Posts Tagged ‘freedom’

Freedom in regard to past guilt

March 10, 2015

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Hi, this is JR this is a

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spontaneous comment on free from guilt
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so to talk about free from guilt
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arm of course that presumes that I’m
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interest in freedom in particular
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freedom from guilt and I assumed everyone is clear
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on what I mean by freedom aren’t
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I think that specifying exactly what I mean like guilt
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is actually really import
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to having freedom from get religious understanding
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were killed is ken make a big difference
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so regret
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is not guilt disappointment is not
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but they are related to go so
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guilt of course has to do with past
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in some particular way some incident are
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or maybe are the
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I’ll
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expectation that I that I would have done something that I
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inge do I get guilt about not
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doing something on I have guilt about
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do accept it I can also project guilt
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or I can guilt trip
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people arm
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I can blame a group of people up
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an individual person and
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if I were to say
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green from blame you might think we’ll freedom from plants that
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that i won it’s not really
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aren’t free from blame are there still
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a I
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element I’ll they’re still potential function to blame
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and in fact it could be a there certainly is a
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functionality to guilt on
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I
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getting pretty pretty far ahead anyway
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so let’s less star what kills is how it works
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rock about how to be functional are
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when it could be appropriate are and
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saw was guilt
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guilt is a particular way
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relating to some detail what
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is the guilty
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way relates not that
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how everything’s wet that
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that particular way things went. is not
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what I prefer
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that’s very important does not
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what I would for for or this point this time right now
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I would prefer that something else that happened
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trip
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and up
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it’s no one’s fault ship
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and it’s my fault head
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so those those
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elements together crew are what we call guilt
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so individually they’re not necessarily guilt
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I would prefer that things went different from how did it go
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that could be a preference
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are it doesn’t even need to be a at this point in our great
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armed just funny regret tend to have
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some el nino I could have done better
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or I you know I could learn from
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I’m really was sis you know
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startled at at how a
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hound important that issue was to me
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that’s how this plan arises when somebody surprise
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buy something mean important now if
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you are reno’s important and
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it didn’t work out as you expected I don’t know that you’d actually
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experience
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this point I’ll you
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you know rupiah differ taller different quality you just
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I’m just be like up
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I’m Ste unsatisfied time motivated to try something new
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on but there’s
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there’s a you know very clean
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condoms I’ll I have a preference for something else
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that can be heard very clean very coherent
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very on sup
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I wish the password and different I can’t really
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I’ll have the sense that I can really do anything about
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I’m powerless hopeless in general and the reason I’m helpless
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is because it those other people are
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thats on one
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con way people could relate to
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the situation not saying it’s
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inaccurate on you know tip
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tribute power on
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up to some other party or group debts
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quite reasonable really on
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once I A think
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I should have known better I shouldn’t have trusted them
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you that becomes what are the elements are when I am
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blaming someone else or some other crew and then I think
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I should have known better that’s
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when I turned that that resentment or or
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lame back toward myself and help guilt about they betrayed me
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and I was dude on
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and I should have been stupid and I should have been smarter and when I was
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or national Penn you know older
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it I should have been more mature were spirits more knowledgeable
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are so you the in you can get into some
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preteen on Sat
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circle delusional up
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ideas or ideals up
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freedom from guilt corresponds to be in three
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to just have disappointment be despondent as well as frustration
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are regret
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I can just how a
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welcoming for those experiences in for me to be able
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to welcome those experiences I what happened it will the
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up
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valuable to have a general stability and security
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so I general stability security on
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and calmness and I can
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noticed this plan is a spy most regret as greta I’ll
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I did something good
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that I didn’t like the outcome or I didn’t do something I really liked
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I imagine that could have better outcomes that could be regrets
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disappointment could be I like what the other person did
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I don’t like the other group did it doesn’t necessarily have to involve my
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own
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action or inaction regret has a personal
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aspect disappointment can be more I’m just processing
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oatmeal despite my their team lost I thought they were in when
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that’s money on the game this point do I regret prima
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get yes I do day you know in some small way
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maybe pretty small but are up
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there’s disappointment in in regard to some
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outcome that didn’t really you know
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involve me as directly as for Brett so that’s what are the differences
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up between regret and this point
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aren’t but to have
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this I’m disappointed that my team lost and two referees in the game
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really really room the me my team perform quite well
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but the robberies our powers the recruiter or
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almighty couldn’t have overcome the disadvantages
