Headless NLP vs the insanity of vanity
My sister [who is an LMT/Licensed Massage Therapist, former PT/Physical Therapist, and instructor of various types of massage and A/P- Anatomy and Physiology, see http://www.yourultimatemassage.com/YourUltimateMassage/aboutus.htm%5D wrote: “Your technique sounds interesting. I definitely believe in the subconscious….”
My reply, edited for public display:
Well, if you believe in things like breathing while asleep and unauthorized fingernail growth, I would say that you also believe in the subconscious! Consider the miraculous complexity of walking: yet, you just think about your body being “over there instead of here” with a certain quality of concentration and… there your body goes, and ultimately you have no idea how EXACTLY you get to where you had just thought of already being.
That is called “unconscious competence.” [in the terminology of NLP/Neuro-Linguistic Progamming] You know that you are competent in walking, but you do not know how you are able to walk so effortlessly (unlike as a toddler)- any academic knowledge of calcium ions and muscle fibers aside. In fact, you would never think about the fact that you are competent at walking without being prompted- it’s that unconscious for you. Everyday you do it- rarely conscious of even the fact that you take even a single step.
People tend to ignore all this except if they are specialized students or if they lose the ability to walk or something (as I did a few years ago, as you may recall). Ultimately, scientists can list infinite mechanical distinctions that are involved in walking, and even make a robot that can walk (so far, barely), but I personally do not know how I walk when it happens that I am already walking. I can study [the physiology] and describe it, but what we do know is that studying and describing walking are generally irrelevant to actually doing it.
It’s like this: how do I make the sound “oooo?” I have no idea how to systematically train someone to do it, but I can do it effortlessly! I can consciously teach people certain things on guitar- like how to copy a certain chord progression- but I can’t explain how I wrote a song (and people do ask this occasionally). I can describe a few things about song-writing, but I can also honestly say “well, once upon a time, that song basically just happened to me, kind of like walking or snoring.”
The reality is that attention and perception are minute portions of the entirety of consciousness. Have you heard of the neurology research that indicates that decisions are made and then, occasionally, the brain filters rationalizations that are acceptable to the conscious mind? However, I do not need to rationalize something like breathing, which is part of how I can do it so well!
Language, sure, is quite important, but again, tends to be used, well, rather unconsciously. To that extent, language IS trance.
A simple blessing can have a profound effect, and some people go around cursing themselves and each other with great frequency, even programming their neuro-linguistic physiology while watching the TV news and so on, though there are also methods for modifying sensitivity to such influences. People who doubt in their own identity have a totally different reality-filter than say, an infant- who simply has no concept of self-image- or, on the other end of the spectrum, what you might know from Abraham Maslow‘s famous “hierachy” as a self-actualized being, or whatever he calls it.
I was reading yesterday about hypnotherapeutic age regression and the initial clinical findings of “accidental disappearance” of myopia [near-sightedness]. [By the way, I know someone very well who used “natural vision correction” to remedy her myopia and has offered to give workshops on it. When I heard of this, my first reaction was “I want to do that, too!” yet the efforts I extended did not produce the results I intended.]
…Apparently, the eyes actually learn NOT to focus- and then “bury” the (“traumatic”) reasons for that in the unconscious. Note this only happens [according to some including NLP co-founder Richard Bandler] because it is SO functionally adaptive at the acute stage of some [perceived] trauma (similar to vomiting when poisoned with alcohol or passing out to interrupt a potentially fatal dosage… or feinting at the sight of blood). However, with so many other psycho-emotional issues (rather than the temporary biochemical toxicity of high dosages of alcohol), the neuro-muscular “armoring” typically remains chronic.
Untreated myopia is simply compensated for with corrective lenses. People may still have other symptoms, such as… migraine headaches, but at least they can see with glasses, which is nice- though the unconscious may then find an alternative method to produce the adaptive result that it had been accessing through some other symptom (like myopia)- depending on whether the triggering condition (“trauma”) is still active or has already been resolved/relieved/removed.
