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humility, vanity, & insanity: 6 or six?

February 21, 2014

Humility: the simple happiness of noticing that various forms are all merely a formality

Insanity: panicking over which form is inherently the best (which idolatry is most holy)

Vanity: dismissing all forms (self-righteously) because someone somewhere might eventually worship any particular form in another instance of frustrated, paranoid, fundamentalist agonizing. Example: “math is too confusing. If the correct answer clearly is six, then how can that be the same as half a dozen? Since any question can only have one correct answer, therefore the presumption that I started with must be true and cannot be what is confusing me. Math is what is confusing me. Rather than relax and admit that my confusion and frustration might be the result of a prior false presumption, you are insulting and disgusting and annoying and you suck. Plus, you should help me go save the world from confusion because I find it embarrassing and humbling. Hell no, I am NOT frustrated! I am VERY happy, jerk. Don’t make come over there and prove it to you!”humility, vanity, & insanity

Humility: If everyone else is perfect, except for me

November 2, 2013

What if all humility is false humility, but some insist arrogantly and naively and desperately that there is some other kind?

Susano, Amaterasu and the Stranger in the Mirror

Susano, Amaterasu and the Stranger in the Mirror (Photo credit: timtak)

  • Daniel Fritschler It isn’t as though I am not intelligent enough to pick up on how others use reverse psychology….it is that I am not intelligent enough to want to manipulate others for my own amusement or gain. So using reverse psychology absolutely takes a certain mindset…one that I don’t have….it seems.
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    May I add a factor beyond all strategies, estimations on intelligence, grammar regulations and manipulative hidden agendas ~ an aware watcher who sees it all as it is without evaluations?
    This means to see with the eyes of an unconditional forgiving lover
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  • Daniel Fritschler To be an unconditional forgiving lover is it necessary or even pleasurable to recognize another’s pretense and/or psychology(which i can do just fine…thank you JR) and then put conditions or manipulate them using reverse psychology? Or maybe that is being loving when it is done without a condition of gain. Which might define a Sensei/guru relationship with a student as an example…otherwise to what benefit does reverse psychology have?…”oh look I can control another because they have a weak mind, might as well take advantage of the poor sap”…….just never really worked for me.
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    English: Human behavior and Intelligent behavior diagram Русский: Диаграмма: поведение человека и разумное поведение (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn:To Daniel Fritschler, reverse psychology does not take a mindset. You are just set against it.

    I say “do things that fascinate you and are fun.” You say: “No, I do not want violate the holy commandments of idealism.”

    How to win friends and influence people

    How to win friends and influence people (Photo credit: A tea but no e)

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn Daniel has an idea that love and manipulation must be mutually exclusive. His “mutually exclusive” presumptions causes immense amounts of suffering and confusion… which may be exactly what those presumptions are designed to do….So, I said to my 3 year old niece, “what are you going to pretend to be for Halloween?” She says, “Santa Claus.” I say: ‘My little Junior Sensei!”

    So, with or without evaluation, the witnessing can observe the coming and going of evaluation. My niece says “Santa Claus should be real or else people should not lie and say that he is.” I say: “Of course! You are very clever to have noticed that. In fact, people definitely should not be how they are, except for you. Very good.”

  • Daniel Fritschler . Exactly.
  • J R Fibonacci Hunn Only other people should be how they are. They are holy. They are pure. They are perfect just as God created them.I, on the other hand, probably should not be at all. I apologize.

    I’m sorry for criticizing anyone for failing to conform to the ideal of conformity that was drilled in to me by social conditioning. I should not have done that.

    However, I can empathize with everyone else who has criticized me hysterically and reactively and mindlessly. That was the right thing for them to have done. If they keep doing it, that is welcome as well.

