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Professional victims, personal saviors, and us

June 20, 2015

Some people say that the problems started with hope. That is not quite right, though.

Some hopes get fulfilled and that is no problem at all. But when hopes start to get ignored, that can be tough. If we directly state our hopes (or otherwise display them), people can resist us or condemn us.

That is where the problems really start. It is not the hopes themselves. It is not stating the hopes (because of caution that stating them could be counter-productive). In other words, the problem is those pesky other people and how they respond to the stated hopes.

Why? Some of them may have conflicting hopes and the conflict between hopes is where the conflict begins.

Hopes (desires) which were not stated may seem to become expectations. However, more than really being expectations, they were really just hopes that I made in to excuses for withdrawal (by relating to them as if they were expectations that were not met). I made the unfulfilled hopes in to excuses for resentment.

But I never really expected those “expectations.” What is more precise is that I quietly hoped and then, when I recognized that my unstated hopes were not getting met, I withdrew in fear and shame. After all, why take the risk of stating my hopes when I could just pretend that they were expectations and then use them as excuses to resent and withdraw?

The narrative model of “victimhood” is a very popular model. I was victimized by so many people who betrayed me by failing to inquire (or to properly drag out of me) my hopes and interests. Not only did they fail by lacking sufficient enthusiasm and skill to drag my hopes out of me, but then in addition to their cruel lack of psychic ability to magically know my hopes without having to rudely ask me about them (which is very impolite and so of course I would have resisted out of loyalty to social etiquette), they not only failed to know my hopes, but failed to meet them.

In other words, they betrayed me. Note that this happened not just once and not just twice, but as many as six times. Further, keep in mind that not only did one person fail to meet my unstated needs as many as six times, but as many as four people in my life have ruined everything by their utter lack of psychic ability, willingness, resourcefulness, and overall failure to be my personal savior.

Now, I do not mean to be ungrateful. Of course I am grateful for various contributions and benefits that others have made to me.

But how can we compare such small things to the overall betrayal of my need for a personal savior? Aren’t these people wearing magic bracelets to remind them to ask “what would Jesus do?”

What Jesus would do is to be my personal savior, right? All of these other traitors have ruined my life by victimizing me with a lack of focus on my self-interests.

They are not seriously expecting me to be attentive to my own self-interests, are they? What do they think I am… some kind of adult?

Further, I did not want to bring this other detail up because it makes me furious to even mention, but some people have gone so far as to relate to me as if I have somehow betrayed them by not being psychic, devoted, and effective as their personal savior. Who the heck do these people think they are? It is like they are a bunch of hypocrites because the same thing that I wish they would do for me, they seem to wish I would do for them.

I do not mean you of course, but those other humans on this planet are victimizing me twofold: first, by failing utterly to be my personal savior and second by having the audacity to accuse me of failing them as their personal savior. I do not have to tell you that my life was perfect until all of them made it in to hell. However,  even though I do not have to tell you that, I will tell you that over and over and over.

For instance, just the other day, I met someone for the first time that I did not already know. (Basically, that is how it was the first time I met them).

Anyway, I was about to ask them a casual question when I realized “this person is probably not going to be my personal savior either, so why bother even talking to them?” Naturally, I just turned away from them and walked off.

Then I came to type this very important message to you. What you will want to know is that I was programmed to assert that people should respect one another, so that is why I compulsively insist that I respect others, while also expecting others to always respect me (and then withdrawing in pre-emptive resentment if I fear that in the future they might not respect me in the particular way that I imagine that a personal savior should do). In particular, I respect that other people are not as respectful as they should be. I respect that they are not as psychic as they should be. I respect that my hopes and expectations about them may not be a perfect match with the actual behaviors that they manifest at any particular time.

Why do I want you to know these things about me? Because I want you to admire me and adore me and give me standing ovations like when I was a toddler and I walked all the way from the couch to the table.

I am hilarious and so you should give me approval and encouragement. In other words, give me money.

I am not talking about a little birthday check either. I am talking about something along the lines of a wedding reception party. As for the live music, you should know that I like The Eagles, but I love The Beatles.

Don’t give me some nonsense about how some of them are dead either. Julian Lennon sounds a lot like his dad, right?