The unconscious intelligence of the body can be a dangerous thing to underestimate. I’ll mention that again in a bit in regard to people who know exactly how to lose weight but don’t, or do lose it but then gain it back soon. They are trying to control a problem rather than recognize that any “symptom” may actually be fundamentally remedial (like vomiting to reduce the toxicity of alcohol, or coughing to remove something from the airways). By the way, dis-ease technically is a reference to a state of mind. Dis-ability (like poor hearing or inability to walk or breathe) is a reference to EITHER a state of body or mind or both. From certain “spiritual” models, the body is inside the mind, not the reverse.
Apparently, back to the accidental disappearance of myopia… as of whenever the article that I was reading was written, certain organic issues like astigmatism were not considered remediable by hypnosis, but the range of things that are seemed to me freakish (and still does to an extent). Neurological inefficiency is epidemic, even moreso than the nutritional deficiencies corresponding to standard modern dietary practices which result in underdeveloped organs and jaws, and thus crowded teeth in huge majorities of the population, and so on. Like with organic issues of “macular degeneration,” nutrition would often be a probable primary issue- though NLP can trigger a revolution in one’s dietary sensitivity and discipline.
NLP presumes that (1) everything has a functional “reason” or it would not appear, and (2) knowing that “reason” (purpose) is generally irrelevant [in the context of holistic transformational healing or “generative coaching”]. Lots of people go to certain forms of weekly therapy for years or even decades without improvement or even with marked deterioration. They may be able to tell us why they are still “fucked up,” but while that may be worth $50,000 to an insurance company, I’d rather have a dramatic increase in functionality than a reason apparently worth about $50,000 to still be “fucked up.”
As to weight-loss: how many times have you heard of people who say they wish to lose weight, and they admit that they know that to lose weight, they could simply exercise more and eat healthier. However- they often don’t stick to it even when they say they will- and then if they do and- surprise- lose weight, then what often follows? Many go back to almost the exact same old weight before long.
Why? Because they are interfering with a powerful unconscious inertia in an often vain effort to control their unconscious, rather than working in partnership with it, in which case whole families of symptoms can disappear and, even without that, there can be “unexplainable” breakthroughs in functionality. Even people who think that weight-loss will make them happy and then do lose and maintain their target weight may still experience life from a state of mind of dis-ease.
For instance, I think of [someone I visited last weekend], which was… quite fascinating [as a visit]. Anyway, she lost about 50 pounds quickly which she attributes to doing yoga, and remains something of a fanatic [i.e. devoted, regular practioner]… but is she fundamentally experiencing life any differently? (I don’t know; I’m just wondering, [i.e. I have not known her long enough to have any reference for comparison] but if her unconscious mind was resolving/raising an issue by a certain method, and then that method is no longer available… sometimes the unconscious will use a more catastrophic interruption of “everyday life,” or, perhaps there will be a spontaneous resolution of any underlying unconscious issues….) For the masses of people who have no food available, the suffering of “the obese” may appear… rather appealing.
As for identifying any overnight improvement with [a particular case of “intervention” known to my sister], I do not know [what to expect]. With her [that case], I was using the reference to her particular “presenting symptom” primarily as a distraction for her conscious attention, though also an acknowledgment and a potentially valuable suggestion in itself (“…when you elevate your feet tonight, knowing that you may wake up in the morning with the spring and bounce of a 7-year old like [your grandson]” – which is much more elaborate than what I actually said). Overt medical NLP is inclusive of things from a simple blessing to an intricate visualization, but, if only symptom-specific, that may be the least valuable way to go.
“Hypnotic resolutions” of presenting symptoms are certainly interesting intellectually and often are lifelong, but research has indicated that the unconscious may simply re-assert itself through some other symptom channel, again, sometimes increasingly catastrophically. That also is why some hypnotherapists think of allopathic medicine as extremely dangerous- not just for the drug side effects and physiological trauma of surgeries, but for the insult to the unconscious, and the resulting long-term consequences which many MDs are predictably hesitant to even consider statistically… perhaps until they get desperately sick themselves.