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn That’s peace for you. That’s the kingdom of The Heaven.
  • Daniel Fritschler Let’s not concern ourselves with how people ARE, let’s focus on how they are NOT. I mean… what is this… heaven? For God’s sake ….we are burning in an oven here JR…it is planet hell.
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  • J R Fibonacci Hunn So, sitting in the kingdom of the heaven, I played the game of hell and said to my neice when she put on the Santa Claus costume: “Hey, you are not the REAL Santa, are you? Aren’t you just trying to trick me for your own gain because I have a weak mind?” What did she do? The little Junior Sensei laughed this little adorable giggle and said: “YES!”
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  • J R Fibonacci Hunn bwa ha ha ha
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  • Daniel Fritschler Child’s play
  • J R Fibonacci Hunn Manipulative! Holy Cow: do you think she was just “loving me” as a trick in order to get to my Halloween candy? That little 3 year-old manipulation machine!

Humility is a form of courage (& arrogance is unrecognized irony)

June 16, 2013
Illustration of Facebook mobile interface

Illustration of Facebook mobile interface (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

  • If all statements and therefore Facebook posts are just assumptions piled onto other assumptions for amusement purposes, then it really doesn’t matter what the level of sobriety of the person posting is…does it? I mean can’t it be just as entertaining to listen to a fool become even more foolish? I guess the question is who is posting Facebook posts of so much sincerity that it even matters if they are sober or not? Who has something to offer another that needs to be expressed with a sober mind? Talk about the height of egoism or arrogance…to think there is even something to offer another in statement form is to become more than a fool…or stuck in thoughts of confusion.
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    • J R Fibonacci Hunn A dog chases it’s tail. Is it the height of arrogance? Or, is it just fooling around? http://www.pawsandread.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/dogchasingtail.jpg
    • Daniel Fritschler just fooling around…which is what everybody is doing…isn’t it… especially on facebook?
      Facebook at Mozcon - Alex

      Facebook at Mozcon – Alex (Photo credit: Thos003)

    • J R Fibonacci Hunn That one is an animated image. I don’t know if you can see the animation without clicking it.
    • Daniel Fritschler yes it reminds me of most people I know folllowing the trail but never seeing the essence of it
    • J R Fibonacci Hunn Some are certainly more arrogant than others about their own foolishness. Some are very sincere and very distressed and very terrified.
    • Daniel Fritschler yes you are right…thank god we aren’t that way
    • J R Fibonacci Hunn So, can we recognize the foolishness of someone else as mere foolishness and forgive them for their terror or arrogance? Or are we so confused and foolish ourselves that we are terrified of terror- which is healthy enough- but then we go on to assert that our terror about their terror is less terrified? Well, if so, that is merely ironic. Arrogance is mere unrecognized irony. Agonizing is also unrecognized irony. Now that this is clear, how terrifying exactly is it when someone else is ironic and does not recognize it (yet)?
    • Daniel Fritschler I suppose it can be terrifying to the ones who don’t have clarity of the irony of chasing their own tail…but I don’t know because I haven’t recognized the irony yet either.
    • J R Fibonacci Hunn “OMG- that guy is so arrogant! OMG I know gibberish when I see it and Mr. Pooh does not! OMG that group is so terrified!” All of that could be the voice of terror- even unrecognized terror “Terror?!?! I’m not terrified. I am so not terrified that I will threaten you with ALL CAP LETTERS and even unfriend you to show how unterrified that I pretend to be!”
    • J R Fibonacci Hunn “You better believe that I am not terrified! You better agree! You better pretend with me! No, more sincerely than that! More convincingly! I’m starting to worry about whether you are really as terrified as I insist that you must pretend to be!”
    • Daniel Fritschler I suppose if using caps or unfriending is being terrified…or maybe it is a show? I mean what are you so terrified of then?
    • J R Fibonacci Hunn And, so, I will say this perhaps rather obscure thing: humility is a form of courage. Shelly B, do you get that (and you can read the whole sequence above for clarification)?
    • Daniel Fritschler can I ask you…do you see yourself as humble?
    • Daniel Fritschler arrogance is believing the foolishness long enough to be confused…humbleness is understanding the foolishness and having clarity about it . Why can’t you see that?
      The fifth of Thomas Aquinas' proofs of God's e...