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the idiot Russ so unrelated something
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like that are down
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and guilt tripping the rest hinge she at some point
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if I’m projecting guilt or projecting
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are thus
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blame certain way I got results I don’t like
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and I’m blaming you know other people
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there are even a row did no I’m not talking to them are not making request
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they were viewed call it do it
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you know achieve the replay well
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boo review a scoring
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let’s play on no
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but are if I’m just glad
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daily man you know throng
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up my dissatisfaction
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and kind speaking from I don’t have any power and helpless
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is the official I can’t do anything %uh resignation
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cynicism the officials they’re horrible
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I’m and just by that point
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arkin can I’ll cross a boundary
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well logic yep
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into the round just boxer I don’t like the resulting I would prefer some other
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is all
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and those people are playing not me them some justifying it
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against on background maybe
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yeah I and play now but I should have known better
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the rest you know decal I have had this complaint now
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14 times it will have to play once
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that’s up you know betting on games cuz my
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and you know i cant alarm on the official said
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should call the game fair or whatever so that it is
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I could stop said aircraft that another
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have any resentment about the bad calls by the officials
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or the inaction by those other people or resistance by that one person whatever
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I’ll you know they’re your lack response miss aren’t
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cell hope
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rather than just by why other people or
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problem and then keep
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doing the same I can just
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no the disc 1 just be I just express regret
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and change my min
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if I have a certain moment look behavior have I might
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adjusted much lower down change it are
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and some solloway arm
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up
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but if I done something that was disappointing
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14 times and 14 times
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he making the same complaint at some point it could build up until
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to guilt where I’m like yeah this is stupid
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can’t leave he doing this I know those
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officials are unreliable and keep
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you know betting on games officials keep you know
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being biased or or whatever
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and a its IT
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is just not my scene that she it’s not me betting on my team is it.
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its shoals so on speaking away like that
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up there could be a build-up
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guilt and I action then how this
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resent a year towards the horrible officials to root my life and
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when I really get to know at some point is that on
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guild has a little anger its I’m guilt tripping somebody else’s helmet and your
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and by turning your back in towards must sell
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not expressing either displayed to
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I’ll at least to the relevant part maybe I’m
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you know are on I’m not
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if I’m sayin angry what the officials did I’m gonna contact
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the week and I’m gonna ask for a review
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you know dis planners officials or review their
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you know arm the quality of their officiating
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so there’s things I could do without anger that actually
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could make a difference in the future the family doing nothing
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to Island
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promote my preferences such as
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that a game will be called fairy
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Caldwell but missiles are
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I’m doing nothing to promote my preferences then I
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then the guilt that I internalize can just build-up injure
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to anger angry at every and I’m not
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expressing anger directly there could be a
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lot past the crash in on
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I had an outburst not feel horrible her I
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did in perfect then not displaying anger
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because I should never slander as per person every day per person or be
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rate per person would never experience at issue just minor
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get or shame you know up
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confusion were per person
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ever experienced confusion
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well per person me
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people
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experience confusion actual people hurt
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per cannot actual people experience confusion anger
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disappointment fear you know caution
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alertness worry I’ll panic
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paranoia this whole range if they insist area aren’t concerned about
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this medical issue with this economic issues political issues
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personal issue people experience word they experienced parallel
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arm to steer these are
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the XOR normal things im Sommer
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me so
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13 to experience anger in
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brew to experience disappoint up
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then guilt might narrow and
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so if I experience being like an blocked in regard to
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are experiencing Curtis planning expressing
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well then yiddish the
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up
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actually comes to mind to share is
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to find it
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small simple easy experiments
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in this play %uh an or slavish
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speaking at this point I’m disappointed that
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rei protease blah blah result
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it’s not a statement that
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implies blame within there can be at home
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that I’m disappointed that leader not
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and its satellite white but are
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I someone consistently express this point
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on up you know I would prefer
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that in the future blah blah blah
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I’m disappointed that in the past
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lot and in the future outlook for all law or committed to block well
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and I’m interested in how
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weeee can produce or how I
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can preset arm so those smiles language
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I’ll that
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we are free to experiment with to explore
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practice up
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stars anger if I
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think well I didn’t like how things what
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really prefer I’ll some other outcome
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and i actually I’m angry about
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a specific incident on
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just as a side note if someone’s angry
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about I’ll a group of people being
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jerks that’s not very specific
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up sometimes by saying now
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on really you know angry you people are
