passes away. This is because the structure of their physical body is made to house fearful concepts, whereby the mind can be easily and frequently hypnotized by evil spirits (fearful thought entities).

This makes repentance very difficult, especially since most religious organizations and spiritually minded people don’t understand it….

So how can one learn to stand firm in God’s glory and repent for their sin when all they know is to respond with fear to life’s circumstances? Through faith that what I’m saying is true, and willingness to pay attention to the messages coming through their own physical body in the moment they are faced with temptation to sin again.

There is no role for self judgment in true repentance…many times the child mind will fall back into its sinful ways…But every time sin is committed with awareness of Truth, factions of evil forces are being met with compassion and thereby dissolved. However, to keep judging oneself for falling is to perpetuate sin and thereby miss the point of repentance.

As one is released from the bondage of sin, wisdom arises in its place, and the child mind comes to recognize that strategies meant to manage fear are no longer useful, and so such childish things are put away….And the child mind is restored to its natural state of carefree, peaceful and compassionate….which is true maturity.

May every child mature in wisdom and be reborn in the Glory of God. Amen!

Repentance is a sincere turning away from sin. Focusing on the messages coming through the physical body in the moment the temptation to sin arises is the most effective form of repentance in my experience.

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JR’s response to Hope began as follows and then included all of the above:

Hi Hope. I reject certain phrasing in your message as anti-fear paranoia. However, it is a very important topic and there are some great comments that you made. I invite you to consider a more precise and more empowering phrasing… as follows.

 

 

 

After all of that, Hope replied:

  • Hope: Aloha J R! That’s an interesting interpretation of my words. It’s very generous of you to share your point of view. Mahalo!
  • J R:  Be careful of promoting another religion of exclusion. The excluson of fear is not courage. The exclusion of courage is not maturity. Those who are arrogant and inattentive will, by the glory of God, be humbled.

 

  • Hope: Ok J R! I’ll be very careful not to do that…
  • J R: The glory of God remains with or without sin. Never was an issue. What a relief!Worshiping ideals however can lead to excluding the glory of God… from one’s own direct experience. But that is just temporary, right?

 

The most important story ever

August 25, 2014

​She moves slowly toward him through the crowd. ​Soon, if everything goes as expected, then the parents of the couple will be grandparents. She steps beyond the edge of the crowd and continues closer to him. When the couple finally does embrace, the crowd begins stomping on the ground and cheering and hollering.

However, not everyone was cheering. One youngster had been quietly lying in bed and listening to this story before going to sleep. Suddenly, the child sat up and asked a very serious question. Of course, this was a very important question, or the child would not be asking it, right?

“But what did her hair look like? Was it shining in the sunlight? Was it waving in the wind? Don’t you even know the right way to tell this story? Seriously, how can she just walk right up to him if her hair is not right?”

These could be the kind of questions that required another glass of water first before they could be properly addressed. So, the child went to get some water while the storyteller consulted the sacred book of important stories and waited for the child to return.

“Well, it says here that her hair was down to her shoulders, but that is about it.” The storyteller then turned to face the child and asked, “What exactly do you think is most important about her hair?”

“First of all, her hair was absolutely beautiful. For instance, her hair made the sunlight look very pretty- not just cute like your hair. Also, as she walked, each step made her hair dance on her shoulders. There was no wind at all, so you could really see the rhythm of her footsteps just by looking at her hair. Obviously, that is what is really matters. I don’t get it though because I thought you knew how this story should go.”

“Dear me,” said the storyteller, “you are quite right. I was telling you the story a short way and so I did leave out some details. Thank you for saying so and correcting me.”
“You’re welcome. You need to get it right, though, so it is a good thing that I am here. Now,” the child said, “what is that book you are holding in your hands? It does not even have any pictures in it. That must be very boring.”

 

​ “This? Oh, well this is the sacred book of important stories,” said the storyteller. “It contains writing that repeats the stories that people used to say out loud.”