      The fifth of Thomas Aquinas’ proofs of God’s existence was based on teleology (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

    • J R Fibonacci Hunn  Someone may be terrified of having friends on facebook who will not apologize when threatened with unfriending (back down from their threats to unfriend them). Of all things, what could be more terrifying than courage? Imagine a security guard at a jail cell. They guard the cell. They guard it from the inside. They make sure that no one else comes in. Others invite them to step outside of the security of the bars of the cell. “I can’t” says the security guard, “because I am on duty right now.” >>>> “Oh,really, well when do you get off duty?” Silence. Confusion. “I can’t. I… I… don’t know who will protect these bars from an intruder. I mean… What if someone unauthorized comes along and tries to lock the door to the cell?” >>>> “Okay, so the door is not locked and you are standing inside claiming to be on duty to protect the bars of the cell from unauthorized intruders, is that right?” >>>>> “Yes, sensei, now you understand my horrible predicament! Finally, someone who understands the tragedy and confusion of my situation!” >>> “Ok, yes, this is truly a serious problem. I’ll tell you what we must do. We have a training in 3 minutes that is absolutely MANDATORY for all security guards on how to properly protect the bars of your cell from intruders. Furthermore, it will be held in your cell, so just stay there. If I am even 1 minute late though, please come out to remind me about the training because I need to make a quick phone call first and, if I am late to the training, then you need to let me know by coming out of your cell and getting me because it would be truly horrific and terrifying if we fail to conduct this mandatory training within the next 5 minutes. I can barely imagine how terrifying it would be if we did not properly know how to stay up to date with all of the latest technology and state of the art strategies for how to stay in your cell alone and protect the bars from all intruders. There is NOTHING more terrifying than all of those crazy drunk people with the courage to risk intimacy and connection. Alienation is simply the most spiritually advanced form of partnership and happiness that we could ever pretend to worship!”
    • J R Fibonacci Hunn As for your question, no, you may not ask that. Anything else would be fine, but please not that. Please!
    • Daniel Fritschler ok right there you have described how most people run their lives by choosing what to allow in and what part of life not to let in or fight or protect against…but what does that have to do with the conversation or you or I?

      Portrait of René Descartes, dubbed the "F...

      Portrait of René Descartes, dubbed the “Father of Modern Philosophy”, after Frans Hals c. 1648 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

    • Daniel Fritschler that is how most others live the partial protected life
    • Daniel Fritschler instead of letting go of controlling what is “right” and what is “wrong” and seeing it all as a whole
    • J R Fibonacci Hunn Nothing at all in what I wrote above is related to my own or your own life. I was merely pointing out how most people are total idiots, but certainly not us. We are much better than them, don’t you agree?
    • Daniel Fritschler no we are complete idiots too only we know that we are or are aware of it…right?
    • J R Fibonacci Hunn recognizing irony is the essential key which allows for the recognizing of irony.
    • Daniel Fritschler there is nothing intellectual or intelligent about being happy and loving…is there?
    • Daniel Fritschler yes I get the irony of your story
    • J R Fibonacci Hunn Hmmm… let me think about that for a while: how to be happy and loving. When I figure it out, I will get back to you.
    • Daniel Fritschler Truth is always non-utlilitarian….
      Confucius, illustrated in Myths & Legends of C...