We can work it out, by which I mean you. I know you have a lot to do, so now I will stop delaying you from planning my big party. Also, if you can just go ahead and line up The Eagles as the opening act for The Beatles, that would be really, really great.

Quitting the competition for “most victimized victim”

February 19, 2015

In certain cultures (or with some patterns of using language), there is basically a holy trinity of three roles. The key role is the savior.

What makes the savior a savior? The savior saves the victim from the villain. (Those are the three primary roles: savior, villain, and victim.)

What is the most common role for people in general to act out? Of course almost no one goes around saying that they are a villain, right?

Further, most people also know that they are not really a savior (and they are spoon-fed suggestions of exactly whom to identify as the archetypical savior, such as a historical personage or a current political candidate or “the government” in general). Who will save us from the latest crisis? If the government is the “go-to answer” for someone, then they are relating to the government as a savior (or at least as a prospective savior, like they “should” fill the role of being our savior).

Here’s some shocking news: sometimes governments do save people from specific dangers (such as a forest fire). However, no single government deserves a monopoly on being savior. By many observers, governments are “cast” in a variety of roles, yes, including the role of savior, but not just that one. For instance, one government can also be labeled as the victim of another government which is labeled the villain or enemy.

So, what happens when a “savior” does not fulfill their role (according to some critic)? Labels for the government may shift toward the label of villain. When reconsidering which role a particular government is playing, people may ask did that government “turn” on “we the victims?” DId the entire government betray us… or was it just a small group of “mega-villain” politicians, such as infiltrators that quietly invaded our savior government from some other villain government?


Notice that the same archetypes of savior, victim, and villain show up in comic books, mythology, pro wrestling, political news, and many other stories or narratives. These are very basic archetypes and any idea that these archetypes should not be widely used is actually a remarkably ignorant idea. These archetypes work. They trigger powerful emotions.

Why would someone arrogantly say that these archetypes should not be prominent? Because they are presenting themselves as “the savior of everything” and the next crisis that they will pick to show how they can rescue the world is… yes, the frequent use of three very common archetypes in language!

Of course, some people will compete over who will be the great savior of the world. They will argue over which crisis is the most pressing. Or, they will argue about which crisis is most pressing not in order to present themselves as savior, but as victim. They will also have their latest savior chosen and perhaps even displayed on their bumper stickers or t-shirts.

The most popular role for the average person is not savior and definitely not villain. So, what is left? If I definitely do not want to be villain and I would rather that someone else besides me (such as “the government”) play the role of savior, then what is left?

The most popular role for people to play is victim. However, not only do many people play victim frequently, but with great sincerity.

And that is the source of a problem that is truly tragic, at least in the theatrical sense. How do all of these people who are all struggling to avoid being cast in the roles of villain or savior interact with the other people who are “playing the victim?”

Well, obviously it is a competition, right? People compete over which crisis or victimization is the worst. They argue over which villains are the most terrifying. They argue over which saviors are the most capable. They may argue intensely over which victim is the most deserving of salvation.

They do all tend to agree that the most victimized one of all is whoever is talking. However, they all keep talking at the same time. They shout “you should not have said that to me!”

In their hysterical panic of competing for the greatest victim of all, they may end up vilifying each other. “Look, you don’t even recognize that I am the mega-victim here!?!?! By not enthusiastically validating my declaration of extreme victimhood, you are victimizing me! To add to all of the other crimes against me, which were the worst ever and far more extreme than the victimization suffered by anyone ever (such as a public ritual of human sacrifice by crucifiction), there is the added atrocity of failing to enthusiastically scream agreement that I am by far the worst victim ever.”

Some movie critics watching may ask… “does that actor really know that their performance is one of the worst victims that I have ever seen? Their tantrums yes are sincere, but it’s just not realistic. Regular people do not whine like that, do they? I mean… I certainly do not!”

So, some people compete for worst victim in human history. Others compete for best victim in a mini-series. Others compete to have their picture printed in the yearbook next to the words “most likely to be victimized in the future.”

Why all the competition? Well, playing victim obviously is a great way to test other people for their response. Will they respond defensively with “hey, look, I did not victimize you?” Will they respond with passive agression and say “I only did what I did because you were victimizing me?”