“Okay, yes, right. I know all about that book,” the child revealed. “Now that the stories are written down in to that book, is that what makes them so important?”

The storyteller placed one finger right over the top lip and tapped it there a few times and then said, “We can check the book. Let’s see what it says about that, okay?”

The storyteller flipped through the pages, looking for the sections on Isaiah or Jesus. However, this was not going as fast as hoped. So, the storyteller decided to check the internet.

“I’ll see if I can find the one thing about worshiping with lips. There is also the other thing about the truth being written in the heart. Just wait for a minute there while this browser loads, okay?”

The child was impatient. “How can a story be more important just because it has been written down? First, people say the story out loud, then someone writes it down and people read it loud or read it silently. It is still the same story, though, right? To say that writing it down makes it more important does not make any sense. That is like saying that the same story becomes important just because it is put on a website. The story may get to be well-known because someone records themselves reading it and loads it on to youtube, but that is not what makes the story valid as in valuable. The story is just as valid whether it is spoken, written, or recorded as an audio.”

The storyteller was impressed. “Again, you are quite right. What you said is basically the same thing that Isaiah said, except of course that Isaiah did not speak using our modern language.”

“But if he had used modern language,” the child asked, “then that sure would have been a lot smarter of him, right?”

“Smarter?” the storyteller repeated. “In this case, what exactly do you mean by smarter?”

“Duh,” said the child between sips of water. “Smarter means easier for me to understand!”

Suddenly, another child, whom everyone else presumed to have been sleeping, spoke up from the other side of the room. “How old was she?”

This was slightly off-topic, so the storyteller asked “do you mean the cow that was walking through the crowd up to the bull?”

“Yes,” said the other child. “I’m talking about the cow with the beautiful shoulder-length hair that walks up to the bull and then everyone stomps on the ground in celebration because they are about to mate.”

“What does mate mean?” asked the first child. “Is that related to boats like the first mate or is that related to chess like when I win the game by declaring a checkmate?”

The storyteller said “what is really important, my dear children, is that the cow was old enough to mate. Trust me on that. As for the word ‘mate’ itself, it is related to the word mother and basically it means to make a female in to a mother. The word ‘mate’ is also related to the words maternity and matrimony and marriage.”
“That is just your opinion. These cows should respect our traditions,” said one of the children. “I still think that one cow was way too young. Frankly, it is disgusting that such a young cow would be mating at that age. I find it disturbing and insulting. We need to put an immediate stop to those frightening and primitive practices. I hope that hearing this tragic story does not make me vomit.”
The other child attempted to help with a few simple words. “This is a story from a long time ago, so relax, okay? I do not know if it is even a true story.”

“Yeah, but last year, there were at least 100 similar cases within 5,000 miles of us,” one child shouted. “Those cows must be mentally ill. They are hysterical. They are breaking the commandments of God and if we do not stop them right away, then they are probably going to spark another apocalypse!”

“You sound paranoid, dude,” said one child to another. “You need to shut up or else I am going to tell on you.”

“Children, calm down,” said the storyteller, punctuating each word by smacking one of the children on the cheek. “Stop… arguing… right… now!”

 

 

Suddenly, the bull turned to the cow and said, “the way that you walk is so sexy. However, I am a bit nervous about what everyone else will think of me, so I am telling you about it instead of doing something about it.”
“Sexy?” the cow hissed. “Is that where your mind is at in a time like this?”
“A time like what?” said the bull. “You’re not really worried about what those kids are saying about you, are you?”

“No, you idiot.” said the cow. “Those kids do have electric cattle prods and so they deserve respect, but that is not what concerns me right now. Can’t you see the clouds and feel the storm coming?”

The bull actually had been focused on the way that the cow was walking and had not noticed the dark clouds approaching. “Wow, that looks serious,” said the bull.

“It is serious!” The cow insisted. “While you are over here quietly condemning the human children for being naive and belligerent religious fanatics, we are about to get drenched. So what are you going to do about it?”