      Confucius, illustrated in Myths & Legends of China, 1922, by E.T.C. Werner. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

    • Daniel Fritschler ok sir thank you
    • J R Fibonacci Hunn What could possibly be more utilitarian than being clear about what is true? It may not be labeled as “utilitarian” according to someone in a panicked terror of figuring out which training seminar to attend so that they can finally learn to be spontaneous. So what?
      That reminds me that my dog was passionately and sincerely arguing with me the other day about how it was not utilitarian of me to finish all of my own dinner. Wouldn’t it be much more utilitarian if I gave him, for example, 50% of my own meal? Because I am total and complete idiot, I spent about 2 hours messaging back and forth with him on facebook about it. Fortunately for me, I was convincing and so my dog and I have agreed that instead of me giving him half of my dinner, I will increase the size of my portions by 50% and then give him 1/3 of my dinner. I simply refused to concede to his insistent, domineering claim over 50%. After all, that is even more than the IRS gets!
      • Daniel Fritschler learning to be spontaneous is an ironic statement as clarity tells us that everything is spontaneous and it is only in confusion that we take things to be planned or owned??? so why are you talking so much confusion all of the sudden?
      • Daniel Fritschler i get it though you see me as a complete arrogant idiot of pure foolishness….message received loud and clear
      • J R Fibonacci Hunn Everything is spontaneous, but everything also unfolds according to purpose (to plan). There is such a thing as planning, right? There is such a label or category in language, right? >>>> So, in language, we can invent two categories called spontaneous and unspontaneous and then get a piece of paper and draw two boxes far away from each other and then list a bunch of things that go in one box and then a bunch that go in the other. That would be extremely utilitarian, right?
        Agonizing involves a set of BARriers (like bars of a jail cell) to spontaneity. The imposing of “mental enslavement” to cripple the masses with patterns of agonizing may be one of the primary evolutionary functions of religions (to influence natural selection in favor of the originators of the system of enslavement at the detriment of the target audience of the marketing campaign).
         I completely agree and when agonizing happens it would be impossible to have focus on the spontaneous as one can’t serve 2 masters so I see the connection. Also yes religions, governments, mass media are all functional in building the bars or barriers in most of the confused ones…
        • Daniel Fritschler I suppose everything is spontaneous…and it is ok to plan but I wouldn’t have expectations on the plans or that could cause agonizing….so plan away but learn that everything is spontaneous so there will be no confusion in the results or outcome
        • J R Fibonacci Hunn It is important to plan properly on how to completely avoid agonizing in the future. Expectations should not arise spontaneously unless they are on the pre-approved list made 4000 years ago today and translated 4 times. Language is NOT the root of all evil.

          •  Language is only the root of 33% of evil (though my dog insists that the exact measurement is much closer to 50%).
          • Daniel Fritschler Now you know as well as I do nothing can be planned “properly” to avoid anything…expectation will arise spontaneously but that doesn’t mean we must give them meaning or effort…if we go with expectations we set up agonizing or condemnation now why would any wise man want to intentionally do that???
          • Daniel Fritschler language is just a form of expression and has nothing to do with evil
          • Daniel Fritschler evil is not in the definitions but there is a definition of evil…
  • Daniel Fritschler wow no offense but your dog is a complete idiot and obviously completely wrong about his research…
  • J R Fibonacci Hunn You are missing the point. Definitions are evil. Language itself is evil. Do not ever use it. Please!
    Also, note that when religions impose barriers on things like sexuality, that might even favor the evolutionary success of the “target audience.” Maybe by having communal sexual inhibitions and living in close proximity with lots of other fertile humans in a well-organized arrangement called a “city,” the group of people gathered in the city can gather to advance the well-being of the entire tribe or clan or village or city.
    Some anthropologists suggest that the rapid increase in human population in recent centuries may be related to some recent developments such as agriculture and language and religion. Clearly, these madmen are evil and can be dismissed because they do not recognize the moral superiority of my dog over all other dogs.
    My dog is the monotheistic dog. Of all of the monotheistic dogs, mine is the very best and the only true one. The others are not really monotheistic dogs at all. They are in fact dyslexic nomotheists.
    In conclusion, polytheism is a threat to monotheism like the branches of a tree are a threat to the trunk.
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    • Daniel Fritschler Wow you are saying some brilliant things there…I think I remember Mooji saying a lot of similiar things or was that some guy on Fox news or GOD…either way keep up the brilliance in all of your sincere statements and don’t forget to clown every once in awhile…gotcha
      • Daniel Fritschler Your dog has some problems brother and he might want to seek therapy of some sort….I am available if he can skype