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are being such jerks stop that could work
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as possible can work at least
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temporarily it house some our result the
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is considered fair what’s aren’t more specific would be
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I’m angry that you said
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that are needed the law and you and you didn’t know
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funny that you work in her do when you’re actually sad
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are for us to
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make future plans I
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I’m I wanna hear from you about what we’re not as I was really angry at this
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point and
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and angry at you firstly for how things less so
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I’ll missing an important piece in The you know
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history here in there so a reason I don’t know
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while why it happened now I so be it otherwise
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I’m there’s a there’s a confidence issue for me
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in terms of not being confident in
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and some other person or some group people sheesh so i cant bless them I
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anger and you know at this point are in
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do so in a way that’s future-oriented like I’m just wanna know
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should I you know
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a withdrawal a little or completely
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from a particular
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conversation a particular relationship to your plans
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just cancel those plans up
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postpone say it for the for the immediate future
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reach we’re gonna just you know put-down Holt
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nothing not gonna can only thing to you get you the you get your
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its your situation handle and new
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get at me rocking back in two weeks or two years or whatever
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ans I’ll doesn’t have to be
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and ongoing displacement resent
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it just be anger the expressing their anger
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on display in angry about that particular thing
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and anger is I wanna up
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interrupt look past momentum an hour put a
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wall for a boundary so that
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there’s focus so there’s concentration
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so the things that are important to me are
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arm recognized by
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the other people involved here by 10 first ball aren’t
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up so
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is it okay to experience
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anger well it happens times the
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I idea this really fascinating and your
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it the idea that someone should never experienced anger
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is quite hot so
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I parents in related to my children are for instance
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as people who should never experience
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seeger or anger or display I’m how does that work
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and parenting a to your 20 should never experienced Angus planner
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your or confusion how about parenting
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twelve-year-old first twelve-year-old should not
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experience
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shearer confusion
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disappointment or anger how if I’m a charitable
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20 one euro
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21 so the 21-year-old should
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experienced what
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should they ever experience fear
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anger a just plain regret guilt
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up huge
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up
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if they do you experience those things is it my preference
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day communicate to me or or
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be willing to communicate them to me is
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it dropped up
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so I’m sry from guilt
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hitting I mean it free from late it gets
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good could come the future and why
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opened other people experiencing guilt
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and displaying share mile
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other people experiencing anger Blaney or are
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combination and or sphere
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like up
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intense fear and dislike somehow
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what people display their motions
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indirect but there’s well you know has a chance or oppression
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or a conflict emotions going on for someone
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and day are passive aggressive toward
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how do I late
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I could no it isn’t
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could be tend to to that possibility notice it
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and then depending on my relationships with my interest in a
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I a either
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interact with them or withdraw over
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you know on iraq there’s some people that I initiate
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in right
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actions I inquire how are you doing call
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past how are you what’s new and saw
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I’ll but I don’t do that with all seven billion or so people on the plane
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I noticed that this idea that
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everyone should unconditional love and initially
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love everyone else all the time is
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a source tremendous shame and deals
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and people will free
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on in some cases I’m set free
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are people will project this idea
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other people I’m I condemn them
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because day should unconditional love the arts
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and they should never killed anyone so I could that down because there are you
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dish in a don’t unconditional love everyone all the time all its
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without any such they weren’t born
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a with maturity ever in adult
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she as a child they still have things to learn
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as a teenager is still at the slur adult
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Wow they still had insular as an adult
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really how adult still haven’t learned things
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don’t know everything already but 21
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by 53 so
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3 a.m. is really
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what and talking about but been talking about three in regard to motions
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and we’ve been talking about how languages
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let to options and particular notion that a are brought up
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initially is guilt guilt being
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something that has happened concerned about might be concerned for a future
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punishment
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and out maybe watch you
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justify who
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else is to blame floor
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some past a result
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or past occurrence if I just like you
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else is that lantern action up
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on somebody might thinkers
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Tashi down instead
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or or not function whether they parcel my somebody else’s March
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not the idea is by projecting a
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guilty projecting condemnation I can
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Floyd a yep
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anticipated harsher possible inch a anticipate possible
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passion cell frayed
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about passion don’t want people to be angry
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I’m disappointed armed conflict I I
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you know I guilt is actually a normal experience so
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freedoms from guilt on
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real
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in a way it means I’m free to have had guilt
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in the past not really make big issue
