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Inspiration, idealism, frustration, and maturity

November 12, 2013



Inspiration is innate. We do not need to learn it. However, we can be trained to focus away from what inspires us. We may be distracted.

We may notice that all around us are powerful social influences. Certain people and groups have guided our attention and our behavior.

In our families, schools, and churches, we may be trained in various forms of idealism. Idealism means a specific model or pattern of how to relate.

Idealism organizes what we expect, what we respect, what we reject, what we value, and how exactly we respond to whatever we first notice and then value. So, we have all been exposed to these programs. The programs organize our lives, governing our experience. They systematically direct our values and our interpretations. They govern what we display, including what we may pretend to be.

The importance of idealism

Why is all of this important? Idealism can lead to us repressing some experiences and even rejecting them completely. We may numb ourselves to huge ranges of our own experience. What if instead we were suddenly respectful of all of our experiences?

Note that idealism has already trained us in what to respect as well as in what not to respect (or even to disrespect or reject). We respect certain things more than others. For instance, which do you respect more: the current laws where you live now or the laws that used to be dominant a few thousand years ago in a location far away from you? Do you give more respect to your native language or to a language which is foreign to you and totally incomprehensible?

Idiota identificate idioma idiotica.” (To the one who is ignorant, everything unfamiliar will be labeled nonsense. What a fool in the dark does not perceive or comprehend, they may even claim cannot exist. They close their eyes to relax, to cope with their fear of the dark and what horrors may be in it.)

A new respect

So, here are two realms that we could respect now (which we may not have been respecting already). First, we could respect the systems which have influenced our experiences. Second, we could respect all of our own experiences which we have been rejecting (perhaps even some experiences that we have been rejecting so completely that we might be totally ignorant of them).

Once we recognize that there are systems that have been influencing us, we could respect the various systems which have influenced our experiences. We can begin to notice the extent of their influence.

Have you ever noticed people investing huge amounts of time and energy in to ferociously competing with each other over which idealism is ideal, glorifying one ideal and condemning all the rest? It can be exhausting just to witness.

What if we respect all systematic programming of idealism as fundamentally similar? What if we respect the programming of a variety of ideals? The diversity of conflicting idealisms can lead to masses of people polarizing in to opposing concentrations of fanaticism. These opposing factions of idealism may erupt in to animosity, rivalries, feuds, and wars.

Respecting condemnation

All of those behaviors correspond to the experience of feeling threatened, as in insecure, as in afraid. Of all experiences that are systematically repressed and condemned, the condemnation of fear may be the most common.

Of course, condemning itself is a frightened behavior. The condemning of condemnation is the logical extreme of irony (and hypocrisy).

English: Managing emotions - Identifying feelings

English: Managing emotions – Identifying feelings (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Respecting the full range of emotions

We can categorize human emotions in to two basic groups: emotions of attraction and of repulsion. Further, we can consider a spectrum of inward and outward variations, like emotions of withdrawing or retreating as distinct from combative emotions of aggressively repelling. These “fight or flight” responses are both frightened reactions.

Among the emotions of attraction, there are receptive or inviting emotions like gratitude, delight, and enthusiasm, but also more assertive or aggressive emotions of attraction like inspiration, lust and greed. Some emotions are considered more masculine or more feminine, as well as more encouraged or discouraged.

English: Robert Plutchik's Wheel of Emotions

English: Robert Plutchik’s Wheel of Emotions (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Respecting frustration

Notice that frustration is one of the most conflicted of emotions. There is an interest in a possible outcome, then a sense that the possibility has been frustrated. A particular method had been identified in the hope of fulfilling the interest. However, after investing energy in to that method, the results have not been fulfilling but disappointing.

There is an interest, a hope in a method, an investment in to that method, and then a disappointment. But there is more to frustration.

Frustration is not mere disappointment. In the case of mere disappointment, there may still be a sense of calm and curiosity. If the initial interest is still a priority, then the curiosity will result in the exploring of other methods besides the method that was disappointing.