from contempt to humility: the key to The Kingdom of Heaven

November 20, 2012

breastfeeding

Imagine saying to a nursing infant that “you are so selfish in drinking all of that milk from out of your mother’s breast! Why are you so mindlessly destructive of your mother’s total nutritional resources like that? You should be ashamed of your egotistical arrogance!”

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That is the nature of all shaming. That is the nature of all condemning of selfishness, of arrogance, of egotism, of desire, etc….  It is a panic, like a fright.

Shaming is a form of selfishness and competitiveness, which are all unavoidable manifestations of the normal and universal desire to receive (the egoic desire). The maximum extreme of competitiveness or divisiveness is to condemn others for competitiveness (for their egoic desire to receive).

In other words, condemning competitiveness is a form of competitiveness- a focus on what “the other” should not be doing (or should be doing). That is jealousy. The reason that someone else’s normal and innate desire to receive is perceived as a threat is because of one’s own desire to receive being unfulfilled. That jealousy or envy can lead to arrogant shaming.

“My way is the only right way! Your way must be wrong because it is only 93% alike with my way. Wait- no, holy mother of God, your way is like only 87% alike with my way. That is just disturbing and disgusting and totally unacceptable!”

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This is also called both arrogance and naivete. All arrogance is inherently naive (innocent, ignorant, immature). Condemning arrogance, again, would just be another instance of arrogance. Condemning naivete is itself an instance of naivete.

(Just as the condemning of any instance of condemning is itself another instance of condemning. Societies shame. Get over it. Some of them even have legal systems to punish “anti-social” behavior. Get over it. Some people even protest how a particular societies regulate behavior. Get over that, too. If some people shame other people for protesting something, get over that as well. In the famously concise words of Jesus: “Condemn not.”)

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Humility is the gateway or key to The Kingdom of Heaven. However, humility is impossible until arrogance has manifested. Arrogance is the branch from which humility grows. Without the contrasting pattern of arrogance, humility is not distinctly recognizable.

Another word for humility is repentance, as well as the word forgiveness. Can we forgive others for their condemnations, their terrified shamings, their panicked animosity, their insecure arrogance, their sinfulness, their offensiveness, their trespasses?

Another word for arrogant naivete is sin (as well as guilt). When there is a guilt for the egoic desire to receive, then there may be an outward or externalized/projected condemnation of others for the universal human quality of the desire to receive.

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That condemning is also known as contempt. There can be dramatic consequences for the practice of contempt, especially contempt for well-organized operations of violence and coercion. In fact, disobedience (non-compliance) even without contempt can result in various types of punishment.

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Systematic punishment for violations of social norms (as dictated by local warlords, gang leaders, judges, legislators and so on) are not considered contempt, though there can be tremendous violence in such systems of punishment or “correction.” These systems of organized aggression monopolize the use of coercion and extortion (to collect tax claims which are dictated “out of thin air”). What gives purchasing power to the currencies declared by those court systems to be acceptable in payment of the invented debts of the taxpayers/underwriters) is the unmitigated threat of violence made by the armed officers of the court systems of coercive justice.

Is there a reflexive reaction of contempt for all “fiat currency” systems and the court systems behind them, for all governments, all armies, all operations of violence? Can there be a simple recognition of what they are, of how common they are throughout the last several thousand years, of why so many people continue to create them and sustain them and participate in them by “consenting under duress to their coercion?”