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guilt to rise in the future
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a in the present moment
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on we couldn’t say you know
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I welcome all emotions welcome guilt
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are welcome all experiences that Sri thats power it takes a
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and in el nino stability in our may take
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are sheesh some time to
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shall the luxury
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to invite what might be complex are intense emotions some
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fear its you look at all
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intense fear some disappointment home
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some anger even rage sure
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are so this is about free
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up
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me it
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because humans
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can experience keep the gym and
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up 18 rims
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because they did make mistakes in the sense of having
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one intention and then taking actions that don’t sit at
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produce results the dots that their intention so humans can have attention
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take action sincerely produce results that don’t fit
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their original intention and then
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there’s writings the cap next to be disappointed
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there can be blame yeah just cation
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up
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space to be human that means the freedom
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to recognize my own humanity also
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correlates to you the freedom to recognize
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other people shoot their human nature
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their human I’ll frailties
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other home they’re learning process their development process
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we go through confusion there is no point
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and which I should never have confusion
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the issue with conditioners
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small confusions somewhat infrequently spaced out in time
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so I can handle each one other individual not confused about this
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that’s what you know it’s important to me 9
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likelier why where r issue once
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and if I go through sequencer relatively small confusions that’s called learning
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that’s how learning happens that’s how you know
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inundation happens she are as distinct from
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learn more songs teaching me something I’m just kinda
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following along with construction on learning something through
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experimentation
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are
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occasionally I’m going to to notice a pattern
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on some a there another some variation from
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our and I think the world
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should always fit with my expectation to it and when there’s a difference between
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accusation the world
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has problem with the world someone to lead I still got the iron on stuff like
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sweet things
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that ass distant from
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I have an expectation about life for the world
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then does the light doesn’t up so I changed my expectation no expectation
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was
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you not upset for reality
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how ID form1 expectation it developed
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okay maybe people influence me to have their
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patient maybe not whatever once I
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realize that that expectation is not match
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then I release
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it as an expectation or ira clients so
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guilt has to deal with I wanna admit I was naive
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I don’t mind me I made it air I know I’m needed here
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I know I was naive but Ryan
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afraid of the consequences just acknowledging
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I’m human I made a mistake
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s guilt I don’t want to acknowledge
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regret and my own involved
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great thats guilt
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there’s resistance to simple disappointment are great
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resistance year rather than just being framed punishment and making it
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in taking action relationship guilt is
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like a I’ll paralyzing
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fear much were making up paralyzed
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you such intense fear punishment that someone
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has you know
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lol Kanak well increase do get confused they do
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you something a little
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up of may be a distraction
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not on some company somewhere cold
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coping coping mechanisms like a a Brita
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so this idea that there’s
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an expectation apostle parchment
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in fear why not
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why should someone occasionally
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expect punishment ornate cost classes
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on people cast list and then fear them
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and then maybe do something like on I’ll
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be cautious
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about what they say how they say who they say it himself
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nap kinder guilt is
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adapted that’s normal
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that’s pretty pretty normal really on
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then is nice is it accurate
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understandable and it can be adaptive
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are and then there’s the issue if I have fear
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who can I actually display
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or trust that your koosh is interested in me
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an hour and mature enough able to
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just the get just understand
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on in cases where the
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there’s a expectation for possible future apartment it’s very
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intense fear the might have
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in regard to the possible punishment then all sources really complex things
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can
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can happen page
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well hey
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I feel so so bad because
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you should happy here season
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over needed and I just
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I apologize it’s horrible that anyone would ever have to hear she’s in what
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must be
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so hard re so
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guilt
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is when I’m responsible for other peoples despite
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other people should be displayed I’m responsible for it
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and they’re gonna you know there’s going to be naked there could be negative
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consequences for me socially
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are that other people responded so I’m
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I’m just %uh I’m so sorry maybe I what
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you know I’ll divert people
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from what happened maybe a lot to sell other people as the ones to blame
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for the are arkansas
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so is it adapted to
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be tend to do the possibility social hush
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its yes is it um
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home it’s also
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relevant to be here where possibly social words
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including the increase decreased for me
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certain level or or up
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so I want you can’t possible futures and the
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up
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I also want to be tempted consequence disappoint people
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in when I’m I’ll
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if I’m scared at this point
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A reply about freedom, precision, and responsibility