Further, there is an obvious underlying issue. People do victimize each other on occasion. At least, people take actions that are later labeled as “what should not have happened.”

If two little kids are caught “playing doctor” with too much enthusiasm and adult content, isn’t it predictable that one of them might say “you should not punish me… because I was a victim here!”

Or, if there is an actual incident of bullying, what if the one bullied does not want to admit their fear? What if they want to pretend they were not victimized?

In that case, then an old case of victimzation can get suppressed. The young victim is so terrified that they do not ask for help.

Then, in later years, they respond to a variety of interactions as if they were being victimized. Why? They are playing the victim to access those old experiences and release the old tensions. The tensions were useful to block the display (physically) of the emotions associated with being victimized.

All of these people competing for “biggest victim” have been victimized… but maybe just not lately.

How many people have ever been attacked by scurvy? Scurvy is a label for a medical condition and labels in language do not attack anyone.

But how many people have been attacked by cancer? Cancer is also a medical label for specific effects and labels for effects do not attack anyone.

How many people have been attacked by poverty? Poverty is a label for an outcome. Labels do not attack anyone.

However, people may be programmed to speak about a variety of labels as if the labels are victimizing them. People say things like “my cancer is killing me.” Whose cancer?

As for me, my scurvy and my baldness are competing for who will kill me first. The baldness has removed a bit of hair from a few spots on my head so far, which apparently is not fatal. So, the scurvy is way ahead at this point.

Keep in mind that the only reason that I experience the effect labeled baldness is that I have been attacked by the label “baldness.” I went to a hairstylist once who apparently thought she was qualified to diagnose me and she said “your head has been attacked by baldness.”

I told her “that is ridiculous. Baldness did not attack my head. My head is fine. Baldness only attacked my hair, causing my hair to go bald.”

She replied, “well you have some very bald hair missing from your head in a few spots. You should probably see a diagnostic specialist to find out which kinds of baldness has attacked, such as a receding hairline or just baldness that is a side effect of head-shaving.”

Anyway, as I was saying, she gave me a haircut so bad that I attacked it with a trimmer. But the reason that I brought this up in the first place was because when I was very young, I was severely attacked by baldness. The emotional damage was extensive. As a newborn, I had even less hair than I do now.

I need to vent now because in my youth I had so little social power that I was repeatedly victimized, deceived, betrayed, and also quite naive. Why did I have to be so naive when I was young? It’s just not fair. It’s like I was victimized by naivete.

It sure is a good thing that now I am saved from naivete. I pay attention to my own words so now I am magically free of every possible kind of naivete. Just to be clear, if you do not agree with me on this issue with sufficent enthusiasm, I will label you as a negative person and withdraw from you as much as possible.

I mean, how could you betray me by paying more attention to how I use words than I do? It’s just not right, right?

To heroes who save victims from villains

October 9, 2013
‪Norsk (bokmål)‬: Sir Galahad, detalj fra et...

‪Norsk (bokmål)‬: Sir Galahad, detalj fra et maleri av George Frederic Watts (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


The hero wants to know how things really should be
according to the victim, who says what should not be
and who names a villain as the hero’s enemy
because that villain said “it’s all how I planned it exactly”


Who spreads paranoia, panic and rebellion
first by training victims what to reject and oppose
then by leaking rumors of scandals and controversy
to incite revolt by fools who want to be heroes?


Who says, “That’s the only way to earn heaven?”
The victim says, “Yes, which hero will be my savior?”
The hero says, “Of course, I will devote my life to this!”
And so two groups of heroes fight in another holy war.

Hero of the Russian Federation Babu Mikhailov

Hero of the Russian Federation Babu Mikhailov (Photo credit: Wikipedia)




Each group of heroes calls the other group “the villains”
and both fight for what’s right and in honor of the victims.
They all sound so much alike, parrots talking to their echoes.
The so-called victim says “it’s all how I planned it exactly.,,,


And once the heroes are all dead, we will build them some memorials.”


„Hofburg” imperial.court.castle ... „Heldenpla...