“Wait, how did you know that I was quietly condemning those human children?” the bull wondered. “I never said anything out loud about them at all.”

“I know you,” said the cow. “I could see it written on your face.”

“What?” said the bull. “I looked in the mirror a minute ago when the kid went to the bathroom to get some water. There was nothing written on my face.”

“You can be so literal sometimes,” said the cow. “I don’t mean written on your face like with a marker. I mean your facial expressions. It’s in your forehead and in your shoulders. You are nervous about those kids and their electric cattle prods.”

“No!” said the bull. “I mean, why would I be… hey, you’re not saying that I am scared are you?”

 “Of course not. Why would I bother saying that. You would just deny it anyway. By the way, did you notice though that you just peed on yourself while we were talking?”
“Huh?” said the bull. “That? No that’s not urine. That’s, uh, that’s probably just some water that splashed up on me when I accidentally stepped in a puddle earlier.”
“Look, just forget it,” said the cow. “What are you going to do about the storm coming our way?”
“Uh,” said the bull. “I condemn it. It should not be like that. And um… and I blame the humans.”

“What kind of a bull are you? I need a real bull who is going to treat me like a real cow deserves to be treated. You have read too many books and listened to too many lectures about how to get to heaven. Today, when I need a real bull, you are here talking about who is to blame for the storm that is coming!”

“Honey, I thought…” said the bull, “look, isn’t this is what you wanted? I was just trying to please you, dear.”

“Stop!” said the cow with the beautiful shoulder-length hair. “Just stop trying to please me all the time. Where are your balls?”

“Slow down. What kind of balls are you talking about, dear? There were a couple of dances in the barn last month and those were called balls, like with ballroom dancing. Is that what you mean? Honey? Why are you walking away? Please come back!”

“What did the bull do wrong?” asked one of the human children. “How was the bull even supposed to stop the clouds from raining on them?”

The other child said, “it was not that the bull was supposed to stop the clouds. That is just the topic that the cow used to distract the bull. The bull was already confused and then the cow used that pre-existing confusion to lay a huge guilt trip on him as she withdrew. By cultivating confusion, anxiety, and disorientation in the bull, she symbolically castrated him with shame and paranoia.”

“Well,” said the storyteller, “if the cow was just messing with the bull’s head on purpose, then that would have been deceptive and dishonest. Do you really think that a cow would do something like that?”

“Cows are always nice in all the stories that I have heard,” answered one of the children. “I cannot imagine a dishonest cow. That is impossible. I reject the idea as invalid. No further research is relevant. I already know it is all a bunch of bull crap. Also, what does castrated mean?”

“Oh, castration is kind of like decapitation,” said the storyteller. “Do you know what that is?”

“Of course I do,” said that child. “Decapitation is when you are wearing a cap and then your older brother knocks it off of your head just to annoy you.”

“Well, there could be other meanings for that word,” said the storyteller. “However, it is close enough to say that in the end of the story, it was almost like the cow was knocking the bull’s cap off of his head as she ran away so that he would pay attention to his cap and not to her. Does that make sense?”

“Hey, that reminds me. You never actually said how old the cow was,” stated the other child. “Is this your way of you trying to avoid that issue?”
“The cow was 16 and had the written permission of her parents,” said the storyteller. “There, now are you satisfied?”

“Okay, but how old was the bull? Had he ever been married before? If so, was he still married or had he gotten a divorce. I am only asking because my own father ruined my life by divorcing my mom 5 years ago and then marrying some slut with shoulder-length hair which is how all sluts wear their hair.”

“Thanks for asking. The bull was also 16 and had never been married,” said the storyteller. “Now, you need to go to bed and stop accidentally knocking the decapitations off of your younger sister’s head.”

“But that’s not what you said last week,” said the other child. “You said that the bull was married to 4 other cows already.”