Thousands of years ago, court systems mined from the earth rare minerals like gold and silver, then demanded that the masses use that specific currency token (the coin of the realm) to pay the invented tax debts of the masses. This stimulated demand for gold and silver, as well as for fiat currencies today. Because the court backed that “casino token” with acts of premeditated violence, people used that token and were willing to accept it from other civilians, knowing that later they would be forced to pay taxes (using that form of currency) by the thugs or soldiers of the court system.

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Beyond the extremes of contempt, a total humility is possible. Contempt, sin, arrogance, and guilt are great allies in the developing of humility and the desire to bestow. This is the origin of sayings like “it is better to be generous than to be so terrified that one is greedy” or “it is better to give than to receive” or “if you are willing to receive, then give.” However, to abuse or bash or shame people with the idea that they should be more giving (or less shaming, less violent, less competitive and more cooperative) is, again, the hypocritical extreme of contempt, of guilt, of sin, of divisiveness, of competitiveness, of inner distress, of panic, of hysteria.

You cannot shame a hurricane in to becoming a breeze. You cannot shame an army in to pacifism. You cannot shame a missile to not detonate. You cannot shame an empire in to a truce.

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Or can you? Demoralization of enemy combatants is the first principle of psychological warfare, right?

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See also: 

Madonna of humility by Fra Angelico, c. 1430.

Madonna of humility by Fra Angelico, c. 1430. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

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English: A meeting of the North American Competitiveness Council. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

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Corcovado jesus

Corcovado jesus (Photo credit: @Doug88888)

 