„Hofburg” imperial.court.castle … „Heldenplatz” heroes’.square … „Heldentor” heroes’.gateway ►VIENNA’s IMPERIAL RESIDENCE was once the epicentre of European Inter-Monarchists◄ (Photo credit: quapan)



Giuseppe Garibaldi as a symbol of Risorgimento

Giuseppe Garibaldi as a symbol of Risorgimento (Photo credit: Wikipedia)



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Part 3: Creating a victim (and a savior)

March 4, 2013
The title page to the 1611 first edition of th...

The title page to the 1611 first edition of the Authorized Version Bible. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

1 noticing the activity of language

2 noticing that language is not perception

3 the linguistic ritual of creating a victim (and a savior)

4 creating a path from hell to heaven


So, language can form characters like in a story. One character could be the hero (who rescues the victim) and then another character could be the victim (who is victimized by the villain) and then of course some character must be the villain.

The 1972 Santa photo

The 1972 Santa photo (Photo credit: epicharmus)

Santa could be the savior or hero. The Grinch could be the villain.

Is that still clear? Does that still make sense?

Next, who would be the victim? If you are not Santa and you are not the Grinch, then who else is there for you to be, at least within the focus of that story (in the context of that story or during that ritual of the directing of noticing and perceiving through the method of symbolic language)?

English: Norfolk, Va. (Nov. 27, 2006) - Santa ...

English: Norfolk, Va. (Nov. 27, 2006) – Santa Claus welcomes children of military service members during Operation Christmas at the Army National Guard Armory. Operation Homefront, a member of America Supports You, organized the event. During the event more than 200 children had the opportunity to meet Santa Claus and receive a Christmas gift from him. U.S. Navy photo by Mass Communication Specialist Seaman Vincent J. Street (RELEASED) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Notice that the formation of a story around a villain and a victim and a hero is just one ritual usage of language. There are many rituals like the ritual of taking kids to sit on Santa’s lap and declare what presents they want this holiday season, or the ritual of putting presents under a tree, or the ritual of talking about heroes that rescue victims from villains. Those are all just rituals- nothing more or less.

The big man himself brings up the rear at the ...

The big man himself brings up the rear at the 2009 Santa Claus Parade, Toronto. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

They are not HOLY, even if they are considered sacred within a particular culture. They are just rituals and rituals are not holy. Only God is holy.

CNN Tag line: Best Looking News

CNN Tag line: Best Looking News (Photo credit: Hugger Industries)

So, beware of those who indoctrinate you with stories of how you are victimized and, because of that, you need them to rescue you. Respect them. Notice the effectiveness of their methods and beware of vilifying those who vilify, for that is an ironic hypocrisy, a terrified panic of animosity and contempt and condemnation, an optional pattern in language that can be used to relate to others from the context of you being the hero who must save the world from the evil vilifiers that you vilify for their crime of vile, evil, vilifying.

Presidential Debate

Presidential Debate (Photo credit: SimonQ錫濛譙)

That is still operating from the same “holy trinity” (sacred trinity?) of savior, victim, and villain. Notice that entirely valid (but totally optional) trinitarian context for relating to life.


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the wisdom of “Do something else”

March 23, 2012

“If my experience is that something is not working, do something else.”

originally titled: adapting to experiencing someone’s attention as being “unavailable”

First, consider how much of a priority it is for me to have that person’s attention be however available- like if life is giving me the feedback that “this one’s attention may not be very available for that,” so what?

Second, relax my attention from them in particular. Or maybe that comes first. Whatever.

Next, consider what could be a priority that IS available? Note: when I experience something as seeming “available” – as in accessible or practically relevant – that may be… practically relevant!


attention (Photo credit: gordonr)

Now, with attention to what seems available (as in seems practically relevant), does any particular possibility “stand out” as an obvious focus for my time and attention? Here is an example.

Let’s imagine that I happen to have a certain job. Within that job, there are certain things that I value, such as the paycheck and producing commissions that show up on the next paycheck. There are certain things that are very much within my direct influence, though other people may have some influence as well, of course.

So, I could focus on various propsective clients- like which ones do I make a priority for my attention and why? I could focus on adhering to various guidelines (or take actions to develop new ones and explore altering old ones).

Of course, I may encounter resistance, like from another person. I may encounter any variety of boundaries– money, schedule, cell phone reception issues, objections, etc….