Frustration implies not only disappointment, but fear. There is a fear of failure present- a recognition that the interest might not be fulfilled. However, even with the disappointment and fear, there is also a distress. That distress is the conflict of being afraid and disappointed, but also being afraid to admit being afraid and disappointed.

When someone is frustrated, they may say things like “I wish this was working, but it clearly is not, and yet it really SHOULD!?!?” There is an element of confusion in frustration that is not present in disappointment.

Respecting confusion

What could be the source of the confusion that frustrates us? Could we be confused because of respecting an ideal which we have been trained to value and defend, but which is clearly inconsistent with our own direct experience?

Idiota identificator omniscient, humiliati!” (The one who is ignorant and claims to know everything, they will be humbled.)

It can be stressful to pretend that an ideal is realistic when here is extensive evidence contradicting a particular presumption or ideal. Such a pretense can lead to intense frustration.

“How do I advance my own interest without discarding an old model which I do not want to admit might be obsolete? I could keep trying what is obviously not working! I could complain loudly and hope that someone cares enough to come and rescue me from my confusion and distress. I could have a tantrum of frustration!”

Respecting tantrums

“I should NOT be frustrated! It is not that my ideals are idealistic. My ideals are self-evident, which is why I desperately avoid reviewing the original logical process which led to the forming of my sacred, self-evident ideals.”

“So, I will viciously ridicule or even physically attack anyone who questions my ideals. I will blame them for my frustration. I will have a tantrum, and then another, and then finally some more tantrums, all along blaming other people for annoying me with their attention and their unfamiliar perspectives, which they should have kept to themselves, especially if I directly asked them to share. They deserve to be the targets of my abusive tantrums of self-righteous, justified frustration.”

“By the way, I am NOT frustrated. I am not in distress. I am not in hell. I’m a very happy person! I was always totally happy until THOSE people came along and frustrated ME by witnessing the disappointment that I desperately am afraid of admitting is present.”

“Things should not be how they are. Things should fit my sacred idealism. I do not feel guilty for questioning my ideals because they are self-evident and I do not doubt them at all. In fact, I resent anyone who suggests that I might have ideals clouding my perception.”

“My ideals are the very best ideals in the history of idealism. I might admit that everyone else says the same thing, too, but they only say that because all of them are naively sincere, while I am clearly heroic in my loyalty to my ideals which are definitely not obsolete now because they never will be. My ideals are eternal. Everyone else’s ideals (unless they agree with mine, of course) are temporary and passing and idealistic. My ideals are the best. That is why I am always so happy and never ever frustrated, you know, like all of those other people who are so negative that they condemn contempt and so on. Don’t you just hate people like that? They are just SO dramatic, right? Plus, they could really use some more sincerity. By the way, naïvely sincere loyalty is in no way connected to frustration. So, in conclusion, because I do not deserve to be frustrated and because I should not ever be frustrated, therefore I am not now and never have been. Seriously, do NOT question me on this!”

Respecting terrified ill will

There are many social institutions designed to measure the spectrum of mental health or mental illness in a governed population. Those who demonstrate certain remarkable behaviors are likely to be identified and regulated (such as medicating them to subdue them or immobilize them).

I consider many emotions to be behaviors. Agonizing is an activity. Frustration also requires activity to escalate the original disappointment in to a full-blown tantrum of distress.

When we think of emotions like delight or rage, we can also think of facial expressions and physical gestures. However, all of those may be the results of a more subtle form of behavior: linguistic behavior.

English: Emotions

English: Emotions (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Respecting maturity

Recall that social institutions train us in what to value, what to repress, and what to pretend. We are trained in how to relate to our experiences in regard to how we label sensations and organize them in to perceptions.

What portion of reality do we perceive? A tiny fraction. With all of the sensations available to us, we filter out the vast majority of them and then focus on certain details as “important” and then organize those important details in to our experience.