Face it: I’m a comic genius

January 9, 2012
Hi, I’m a comic genius. If you know me and you are thinking to yourself, well then why have you been hiding it for so long, I can explain. Basically, I admit that I have been hiding it.
Actually, it’s not so much that I am specifically a comic genius. I’m really just a genius in general and there are a lot of people who are geniuses, some of whom do not hide it, but just about the only way that I can communicate with people who are not geniuses so that they get a sense of my genius is through comedy. So, in other words, I say I am a comic genius just to inform you that you have my permission to laugh at anything that I share with you.
Now, let me define genius for you, since you probably do not know exactly what I mean by the word genius. I’m just less naive than most people about certain things. That’s it.
In other words, when some new information is available, I can understand it faster than the average person. I am far above average in intelligence. Other people may understand it eventually, at least partially. That is what it means to be a genius.
Obviously, just because I am genius, that does not mean that I am always right or that there are not some other people who are smarter than me about any particular subject or even in general. I’m only a genius. That is not the same as being the smartest person in the world or something, which would be pretty hard to determine, right?
So, since I am a comic genius, I give you permission to be intelligent and even to be funny, too. That is because I am not worried about you being smarter than me or funnier than me. I know that I am smart and I know that I can be funny, at least when I choose to be.
In other words, because I am a freaking comic genius, why would I worry if you are smarter about something that I am? To a genius, when other people show their competence, the genius just thinks: “Hey, there is another person that may offer me some particular practical value. Great!”
Other people may be intimidated by intelligence, but would a genius be intimidated by intelligence? No, a genius is familiar with intelligence. A genius recognizes and appreciates intelligence. Why is a porn star not intimidated by nakedness? Because they have been naked a lot around strangers and they have been around other naked people a lot.
Before we go any further, I want to clear up something about this. People are just however smart they are. They do not deserve to be more or less smart. They just are more or less smart.
In fact, that brings us to one of the first topics for discussion: the idea of guilt and vanity. I think those are two things to be cautious about.
Vanity, basically, is thinking that you deserve the things you appreciate. You don’t. The whole idea of appreciation is the recognition that you are the recipient of grace, of unearned advantage, of undeserved privileges. Recognizing that grace is intelligent. It’s also called modesty.
Modesty is not saying “I am not smart” when you know you are smart. That is pretense, and usually to try to trick people in to perceiving that you are humble. Modesty is actually being humble about how great your life is, like not being arrogant about deserving it based on the karma from past lives. Modesty is not ignoring how great your life is, which is neglect and stupidity, and then pretending that your life is not privileged when it is.
I already mentioned karma and past-lives. Who really cares? So what if any of that was true?
Let’s assert for a moment that I deserve to have the past that I have. I deserved to be born where and when I was. I deserved to be raised how I was. I deserve my genetic inheritance. I deserve my family of origin and my education and my diet and my personal history. Imagine, just for fun, that I earned it all, although I could have earned even an better past or a less favorable past. I earned exactly the past that I had. I deserved it!
Well, that idea is pure vanity. It’s worthless.
However, since I don’t care about the issue, I will be glad to pretend that I believe it just so you don’t get side-tracked by any of that. Fine: if you think that in some past life you earned exactly what you have now, I don’t care. Whether you believe that you earned it or not, you have exactly the past that you have, right?. If you like believing that you earned it and that helps you to get beyond some distracting issue and move on to facing what you actually have, fine. You have the past you have. You have exactly the privileges you have and resources you have and capacities you have, but not more and not less. Is that clear?
By the way, guilt is also a form of vanity. Guilt is just the absolute most worthless kind of vanity. Guilt is focusing on how you should have earned a better present than you now have. It’s futile. Get over it.
If you want to grieve over the past, that’s understandable. Go ahead. if you don’t appreciate something when you have it, and then, when it’s gone, you finally have a sudden appreciation for it, great. Grief is delayed appreciation. Better late than never, right?
For instance, let’s imagine that my dog dies and then I notice how much I appreciated that dog. That’s good to know. Maybe next time if I get another dog, then I will appreciate the dog more when I actually have it.
Grief is recognizing that you might be able to appreciate life more fully in the future. That is useful.
In contrast, guilt is believing that you should have appreciated life more fully in the past. That is pure vanity. That is totally worthless.
You have the past that you have. You did not deserve any of it. Actually, let me put it this way: whether or not you deserved any of it or all of it or what, that makes no difference whatsoever now. You have exactly what you have, and that’s it.
If you can connect a particular pattern of action with a particular pattern of results, that’s great to know. That’s intelligent.
But you did not deserve any of your past. You did not sign an agreement with angels before you were born. You did not break any of the agreement or keep any of the agreement, because there was no agreement.
However, that metaphor may be useful. If we like the idea that there are certain capacities that are specific to each of us, that makes sense, right? If we like the idea that there is an agreement for us to identify our capacities and to develop those capacities, that’s fine.
You have the capacities that you actually have, right? You have the privileges that you actually have right? You could accept that you are basically stuck with whatever you have right now, like as if you had agreed to it in the past and as if you have some kind of obligation or commitment to use what you actually have.
Fine! I don’t care. You have what you have. Anything that gets you to face what you actually have, I say, is genius.
So, if you like to pretend that you deserve what you now have or to imagine that you agreed to have what you have before you were born, that’s brilliant. Either way, no matter what, you have exactly what you have. Face it.
You are as smart as you are and about certain things in particular. Face it. Maybe you are a genius and maybe you are not. So what? Either way, face it!
If you are modest, fine. If you are arrogant, fine. By the way, arrogant people are incredibly easy to intimidate and they love to defend their most sacred shames. Arrogant people are habitually terrified, but, again, being terrified is fine. Everybody gets terrified at least occasionally, right?
By the way, I don’t care if you were guilty in the past. I don’t care if you deserved to be guilty or if you were victimized by your own karma from past lives or what. You have however much guilt as you have. I may think that it is all quite pretentious and vain to have all that guilt, but you probably don’t care what I think, right?
Even if I did think that you deserved exactly what you have, or more than you have, or less than you have, who cares? I don’t! Why should you?
You have whatever you have. Face it! You deserve whatever you deserve. Face it! You are facing whatever you are facing. Face it!
If you, like me, are a comic genius, too, then just face it! If you are a genius in some other way, I assert that there are geniuses who may be very interested in what particular ways you are a genius. There may be a lot of folks who are not intimated by your genius. They jay really appreciate it.
There may be a lot of folks who deserve you keeping the agreement that you made before you were born and sharing your genius with them. Maybe they deserve your genius. Maybe they earned it with their karma and their past lives and so on.
Or that may be a bunch of complete pretense. I don’t care. Or maybe you are obligated to share your genius but you have been totally stingy. I don’t care about that either. Just face your own genius.
I don’t care when you face it! I don’t even care if you face it! I don’t care if you can face it or you can’t face it or you should face it or you won’t face it.
I don’t care if you are a genius or not. Maybe you are not a genius about anything at all and never will be. Maybe you are totally worthless and have no capacities and no past and no karma and you actually do not even deserve whatever you deserve. Maybe you actually do not have whatever you have, but, either way, I am a comic genius and you may not be yet, but face it maybe you should be a comic genius, huh? Maybe you should have whatever you have and maybe you should not have whatever you have, but who cares, right?
What I know is that I am a comic genius. What does that mean? It means that I have recognized the value of making fun of all the rest of my life. In a lot of other ways, maybe I am not a genius. If you know me, you may even know of some of those ways.
Now, obviously, before I was born, I agreed to not be a genius in all of those other areas of my life so that I would have some really funny stories to use as a comic genius to make fun of my own life. Up to now, with all the comedy material I have collected so far in my life in those other areas, well, I’m thinking that maybe I deserve to be a genius by now in some of those other areas, too. I held up my part of the agreement by not being a genius in those areas for so long, so face it now it is time for the angels to give me what I deserve, alright? Thank you!
I don’t know how those angels got to be angels and what they did to deserve it, but sometimes I feel like they must be all intimidated with me just because I am a comic genius. Or maybe they have just never been around someone naked, but I was just trying to make them feel comfortable, given that most of the angels in art are naked, right? I thought they would be more relaxed if I dressed like them, right? I mean, either they were intimidated by my comic genius or else the angels must have been intimidated by the size of my, um, no, definitely it had to be my comic genius.