“You’re right. That is what I said. However, that was not the same bull,” said the Storyteller. “Also, the cow in that story had hair past her shoulders, remember?”
“Oh yeah, plus the wind was blowing and it was raining on them,” said the child. “That was a totally different story from the sacred book of important stories that have not been written down yet, but are recorded as audio and uploaded to youtube.”

Behaviors express needs? How about bullying?

August 23, 2014

MP shared this photo (and made this comment: “Yes, for all the children – all ages, even us when we are triggered and regress to age 2, 4, 6 – what lies beneath, fear, scarcity, loss of… the unmet need.”)

  • To the extent that behavior is an effect of a physiological condition, the #1 factor in behavior may be things like neurochemistry, which is itself a function of things like nutrition, pH (electromagnetic charge), hydration, and breathing. For instance, why do modern infants so infrequently sleep through the night? They have far inferior nutrition to many populations of “traditional cultures.”The same logic applies with veterinary science. If a lab rat is fed well, that ample nourishmenteffects all other behaviors. If a lab rat is not fed or is fed poorly, they may die or at least have greatly reduced endurance, coordination and cognition. By the way, in the image above, the item “am I nourished?” is listed.So, “comforting” an organism can produce an interruption to “unfavorable” behavioral patterns. However, to the extent that “comforting” does not address primary unmet needs, that may not be enough to make a “fussy” infant sleep well. You can also shoot them up with drugs to put them to sleep, but that will still fail to address nutritional issues.

  •  MP: Good one, when triggered the question is: is this emotions based, or is it a chemical imbalance? The Immediate switch to cognitive thinking disables the amygdala and sets up a different reaction. It becomes the opportunity to step out of victim mode, to empower the self and recalibrate the Self developing new pathways, and to shrink the triggered dendrite.
  • J R Fibonacci Hunn In certain ways of labeling phenemenon, there can be a set of presumptions that are unexamined. We can set up an “either/or” presumption that (1) chemistry and (2) emotions are two entirely isolated realms, then ask “which one of those two is the cause of _____?” That may actually be an unexamined use of language.From a purely grammatical analysis, we can say “the Switch is the name of a living entity that produces results like the disabling of the amygdala.” Then we can say, “that Switch (to cognitive thinking) is the one that disables the amygdala. It is the Swtich (the one over there) which can empower the self (the one over here).”
  • J R Fibonacci Hunn So, if someone in my midst displays certain patterns of behavior that I could call distress, I could notice myself saying “I can feel the distress and I was very surprised about it, so I stopped focusing elsewhere because I was suddenly so curious about how we can learn from what is actually happening.” All of that is “suggestive.”I can also say “you are clearly possessed by the demon of a mental condition called Incurable Sincerity, type 3. After we do surgery to remove the demon from your mind, I have some pills for you which are very safe because they have been used for over 6 years with no major successful lawsuits yet against the manufacturer.” All of that is also suggestive.

    Speaking is always suggestive. There is no speaking that does not suggest a particular point of view. That is inherent in speaking.
  • J R Fibonacci Hunn So, in my own experience, there are many ways to influence the behavior of others. That includes “getting someone drunk” as well as giving someone some cayenne pepper (like putting a small spoonful of it in to their mouth). Both are powerful interventions. Both produce consistent results.Most “civilized people” are notably undernourished relative to my standards of “optimal.” An example would be that the vast majority of teenagers lack the sufficient nourishment to develop a fully wide jaw, which results in painful crowding of teeth (which leads to surgical removal of “wisdom” molars) and also crooked teeth. Usingorthodontic manipulations to straighten the teeth does not provide the nutrition to create afully-grown jaw. So, the vast majority of people in our culture are “under-developed” in regard to narrow jaws and crowded teeth, even if theirteeths have been re-aligned by force and “look straight.”The mainstream culture may be obsessed with appearances and terrified of science and logic. The “war on science” and the “war on health” are not accidents. Further, because of the huge advances in technology and wealth, promoting personal health is not a priority for most people. If they ever need a new kidney, they hope that they can just get a “free” one from the insurance company, right?