How does one shift from the experience of frustration to maturity? First, one must admit to having had the experience of frustration, plus consider how it could be important. Without recognizing the importance of frustration, there would be no interest in learning from the process of frustration. There would be no distressed discontent to drive us toward maturity.

Maturity involves being perceptive of frustration and of idealism. The more precisely and quickly that I can identify frustration and idealism (in others but also in myself), then the more mature I am.

What is the distance between me and inspiration? There is no distance. Frustration arises only because there is an underlying inspiration which has been frustrated.

What has frustrated our inspiration? Idealism about how we should be and how we should not be serve the function of repressing certain inspirations and encouraging others.

Respecting social institutions

Will there ever be a social institution which does not repress certain inspirations and promote others? Will there ever be a social institution that does not bias people and train them in what to respect, what to reject, what to pretend, and so on?

What if the sole purpose of social institutions was to influence or govern human experience? What if my attention has been influenced? What if my behavior has been influenced?

Is this something to hide? Is this something to be ashamed of? Is this something to pretend is impossible because it conflicts with a social ideal that I may have been worshiping in idolatry?

Embracing maturity

Those who are open to frustration and grief (as in disappointment) have a remarkable opportunity. Because they are not terrified and ashamed of fear, frustration and grief (as in disappointment), they have a unique perceptiveness and clarity.

They are like people who are beginning to open their eyes as they live amongst a culture whose eyes are closed. Their advantage over the masses may be enormous. They may perceive things sooner and much more precisely than the masses.

They may accurately assess opportunity and danger, rather than rejecting all perceptions of danger in a hysterical, paranoid, new age panic of “anti-fear condemnation.” They embrace balance, rather than pretend that there is such a thing as a one-sided piece of paper. (In fact, they simply reject the idea that there SHOULD be such a thing as a one-sided piece of paper.)

Further, they may value the contrary opinions of others, at least occasionally. They may value interaction with others who are mature and respectful and insightful. They may seek out such interaction and divest from what is not working well in order to explore more attractive opportunities.

What is your interest in such conversations? What frustrations are you willing to release? What threatening idealisms are you willing to stop condemning, if only for a moment so you can pause to close your eyes and relax?


Beyond Belief… INSPIRATION!

March 22, 2012

Holy One, how can we live in the presence of inspiration? How can we bless the world?

If our world faces some disturbance in the forms of blame or shame or guilt or beliefs about how life should have been or

English: This is the religious symbol of Ayyav...
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should not have been, how can we bless our world? If there may be anything that we may believe to be preventing us from experiencing inspiration, curiosity, joy, and gratitude now, how can we bring curiosity, joy, gratitude, and inspiration along with any such belief? How can we bless any beliefs that we may have been practicing to prevent ourselves from experiencing inspiration, curiosity, joy, and gratitude?

By the way, does inspiration require any belief? In fact, is inspiration even compatible with belief?

Isn’t our experience that beliefs may conflict with other beliefs? In fact, for any belief, isn’t there at least one belief possible that would directly conflict? [Isn’t every belief implicitly a disbelief in any belief/dis-belief that might oppose it? Is belief itself a disturbing or dis-easing of the peace of God?]

When we are living in inspiration, is there any conflict perceived between our lives of inspiration and any other experience of inspiration? Beliefs include the possibility of conflict [i.e. disagreement and argument], don’t they? Beliefs may even be rooted in producing an inevitable conflict [an inevitable disturbance or experience of dis-ease]. Inspiration allows for the possibility of conflict- without excluding it or resisting it- [and perhaps even blessing it].

In the presence of any conflict- such as one of conflicting beliefs- it may be possible for us to practice believing something about any conflict [“here is my opinion of that conflict…”]. Yet, is it also possible for us to face conflict without practicing any belief- perhaps blessing any conflict [and any believing, disturbing, or dis-easing]- perhaps even experiencing only inspiration?