The unconscious, by definition, “knows” more than we consciously know. Sometimes people even have fantastic results from mere placebos (inert substances). Or other times, [I am referencing NLP/hypno-therapeutic interventions that focus primarily on the unconscious, not ONLY on curing any presenting symptom] with a little prompting, the unconscious can produce results- not just in physical health either- that most people find so exceptional that they categorize them as miracles.
In my own personal experience, a belief in personal guilt (or shame/sinfulness) is the core of personal suffering AKA dis-ease. Plus, that whole eternal damnation thing sounds, you know, really quite disconcerting!
However, what if there could be an end to the persisting experience of personal suffering? I do not mean numbness, but the famous “peace beyond understanding,” or in even more explicitly religious terms: the kingdom of heaven or God.
“Some skeptical of Jesus [pharisees] asked him when the kingdom of God would come. He answered them, “The kingdom of God does not come with your careful observation, nor with signs to be observed, nor with visible display. People won’t be saying, “Look! Here it is’ or ‘There it is!’ because now the kingdom of God is within you.”
from Luke 17:20-21
“Within you,” huh? That wouldn’t have anything to do with the “unconscious mind,” would it? By the grace of God, not by the activity of one’s own (conscious) will- except perhaps a humble willingness (Matthew 18:4) to receive the Spirit called Holy- then already miracles may be happening constantly, though we may deny or even imagine that we can resist the miracle of the life which is eternal- which so-called resisting or rejecting, by the way, we might call the state of dis-ease.
For a silly example, [Sis], see if you can move the room around- just by thinking with determination about moving the room. If you can, it’s another miracle!
Someone else might say “all she did was move her head; she did not actually move the room,” which would be a valid perspective subjectively for them, but how about her own subjective perspective, and back to the original reference in this incredibly long message, HOW did she do it? She doesn’t even know HOW her body can walk, yet she can move a room toward her body effortlessly just by thinking in a certain way of already being there! She can even rotate the room, yes, just by “moving her head back and forth,” as it might be described by someone else- but to her, clearly the room appears to be moving!
Subjectively, she is always at the center of the experience of creation and she moves different parts of the world toward her body- like the hallway or the right hand turn lane or South Georgia. She is never not right here, where she can tilt her body up toward her field of vision- yes with [the mechanism of] either her eyes or her neck, but how is always a miracle.
That gets in to some of the fun and liberation mentioned in the book “face to no-face” [by Douglas Harding, see http://www.headless.org, who was apparently an early influence on someone named Werner Erhard] which [book] I recently recommended to you and mom for dad in particular. It is about experiencing life in a way that is backwards and even seems foolish (just a little crazy at least, right) from the perspective of the dis-ease trance of the world of “the tree of knowledge of good and evil,” and it’s natural correspondences of judgment, personal blame, interpersonal conflict, and so on.
To some, that other “conventional” way is simply sloppy (unconscious) language. That language does not work well; it may even be in conflict with “the way it is,” or, in religious terms again, unrepresentative of or unfaithful to the Will of God- a denial of God’s authority over ALL of God’s creation- which none of God’s creation would EVER judge against God for creating, unless that creation was experiencing a devilish vanity of insanity.
In other words, the conventional model of the world corresponds to the experience of suffering. [See “Buddhism,” “Taoism,” mysticism, ACIM etc…] It is based on an entirely forgivable mistake, as in an illusion, and when that is clear, laughter is inevitable… and the experience of life as an eternal dancing of miracle [like seriously already always right now].
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- Mini post on NLP (stevenfretter.wordpress.com)
- Recognising who we really are! (gwizlearning.wordpress.com)
- What is Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)? (lifecoachbrisbane.wordpress.com)
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