December 7, 2014

(re-printed from facebook):

….The idea that a particular word can only have one valid definition is notably inconsistent with every dictionary that I have ever seen. It is also inconsistent with the entire history of legal systems (who define words and enforce a specific set of definitions for each word) and language in general.
As for the rituals of court systems regarding things like capitalization, I will say only a little, but it seem like a lot. Anyone who has a “racket” or angry tantrum against the local court sytems (or even in favor of them) may be challenged by what I say next (if you understand it).

When someone dies, their legal status is called an “estate” (like the Estate of John Lennon can be a party in a civil lawsuit or the beneficiary of a Life Insurance policy). The Estate as a legal entity (or a “legal fiction”) is simply an invented convenience (and, yes, an estate is just a legal corporation rather than a “lawful” living being).

 

In cases of a ruling of “legal incompetence,” then someone can be alive and yet be ruled “a ward of the court” and so on, like with the court (or some family member) taking complete authority “over their Estate” while a person is still alive. In other rulings like “mental incompetence,” a court may declare someone “unfit for criminal trial” and then send them to a mental hospital instead of sentencing them to prison.

Court officers (including cops in a traffic stop) virtually always are interacting with citizens as if the citizens are incompetent in some way (presuming incompetence and then baiting people to consent to solicitations using the licensed fraud rituals that are only legal for oath-sworn members of their “priesthood.”) Court rituals include instructing people to argue, then presuming that by complying and presenting an argument (or answering a question) someone is voluntarily granting jurisdiction (which in fact they are). Further, courts are part of an ancient system of organized coercion (as referenced elsewhere) and if a court officer announces a new ritual and then sentences someone (even someone who is not present and has no knowledge of a proceeding) to immediate execution by torture, what is unusual about that when reviewing human history such as the Holy Inquisition?

Courts publicize rulings like “This suspect is wanted, dead or alive, with a $25,000 reward.” In other words, they can order assassinations… with an explicit promise to pay whoever acts as their mercenary (their hitman). They are the “shot-caller” because they “call the shots” or issue the commands of which target to shoot. However, they never fire the shots. They simply *call* the shots.
Back to “agency,” there is also the issue of “competence” in regard to children: a court can rule that a child (like a minor) cannot create a valid contract (which is why there are laws for statutory rape- because a 16 year-old is treated as lacking the ability to give legal consent… which magically appears on their 18th birthday from a legal standpoint). That is very related to the idea of agency used in the LDS (Latter-Day Saints) church, but clearly not identical.

The age range that the LDS church specifies is related to the foundations of self-awareness and self-discipline. We could say that “agency *sprouts* at 7 or 8 and then is presumed to be legally *perfected* by age 18 (or 21 etc).”

 

As for Megan’s comment about “the real world,” there is an issue of incremental transition in contrast to sudden disorientation. When someone is under a lot of restriction and it is suddenly all released, then that is naturally disorienting. However, when there is a gradual shift of responsibility, that can promote prudence.