Beliefs History Mormon

Beliefs History Mormon (Photo credit: More Good Foundation)

[I wrote this last night- April 22, 2009- except for the portions in brackets, which I added while typing this in. Shortly after writing this, I recalled that of 2 or 3 books with me right now, I had a book with me called Beyond Concepts- which is about 200 pages on the same subject I address here. It is written by the wife of the founder of a healing practice called BodyTalk. I then began reading it a second time….]

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is there life after hell, shaming, blaming, vilifying, whining, & complaining

March 2, 2012
Don't Blame Us

Don’t Blame Us (Photo credit: redwolfoz)

On “Life After Hell

Hell, as I use the term, is the experience of guilt, or, more specifically, blame. Blaming is the origin of victimhood (isolating and identifying myself as a victim of someone or something).

To stop living in hell as a victim, stop blaming. Stop blaming everyone, including yourself.

Here’s how. First, before you stop making your life hell, get exactly how we pretend to make life hell- not just for other people, but also for ourselves. What we give, we experience.

Whenever we believe that the past should not have been a certain way, and then focus on how the past actually may have been how it should not have been, that is hell. Whenever I believe that I should not have had a certain past, and then focus on how I may have actually had a certain past that I should not have had, that is shame. Shame makes life hell.

Again, hell only exists for me when I have shame. I only have shame when I believe that my past should not be how it may have been. That is, if I believed that my past may have been how it should not have been, only then would it be possible to pretend that life is hell (and thus blame someone or something for possibly making life into how it should not be).

So, only when I was focusing on a certain past that I believe that I should not have had, but yet may have actually had, then from my shame, I may have blamed someone or something. I may even blame myself. If I focus on how I believe someone or something to be a shame, that particular shame may reflect a shame that I believe to apply to me, even if my conscious egoic mind can only handle in a given moment a second-hand experience of that shame rather than the original event in my past that I may have defined at some point as something that should not have been. All of that is hell AKA rejecting what actually may be as what should not be AKA guilt projected as blame for making life be how it shouldn’t be AKA unconscious shame AKA denial.

Fortunately, I have some good news. There is life after hell, and indeed it may be here now.

Here is how to “escape” from hell (which may not actually exist at all). Yes, stop blaming (pretending to create hell). Also, live as inspiration.

Hell only exists in the realm of belief. Focus on a belief of what should not be- rather than on what is- and that experience is hell. In the realm of inspiration, heaven is always now and is here everywhere.

Hell is pretending that heaven does not exist here now. If you have been pretending that this is not heaven, you may wish to stop, if not yet, then as soon as possible now. If you may have been pretending that anyone- you or anyone else- may have ever been how they should not have been, I hereby accuse you of being human.

However, consider that I could be wrong. (More on that later.)

Here is an instruction which has been repeated in various forms by many prophets:

However you wish others would be, be yourself. Further, whatever you notice may have been missing, cause it. When I notice that I wish another would have been a certain way (which they may not have been), next I may be grateful for noticing, and then I may be so curious how I could be that certain way myself that finally I pray that I am noticing one specific action that I am inspired to do right now.

By the way, go ahead. The rest of the email can wait. If you are inspired right now to confess your blame of someone directly to him or her or them- or to promote any particular possible outcome by some specific action you are inspired to do now, continue reading this after you proceed to do as inspired, but only if you are ever inspired to continue reading this.

To be inspired, be grateful and curious, then pray for inspiration. We could not live as inspiration while we were pretending that life was hell. Life was never how it should not be. Life is always exactly how it is.

The belief that God made a mistake- even maybe just that one time- is sin. Life is exactly how it should be, unless you believe that you are living in a hell created by God to punish you for how your past should not have been. Stop blaming God for making your life hell. Consider that you basically may have done it yourself, which, ironically, may be exactly what you should have done.