stages of adaptive appreciation

October 14, 2011

The above audio contains a lot more clarification and information than the text below.

First, people begin innocent. Then, they are trained in how things should be and so become naively presumptive, though that is adaptive relative to the first stage.

Then, if the presumptive way does not work very well, some slight revisions are made in regard to the updated idealism of how things really should be, and now the reformed and refined presumptiveness becomes arrogance (as in self-righteousness). Again, that may be adaptive relative to the prior stage- using a more adapted model of presumptiveness.
Next, after perhaps a few distinct idealisms have been tried and have all failed to correspond to reality, a cynical perfectionism may develop. This is a reaction against all forms of presumptiveness, all models. This is a criticism against all forms of what allegedly should be. This can be called hypocrisy, for it is presuming that presumptiveness about how things should be is what should not be, which implicitly presumes that an innocent naivete is all that should ever be. Again, that may still be more adaptive than prior stages.
However, once that does not work well either, then humility and grace may eventually develop. Then there is an appreciation possible for every stage: naive innocence, naive presumptiveness, arrogant presumptiveness, arrogant cynicism, and humility.
These stages of adaption can be regrouped in to three distinctions: innocence, perfectionism, and humility. Perfectionism includes naive presumptiveness, arrogant presumptiveness, and arrogant cynicism.
We can even look at these as stages of appreciation. Initially, everything is equal. Then, various priorities and values are identified, learned and refined. Then, there is an appreciation for all models and all values and all priorities- just one at a time.
In other words, all of the models and presumptions are recognized as similar in that they are just models and presumptions. In any particular case, one or more models may be most relevant or useful. There can be an appreciation for each model as unique and for all models as only being models. There can be an appreciation for the creation of new models and discarding of old ones and naively or arrogantly clinging to certain ones or rejecting certain others.
Humility and appreciation may be two words for a single adaption. We might even call it “maturity.”

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