For instance, If I am consistently re-prioritizing what to do, then that mode of operation expects to encounter boundaries sometimes. Patterns will eventually change. Boundaries will change. If I do not ever explore the boundaries, I may miss that old boundaries may no be longer binding- or I may miss that certain boundaries are more restrictive than I previously experienced.

So, one thing to do is to create a game. My experience of existing boundaries is simply part of the rules of the game as I define them. I define my experience of the boundaries and the context in which I frame them.

With regard to a paycheck, an obvious game is to (1) keep them coming and (2) maintain or even increase the amount of the pay. However, I might also choose to revise the game in terms of changing the amount of hours that I commit to the job. I could alter my schedule, increase my schedule, or reduce my schedule.

Let’s move on to relationships. If the priority of my game is for personal well-being or for fun or for family, those are all distinct contexts.

A focus on personal well-being asks “what’s in it for me?” By the way, if there is an immediate perceived threat to personal well-being, the importance of personal well-being may be suddenly clear.

A focus on fun asks things like “is this something that I would begin doing if I hadn’t already been doing it already?” A context of fun tends to presume that personal well-being issues are already satisfied and stable. In other words, people may not focus on fun when a waterline freezes or a tree penetrates the roof and the flood waters begin to approach the height of the power outlets.

So, fun is about doing something more or doing something less- or perhaps even interrupting it. While personal well-being is essential, fun is merely favorable.

A focus on family is also distinct from either of the above. Family priorities may involve the sacrificing not only of fun, but also of personal well-being.

One can identify family as a partnership of two specific people or even a large network of loose relationships, typically involving biological similarity. People who join together in business networks which they can simply transfer by selling stock shares are not likely to intentionally sacrifice personally for the benefit of the company.

On that note, it may be surprising how much that people expect large bureaucracies (such as governments, insurance corporations, and even large church organizations) to reliably support them as individuals (and operators of business). People often complain when organizations change their internal boundaries (by making a new criminal law or shutting down one of their facilities or merging with another operation and incorporating unfamiliar rules).

So, imagine that the global economy is shifting in some noticable way. Is this the first time that a noticeable economic shift has ever happened?

One can dismiss the noticable changes (perhaps as hopefully temporary) and instead keep favoring one’s old perspective on priorities and keep investing in familiar methods. That tends to produce unfavorable results which further tend to open people to re-prioritizing (to humble them or humiliate them).

Or, perhaps the seasonal climate is shifting in some noticable way. Is this the first time that a noticable climatic shift has ever happened?

Now, what if someone’s attention is shifting in some noticable way? Is this the first time that a noticable attention shift has ever happened?

When someone’s attention is noticably shifting, I might be open to being that someone and allowing my attention to shift, to re-prioritize. When life gives feedback for re-prioritizing, my willingness to receive that feedback and my capacity to adapt to it may produce noticable shifts in my experienced results.

My experience of personal well-being may be the result of my responsiveness to life’s feedback. My experience of fun and family may also be the result of my adaptiveness to life’s feedback. My relationship to my own experienced results is my relationship to life’s feedback. What else would be life’s feedback except for my own experienced results?

How willing I am to adapt to my own experienced results could make a difference for my future. If I am willing, then even a boundary as to my current capacity to adapt simply is experienced as an opportunity to learn and to collaborate with others who might have competence in some particularly relevant form of adaptiveness. My experience of my future may be a function of my willingness to adapt to my own experienced results, that is, my experience of responsibility for my own results as personal or “systemic.”

Am I willing to define myself as “a victim of the system?” Imagine that there might be a systematic program to present people with an identity as “the responsibility of the system.” I may be taught that I am the ward of the state, or the ward of the insurance company, or the ward of a particular church or business or even individual person, such as a parent as legal guardian for a minor child.

Of course, as a child presumed to be legally incompetent, such definitions might be quite accurate. So, is it all odd that there might be systematic programming to present people with an identity as “the responsibility of the system?” Consider that it would be odd if there were not such a programming.

So, we may have all been programmed as children that other particular people and groups are responsible for us. However, as adults, we may recognize that identifying one’s self as “a victim of the system” (or even a victim of any particular other person) may not be in the best interest of one’s own personal well-being. Some other identifying might produce favorable feedback from life as in favorably experienced results. Of course, “victim of the climate” or “victim of the global economy” or “victim of my children” are all possible identifyings in language. All identifying is adaptive, just not for any particular amount of time.