Make your life hell. Go ahead. You may be very good at it by now, right?

Whenever you are done with making life hell for someone- which is always your life, by the way- heaven will be waiting for you to forgive God for what God should not have done, until you stop waiting for God to take you to heaven. You may have heard that God created heaven and earth, right? So, who created hell?

What if hell never existed. We just may have pretended that it did.

If I have been upset by something, I may confess my blame (ideally, confessing directly to a group or person who represents to me a

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target for my own blame- and being specific). Any blame that I ever experience is mine.

Rememeber, God does not blame us. God does not create sin. God creates us in God’s own image. If I blame God, that is not about God, but about me. If I blame me, that is about who I may have pretended to be, not the one that God created me to be. Whenever I pretend that I am not who God created me to be, I may blame others for not being who God created them to be. I may blame them for sinning, for being how they should not be. Ironically, that is hell.

God did not create sin or sinners. God created God’s own images. When I was pretending that I was not God’s own image, I created other people in the false self-image that fit my own false self-image of a sinner. I noticed in other people some way of being that I believed they should not be, identifying them with some shame that my ego had buried in my past. By the way, when I identify someone or something as expressing some way of being- when I focus on it with my attention– I identify myself with that.way of being. I may believe that I am focusing on that other someone or something, but what if I was really just focusing on that way of being, just producing an experience of that way of being and using that someone or something as a tool for producing that experience?

In hell, people blame each other for making life hell. If I believed that I was in hell, I may have blamed other people for being responsible for my experience of life as what should not be. However, life was never what should not be. I was never the one who was pretending that life is hell. That was actually a false self-image, or at least it works for me identify myself with God rather than with how life should not have been, by which I mean how my life should not have been, by which I mean that I should not have been. When I focus on any quyality of life, that focusing is my life: me!

Whenever anyone experiences life, that is their experience, so that is their life. Their life is them.

Hell is the belief that I am an ego that should not be. Most simply, hell is the belief that I should not be.

Try this as an experiment. Say to yourself “I should not be here.” Repeat it… a lot. Try it throughout the day, until you choose to stop. Then, consider now whether the experience of “I should not be here” is equivalent with “this is hell!” Listen for yourself saying “this is hell” and notice if you can substitute “I should not be here.” Then, if you are courageous, go all Byron Katie on life and turn “I should not be here” around to this: “Actually, I should be here. This is EXACTLY where I should be, who I should be, when I should be, how I should be. Here I am!”

The imagination of God is the experience of “I am,” of being, of presence of mind. The image of God is the presence of God is the kingdom of God.

God is always. The ego may have pretended to be. So what?

If my ego has been upset by something, the ego may confess it’s own blame (ideally, confessing directly to a group or person who represents to my ego a target for my ego’s own blame- and being specific). Any blame that my ego ever experiences is my ego’s. My ego is my ego as long as I say so. I pretend that I am not God’s image as long as I say so.

If I (as my ego) was afraid, I am grateful for recognizing an opportunity to promote safety and security.

If I (as my ego) was sad, I am grateful for recognizing an opportunity to promote togetherness and curiosity and joy.

If I (as my ego) was angry, I am grateful for recognizing an opportunity to promote compassion and gratitude.

God is grateful. God is curious. God lives as inspiration. God forgives all blame that any ego may have ever pretended should not be.

When God’s image stops pretending that hell ever could have been, God’s image may say something like this: as you do unto them, so you have just done unto me. God’s image may even say to love everyone as if you were them- love them as yourself.

But what about people who call us their enemy, asks the ego? Well, in that case, says one self-image of God, love everyone as if each of us is one of God’s only image. Further, forgive God not just seven times, but seventy times seven times- as long as it takes to stop pretending that you or I could ever be an ungodly being in a hell that obviously should not be.