    So back to the managing of human resources, when a herd of organisms is being managed by a bureaucrat, the bureaucrat is attentive to their own guidelines and short-term results. Their caseload may not correspond to studying health or focusing on individual cases and long-term results. Their job is may be to make measurements of the organisms and sort the organisms, then implement other interventions such as to prevent certain results amongst “high-risk” organisms.

    A parent can say to a public school teacher “I wish that the system was how it should be, which is obvioulsy not how it is.” A teacher can say in repsonse, “yes, and I think it is all because of the Switch, which resulted in the disabling of the other thing.”

    Isn’t it odd to say “this system is not designed to produce these results?” Of course the results of a system are always a perfect match for it’s design. Statements about “intention” are often rationalizations and promotional propaganda. If you are interested in what a system is designed to do, just look at what it does- measure the results.

    If you only use the measures that the system itself uses, that is not measuring the system. That is applying the system.

     

  •  MP: Thank you For your share and your commitment to clarity and a deeper appreciation for what lies beneath, hugs
  • J R Fibonacci Hunn Appreciation is close. Respect & courage are big too. You wrote at the very top “for children of all ages.” That is an important note. I can label something “misbehavior.” Why? I may “need” to! My “needs” are what result in this social behavior now of typing (and my needs structure the specific usage of language).

    Some people experience a “need” to define some pattern as “wrong” and then focus on preventing it or interrupting it (if perceived as present). That can be defining the behaviors of others as wrong, like “stop bullying or else I will spank you and then make you hold a humiliating sign on the street corner!”

    That can also be defining some aspect of reality as wrong, like “parents should never give a preference to one of their children over the others.” The main problem with an ideal like that is that no one really believes it. Of course we give preference, like taking one child to the emergency room even if it means waking another child up abruptly and tossing them hastily in to thecarseat. The shifting preferences are totally natural.What ends up happening is that people may “need” to operate from a conversation for shame. They go around looking for what to shame: “did you see the horrible thing that one government was doing in 1942? Did you hear about the horrible thing that Obama said about Robin Williams? Did you know that one of my new puppies peed on the floor AGAIN yesterday?”

    They may “need” to wave their grief around like a flag. They manifest a social behavior related to explorations like “who can bear my grief with me? Who can give me validation?”
    Of course grie*f (disappointment, sadness) can be repressed and then explode as a grie*vance (rage, resentment, frustration, etc). Of course grief can be admitted openly and expressed as a fear about the future (which is not so much the root of grief as an actual definition of grief).
    Why does an infant cry? For help! That is the basics of grieving. The infant is frightened or otherwise has some sense of “unmet need” (like seeking the relief of having the sponge of cold urine removed from their crotch).This is not even about humans. Once we can see the veterinary simplicity of these issues, we can avoid the common antagonisms of grieving people who invest time in arguing about “the right way that all those other people 1,000 miles away should be parenting their kids.”

    People can campaign for the latest political salvation. Often, grievances and grief is the root of their campaigning. The other popular reason for campaigning is “for-profit campaigns” like when a group hires lobbyists to get some government to give them an annual cash flow of $500,000,000,000. When “for-profit campaigners” can enlist a huge mass of “emotionally-driven” campaigners, that can dramatically improve the results of the for-profit campaign.

    “I need to feel like my life has real meaning.” Really? Not false meaning, but real meaning, right?

    That is not regression to an infantile or animal state. That is not even true at all. It is just repeating some slogan in language. It is totally a pretense.

    When people are avoiding their own grief, they “need” strategies to maintain the suppression. I personally have never felt any grief, so please understand that I am just repeating something here that I was taught in a room full of people once. Everyone clapped for me when I stood up and repeated the popular slogans.

    “We’re all in this together!” Then we all dispersed and several years later we occasionally interact on facebook.

    What really bothers me though is that other people grieve. Isn’t that just some kind of immature regression? That is why I do not even like those people. They are not how they should be. Oh, plus they saw me grieving once and I am just not that kind of a person.

 


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