producing valuable results
Have you ever intended to do something you valued, perhaps even starting to do it, but then diverted attention to something else, neglecting to fulfill your original intention? I have found that I can easily remember that I forgot that I have been cooking something… just as soon as I smell the smoke!
Maybe there was a message or voice mail that you have been “almost returning” every day for a week? Or was it two weeks?
Identifying valued goals can be very easy. Some people have lists of goals that could fill many notebooks- and while they may love to show off their notebooks full of goals, I have never seen the goal “make a notebook full of goals and then show it off to people who aren’t expecting it, that is, before they get to know me.”
Starting projects can be so easy, too. Have you ever known someone that could start dozens of tasks day after day, but rarely finished even half of them within a week? (If not, then maybe you know someone else who has had children!)
Obviously, that kind of person that rarely finishes things by frequently diverting themself just needs an extra 48 hours every day, right? Actually, what if the core issue is simply how we prioritize and focus our activities, not how long it takes to complete any individual task or project? Is the issue how much time is in a day or just how much time we stay focused on each thing before starting something else?
(Yes, by the way, you can still burn food even if you turn the heat down- because then you know that you have more time to divert your attention with other things; though, sure, then it does take longer before you will smell the smoke of the burning food. Anyway, exactly how long did you want to wait before you get to eat the charcoal toast and the black pasta? By the way, did you say that don’t like white rice– no problem, I know exactly how to make white rice browner than the brownest brown rice!)
Of course, sometimes the results we have been producing are not especially humorous. Have you ever known about an important bill that is
due, but then done just one other thing real quick before paying that bill… then another and yet another, only to be eventually surprised with an unfavorable result as a reminder that you had been putting other things first for weeks instead of paying that important bill? Or maybe it was the time that you almost remembered to put some gas in the tank before running out, you know, for that one last quick errand that actually was not so quick after all.
However, whatever challenging pattern or attractive opportunity we might have been noticing, don’t you ever also notice that sometimes people find it easy to find a valuable method or solution that immediately provides surprisingly favorable benefits and even lasting relief? You might have even thought already of a time when it has been easy for you, as soon as you are clear that something wasn’t working well for you, to totally stop doing that something and then to find a different something that does work well. That is not just another temporary diversion, but a permanent diversion- a total interruption to what clearly has not been working well for you.
Once you stopped what wasn’t working well, next you may have even recognized a fitting solution without any effort or searching! In fact, you can probably think of at least one example of something useful that, without even planning to learn it, you easily learned.
Here’s one: did you ever plan to learn how to understand spoken words? Eventually, you noticed that you could understood more and more of the sounds that people around you were making, right? Well, did you ever plan to learn to be able to see the difference between humans and plants? Before you even knew the words “plant” or “human,” how easily could you see the difference?
I’m not just using these examples for fun. There are some people who were not born with the ability to hear or see (or both)! Some people who do not hear well do plan to make a determined effort to learn to read lips, and over time their ability to understand others can improve dramatically- if they are committed to learning to read lips.
Many people also plan to learn certain specific words that are new to them- whether in some professional training with unusual terminology or when visiting a place in which English is a foreign language. Can you think of one valuable thing that you enjoyed both learning and then using (after you had planned to learn it)?
You may have learned about the same amount of words without any planning or effort as you have learned with some degree of intent. Of course, because of effortlessly learning those first simple spoken words, you then were able to learn the “big” words specifically valuable to you in how you do what you value most- words that people without that expertise or interest might never plan to learn and then actually learn.
So, sometimes we learn something valuable without even planning it. Other times, determination, commitment, and effort are involved while we learn something valuable to us- or even frustration and complaining. In fact, sometimes complaining can be effective to produce results we value (because we would have only learned effortlessly to complain if it had worked well for us at some time).
However, what if there is a more effective way to produce the results you value instead of just complaining, such as to your parents, politicians, and so on? Would you first be willing to notice any frustration, simply recognizing the frustration as clear feedback that something isn’t working well for you now?
Next, would you be willing to make a commitment to actually experiencing a new solution? How soon are you willing to experience a solution that you would value? How would you know that you have found the particular solution that you value most? How valuable a solution are you willing to experience?
I have found that commitment can be essential to experiencing the results you value most. For instance, when I suddenly lost the ability to walk and the health professionals I consulted first did not provide the results I valued, I was committed to finding alternative methods for recovery- and I eventually experienced a recovery literally overnight, then could run again within a few days, and I have not needed a walker for 3 years now.
Also, when I was surprised by the decline of the US stock market from 2000-2002, I was suddenly committed to finding forecasting systems that were accurate (in other words, profitable). So, I learned well in advance about the emerging global credit crunch, the surge of fuel prices, and the destabilizing of the real estate lending market and prices of commodities and stocks and of course real estate. But even if I had not known about those predicted developments in advance, the difference between staying with something that does not provide the results I value and discontinuing methods that clearly are not working well… is simple commitment.
Those were two prominent examples from my life of suddenly finding easy solutions in the realms of wellness and wealth. However, it may be a continuing flow of one small improvement after another which, snowballing together, provide the most lasting long-term benefits and momentum, though it may be hard to pinpoint any particular innovation as a distinctive breakthrough. Do you care at all whether the solution that works for you is a singular breakthrough or a multitude of small improvements- as long as you experience the results you value!
Of course, if I know a solution that would work well for you, I could easily tell you. But, without commitment, would you even use it? Perhaps you have known a method that would work well for someone to produce something that they say they value, then you naturally told them, but then they did not get they results that they said they valued because they did not use the method you shared. Have you wondered why people sometimes say they value a result, then identify a method that they know works well to produce that result, then do not use it- perhaps even while they continue to say that they value the predictable results of that method?
For instance, everyone knows that one of the most obvious ways to lose weight is to exercise more, right? Of the many people who may say that they want to lose weight, how many would probably already know that exercising is a reliable method for losing weight?
All of them? However, saying “yes, I’m committed” and even buying an exercise video are quite distinct from demonstrating the commitment by actually producing the valued result. Apparently, if unwrapping the video tape just seems like too much exercise, knowing a method that works may not be enough to produce results. Of course, only setting a goal does not produce results either.
In my experience, there is only one reason that people produce consistent results that they value: focusing commitment. Further, there is only one reason that people do not produce results that they say they value and also claim to know with certainty exactly how to produce those valued results. Notice if you have ever thought of this: maybe another commitment is more valuable than the ones we think we value- or else we would already be producing what we say we value.
So, I invite you to allow me to help you develop and focus your commitment. In my experience, people do not lack commitment, but just lack focus. They have lots of sincere commitment, but just spread around in ways that do not work well for them- so focusing commitment can make all the difference. With focused commitment, you may even find a solution more valuable to you than what anyone else has ever found.
What if you always produce results exactly as valuable to you as you are willing to experience? I propose that you never know how valuable a solution you are willing to experience until you notice how much you value the results you are currently experiencing already. If you aren’t already experiencing the results you value most, perhaps focusing your commitment is the issue. By the way, when I say focusing your commitment, I mean focusing your willingness to experience what you value. Commitment is willingness to experience what you value.
I presume that the solutions we value most are always possible and may even be already available or even identified- like exercising more as a reliable method for losing weight. However, how willing are we to find and apply the solutions we say we value? For those that have the eyes to see, the ears to hear, and the hearts to be willing, what if anything could be possible?
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