Go ahead, God: be here now. Heaven, I stop pretending to have been waiting for you. I accept you just as you are, God. I proclaim that Heaven exists- not eventually, not possibly, not “someday maybe” … if only she or he or they will just be more like how they should be.

I stop pretending that other people are God instead of me such that they could have the power to make me into a victim and my life into hell. Only I could pretend to make heaven into hell so well that I actually believed it for as long as I did, though now I know who I am.

Yes, I may have pretended to be a victim. So what?

God’s Kingdom, come. God’s will IS done.

On earth, what happens is God’s will, just as God’s will in heaven is whatever happens in heaven. The two are identical. I stop  pretending to isolate them into a good one and an evil one.

By the way, I pray with gratitude that God gives us today every thing we need today. I also claim with certain faith that God forgives
whatever shame of “that should not have ever happened” that I may have believed to be real, just as I forgive- like in that very moment now- those who may have sinned against me, even thanking them for reminding me of a treasure that I may have buried under a belief in shame.

What treasure could that be? There is no cup large enough to contain all of the blessings in heaven which God has stored for me, keeping the treasures safe through the very mechanism of my belief in hell. Those who did not believe in heaven, but believed that God judged them eternally guilty for doing what they should not have done and being how they should not have been- wouldn’t it be predictable that they might have devotedly trained us that we should not openly experience ourselves as God’s image- at least not just yet? How can we forgive them for pretending that life is ungodly, that we could have ever been ungodly, that anyone could have ever been anything but God’s image? Or, turning around the other cheek: how can we not forgive God’s image for pretending that life should not be how it may have been, pretending that they should not even here here… at least certainly not like this, pretending that God must have made a mistake, pretending to be unholy- given that we have been doing what… the exact same thing?

Of course we may have learned that way of being from others! We may have taught it as well. Haven’t you ever treated someone as if they should not have been how they may have been? Who hasn’t!

Let the one among us without guilt cast the first blame. Hey, where is everyone going? Was it something I said?

I forgive all the churches and all the congregants for perhaps slightly misrepresenting a few of the sayings of a few of the wise teachers in the rich history of human spirituality. In fact, I confess that my ego may have been confused and could have only blamed them in error.

I hereby proclaim all of them, all of us, including me personally and you personally… to be exactly who we are. I proclaim my past to be redeemed from “it should not have been like that” to “God’s will is present in all of the past, all of the present, and all of the future.” I redeem my past and in so doing life itself- including you and I- is redeemed. The Will of God (orthe Way of the Tao, etc etc etc) is however life actually is. When however life actually is… is just one way how life actually may be, then anything is possible through the holy spirit of God’s Creation.

When I blamed you (when I blamed the image that I had made from my own past into my image of you), you were reminding me that I may have forgotten that I am God’s creation and so are you, Thank you so much! I’m sorry. Please forgive my confusion. I love you.

I redeem you and I both to be holographic bubbles reflecting only God’s Holy Creation. In other words, I stop arguing that my life must be a mistake made by an incompetent God.

What a relief! There is life after hell, at least to the extent that hell may or may not have ever eixsted!

If this is good news to you, go and spread the message of God’s spell of inspiration across your entire life now and forever. By the way, if you ever notice yourself worrying about whether to do it or when to do it or how to do it, consider stopping at least for long enough to laugh at yourself.

However you wish life would be, be yourself. To be inspired, be grateful and curious, then pray for the inspiration to intuitively come to your attention as to what to do next as soon as possible right now.

Stop trying to make life eventually become less hellish. Instead, spread heaven. Go forth and multiply the experience of however you choose to focus.

The Creative Presence of God is among you within. When you stop pretending otherwise, you may notice God’s laughter pouring through your body like a comedian trying very sincerely to keep a straight face, then suddenly failing completely to deny themselves the experience of a heavenly joy.

God may be blessing you right now. If God could be blessing you right now and you may have even just accepted the possibility that this could be heaven already, how do you choose to handle this opportunity?

Published Aug 12, 2009

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