Consider that life’s feedback on my self-identifying is valuable. Further, consider that both nurturing and victimization are valuable. A government or church or private corporation or individual may provide me with some valuable attention and support, then stop doing so. The organization or person may cease to function. Or, life may give me the feedback of exposing me to the question of “what if you can do it yourself?”

Personal responsibility is not for everyone. In fact, huge numbers of people may functionally reject personal responsibility by maintaining the self-identifying of “victim.” With certain feedback from life, the adaptiveness of such self-identifying may eventually be noticed as only temporary.

Sometimes, personally experienced results may produce a new willingness to explore the language of one’s own self-defining, self-identifying, self-binding. Whose boundaries are my boundaries? When I speak of the boundaries of my own shifting attention, do I speak of those boundaries as my own, or as boundaries that a cruel and unusual life has imposed on me unjustifiably and maliciously? Do I speak of my own experienced results as life’s feedback (as in guidance or support) or as injustices and victimizations and complaints and someone else’s responsibility?

My relationship to life is my self-identifying. Does life victimize me (as life’s victim) or does life support and guide me (as life’s beneficiary)? How willing am I to be responsible for my own self-identifying? How willing am I to be responsible for my own experienced results?


Published on: Jul 2, 2011


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is there life after hell, shaming, blaming, vilifying, whining, & complaining

March 2, 2012
Don't Blame Us

Don’t Blame Us (Photo credit: redwolfoz)

On “Life After Hell

Hell, as I use the term, is the experience of guilt, or, more specifically, blame. Blaming is the origin of victimhood (isolating and identifying myself as a victim of someone or something).

To stop living in hell as a victim, stop blaming. Stop blaming everyone, including yourself.

Here’s how. First, before you stop making your life hell, get exactly how we pretend to make life hell- not just for other people, but also for ourselves. What we give, we experience.

Whenever we believe that the past should not have been a certain way, and then focus on how the past actually may have been how it should not have been, that is hell. Whenever I believe that I should not have had a certain past, and then focus on how I may have actually had a certain past that I should not have had, that is shame. Shame makes life hell.

Again, hell only exists for me when I have shame. I only have shame when I believe that my past should not be how it may have been. That is, if I believed that my past may have been how it should not have been, only then would it be possible to pretend that life is hell (and thus blame someone or something for possibly making life into how it should not be).

So, only when I was focusing on a certain past that I believe that I should not have had, but yet may have actually had, then from my shame, I may have blamed someone or something. I may even blame myself. If I focus on how I believe someone or something to be a shame, that particular shame may reflect a shame that I believe to apply to me, even if my conscious egoic mind can only handle in a given moment a second-hand experience of that shame rather than the original event in my past that I may have defined at some point as something that should not have been. All of that is hell AKA rejecting what actually may be as what should not be AKA guilt projected as blame for making life be how it shouldn’t be AKA unconscious shame AKA denial.

Fortunately, I have some good news. There is life after hell, and indeed it may be here now.

Here is how to “escape” from hell (which may not actually exist at all). Yes, stop blaming (pretending to create hell). Also, live as inspiration.

Hell only exists in the realm of belief. Focus on a belief of what should not be- rather than on what is- and that experience is hell. In the realm of inspiration, heaven is always now and is here everywhere.

Hell is pretending that heaven does not exist here now. If you have been pretending that this is not heaven, you may wish to stop, if not yet, then as soon as possible now. If you may have been pretending that anyone- you or anyone else- may have ever been how they should not have been, I hereby accuse you of being human.

However, consider that I could be wrong. (More on that later.)

Here is an instruction which has been repeated in various forms by many prophets:

However you wish others would be, be yourself. Further, whatever you notice may have been missing, cause it. When I notice that I wish another would have been a certain way (which they may not have been), next I may be grateful for noticing, and then I may be so curious how I could be that certain way myself that finally I pray that I am noticing one specific action that I am inspired to do right now.

By the way, go ahead. The rest of the email can wait. If you are inspired right now to confess your blame of someone directly to him or her or them- or to promote any particular possible outcome by some specific action you are inspired to do now, continue reading this after you proceed to do as inspired, but only if you are ever inspired to continue reading this.

To be inspired, be grateful and curious, then pray for inspiration. We could not live as inspiration while we were pretending that life was hell. Life was never how it should not be. Life is always exactly how it is.

The belief that God made a mistake- even maybe just that one time- is sin. Life is exactly how it should be, unless you believe that you are living in a hell created by God to punish you for how your past should not have been. Stop blaming God for making your life hell. Consider that you basically may have done it yourself, which, ironically, may be exactly what you should have done.

Make your life hell. Go ahead. You may be very good at it by now, right?

Whenever you are done with making life hell for someone- which is always your life, by the way- heaven will be waiting for you to forgive God for what God should not have done, until you stop waiting for God to take you to heaven. You may have heard that God created heaven and earth, right? So, who created hell?

What if hell never existed. We just may have pretended that it did.

If I have been upset by something, I may confess my blame (ideally, confessing directly to a group or person who represents to me a

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target for my own blame- and being specific). Any blame that I ever experience is mine.

Rememeber, God does not blame us. God does not create sin. God creates us in God’s own image. If I blame God, that is not about God, but about me. If I blame me, that is about who I may have pretended to be, not the one that God created me to be. Whenever I pretend that I am not who God created me to be, I may blame others for not being who God created them to be. I may blame them for sinning, for being how they should not be. Ironically, that is hell.

God did not create sin or sinners. God created God’s own images. When I was pretending that I was not God’s own image, I created other people in the false self-image that fit my own false self-image of a sinner. I noticed in other people some way of being that I believed they should not be, identifying them with some shame that my ego had buried in my past. By the way, when I identify someone or something as expressing some way of being- when I focus on it with my attention– I identify myself with that.way of being. I may believe that I am focusing on that other someone or something, but what if I was really just focusing on that way of being, just producing an experience of that way of being and using that someone or something as a tool for producing that experience?

In hell, people blame each other for making life hell. If I believed that I was in hell, I may have blamed other people for being responsible for my experience of life as what should not be. However, life was never what should not be. I was never the one who was pretending that life is hell. That was actually a false self-image, or at least it works for me identify myself with God rather than with how life should not have been, by which I mean how my life should not have been, by which I mean that I should not have been. When I focus on any quyality of life, that focusing is my life: me!

Whenever anyone experiences life, that is their experience, so that is their life. Their life is them.

Hell is the belief that I am an ego that should not be. Most simply, hell is the belief that I should not be.

Try this as an experiment. Say to yourself “I should not be here.” Repeat it… a lot. Try it throughout the day, until you choose to stop. Then, consider now whether the experience of “I should not be here” is equivalent with “this is hell!” Listen for yourself saying “this is hell” and notice if you can substitute “I should not be here.” Then, if you are courageous, go all Byron Katie on life and turn “I should not be here” around to this: “Actually, I should be here. This is EXACTLY where I should be, who I should be, when I should be, how I should be. Here I am!”

The imagination of God is the experience of “I am,” of being, of presence of mind. The image of God is the presence of God is the kingdom of God.

God is always. The ego may have pretended to be. So what?

If my ego has been upset by something, the ego may confess it’s own blame (ideally, confessing directly to a group or person who represents to my ego a target for my ego’s own blame- and being specific). Any blame that my ego ever experiences is my ego’s. My ego is my ego as long as I say so. I pretend that I am not God’s image as long as I say so.

If I (as my ego) was afraid, I am grateful for recognizing an opportunity to promote safety and security.

If I (as my ego) was sad, I am grateful for recognizing an opportunity to promote togetherness and curiosity and joy.

If I (as my ego) was angry, I am grateful for recognizing an opportunity to promote compassion and gratitude.

God is grateful. God is curious. God lives as inspiration. God forgives all blame that any ego may have ever pretended should not be.

When God’s image stops pretending that hell ever could have been, God’s image may say something like this: as you do unto them, so you have just done unto me. God’s image may even say to love everyone as if you were them- love them as yourself.

But what about people who call us their enemy, asks the ego? Well, in that case, says one self-image of God, love everyone as if each of us is one of God’s only image. Further, forgive God not just seven times, but seventy times seven times- as long as it takes to stop pretending that you or I could ever be an ungodly being in a hell that obviously should not be.

Go ahead, God: be here now. Heaven, I stop pretending to have been waiting for you. I accept you just as you are, God. I proclaim that Heaven exists- not eventually, not possibly, not “someday maybe” … if only she or he or they will just be more like how they should be.

I stop pretending that other people are God instead of me such that they could have the power to make me into a victim and my life into hell. Only I could pretend to make heaven into hell so well that I actually believed it for as long as I did, though now I know who I am.

Yes, I may have pretended to be a victim. So what?

God’s Kingdom, come. God’s will IS done.

On earth, what happens is God’s will, just as God’s will in heaven is whatever happens in heaven. The two are identical. I stop  pretending to isolate them into a good one and an evil one.

By the way, I pray with gratitude that God gives us today every thing we need today. I also claim with certain faith that God forgives
whatever shame of “that should not have ever happened” that I may have believed to be real, just as I forgive- like in that very moment now- those who may have sinned against me, even thanking them for reminding me of a treasure that I may have buried under a belief in shame.

What treasure could that be? There is no cup large enough to contain all of the blessings in heaven which God has stored for me, keeping the treasures safe through the very mechanism of my belief in hell. Those who did not believe in heaven, but believed that God judged them eternally guilty for doing what they should not have done and being how they should not have been- wouldn’t it be predictable that they might have devotedly trained us that we should not openly experience ourselves as God’s image- at least not just yet? How can we forgive them for pretending that life is ungodly, that we could have ever been ungodly, that anyone could have ever been anything but God’s image? Or, turning around the other cheek: how can we not forgive God’s image for pretending that life should not be how it may have been, pretending that they should not even here here… at least certainly not like this, pretending that God must have made a mistake, pretending to be unholy- given that we have been doing what… the exact same thing?

Of course we may have learned that way of being from others! We may have taught it as well. Haven’t you ever treated someone as if they should not have been how they may have been? Who hasn’t!

Let the one among us without guilt cast the first blame. Hey, where is everyone going? Was it something I said?

I forgive all the churches and all the congregants for perhaps slightly misrepresenting a few of the sayings of a few of the wise teachers in the rich history of human spirituality. In fact, I confess that my ego may have been confused and could have only blamed them in error.

I hereby proclaim all of them, all of us, including me personally and you personally… to be exactly who we are. I proclaim my past to be redeemed from “it should not have been like that” to “God’s will is present in all of the past, all of the present, and all of the future.” I redeem my past and in so doing life itself- including you and I- is redeemed. The Will of God (orthe Way of the Tao, etc etc etc) is however life actually is. When however life actually is… is just one way how life actually may be, then anything is possible through the holy spirit of God’s Creation.

When I blamed you (when I blamed the image that I had made from my own past into my image of you), you were reminding me that I may have forgotten that I am God’s creation and so are you, Thank you so much! I’m sorry. Please forgive my confusion. I love you.

I redeem you and I both to be holographic bubbles reflecting only God’s Holy Creation. In other words, I stop arguing that my life must be a mistake made by an incompetent God.

What a relief! There is life after hell, at least to the extent that hell may or may not have ever eixsted!

If this is good news to you, go and spread the message of God’s spell of inspiration across your entire life now and forever. By the way, if you ever notice yourself worrying about whether to do it or when to do it or how to do it, consider stopping at least for long enough to laugh at yourself.

However you wish life would be, be yourself. To be inspired, be grateful and curious, then pray for the inspiration to intuitively come to your attention as to what to do next as soon as possible right now.

Stop trying to make life eventually become less hellish. Instead, spread heaven. Go forth and multiply the experience of however you choose to focus.

The Creative Presence of God is among you within. When you stop pretending otherwise, you may notice God’s laughter pouring through your body like a comedian trying very sincerely to keep a straight face, then suddenly failing completely to deny themselves the experience of a heavenly joy.

God may be blessing you right now. If God could be blessing you right now and you may have even just accepted the possibility that this could be heaven already, how do you choose to handle this opportunity?

Published Aug 12, 2009

posted 3/1/2012

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