For instance, if someone goes from an unrestricted life and then on to a Mormon mission, that would be challenging. Further, to go from a very restricted lifestyle to no supervision would also be challenging. However, to go from intense restriction then on to a Mission (with similar restrictions but also more responsibility) could be a gradual shift of freedom and responsibility.

 

In my observation of Mormon families since the 1990s, the extended family unit typically encourages young adults to take on big responsibilities early in life (such as parenting!!!) but also offers far more support and partnership than, well, the vast majority of “subcultures” that I have ever seen. The extended family is willing to be very involved (perhaps even without any special competence)

But if I grew up helping to raise 4 younger siblings and also frequently babysat 12 nieces and nephews or cousins, then what would all that experience and responsibility mean? It could mean that I would be much better prepared to begin parenting at 17 or 21.

What if as a new parent, I have 10 experienced babysitters locally available (in my own family) plus 20 extended family members within 6 hours (some teenagers with no experience and some grandparents with decades)? Then not only might I be better prepared for parenting, but I might have fa more support and mentoring than “the average person.”

As for Cheri’s comment that Carl is “playing on words,” I would say “both yes and no.” I think that he is exploring. Yes, he is only “playing with words,” although with a motive to learn and to discover and to advance a conversation that interests him. He knows that he is operating with a degree of confusion and imprecision and he is taking actions to resolve it.

I think Cheri is very clear on a certain sets of distinctions (and I completely agree with her on those). She is speaking from experience in “the real world” and not from second-hand idealism (even if her words echo prior speakers).

Beyond that overlap (in which her comments and mine are extremely consistent with each other), her focus and my focus (or her terminology and my terminology) certainly go in distinct directions on occasion. She operates from a context that I consider “extremely helpful in some cases, but not essential.” In other words, what she has been presenting is for me “not incorrect.”

In her context, her communications are totally correct. If someone does not repsect her context, then how could they really communicate with her? (And if she does not respect theirs, a similar issue would be present.)

 

 

 

Finally… self-respect can also be very important. When someone’s “respect” for the Almighty deepens (and not just the worship of a particular tradition in the use of language, but direct respect for the Almighty), then self-respect and respect for others become “non-issues.” In other words, any prior issues resolve (by grace).

Regret is a non-issue too (so I am talking here about something beyond the “non-essential context” presented by the Abraham teachings of Esther Hicks). Shame is a non-issue and salvation is not just an ideal. The supreme freedom of salvation is simply a label, in that case, for a present experience.

Choose: resentment or freedom?

October 6, 2014

You know the people that we do not even know personally, but that we say we resent? Well, they may not really be the people that we resent.

What happens is that we experience resentment relating to actual interactions in our lives and then we might find some uninvolved people that we feel safe to identify as the target of our resentment. Maybe we post comments on facebook about the people that we are willing to say that we resent (and maybe we lose a few facebook friends over it, so then we may resent them for not being more agreeable to our prejudices).

Also, what if we have never resented anyone for what they actually did? What if we have only ever resented anyone for not doing something that we expected for them to do?

They betrayed us, right, by exposing our expectations and presumptions as merely being expectations and presumptions. They ruined everything, right?

Maybe they did. Maybe they ruined “everything” in terms of exposing immaturity and insecurity and pretense and arrogance. However, “ruining everything” may be one of the best things that could ever happen to someone.

When someone does not do something for me that I am afraid to do for myself, what is that called? That is called (by many people) “a natural justification for resenting them.”

Admit the fear. Welcome courage.

We could withdraw the displaced resentments toward people we do not even know (like some CEOs or some politicians or some random troll on facebook that really pisses off us). We could admit the resentments that we have harbored against people much closer to us. We have held grudges. We have intentionally repulsed people and have also made excuses for withdrawing.

What if it was okay for me to just openly withdraw? What if I could withdraw without resenting anyone- people I know or people I do not know?

What if I gave other people permission to resent me? What if I stopped holding a grudge against them as a punishment for them holding a grudge against me that one time in 2003 or 1986?

When we go around shouting out our list of resentments (like on facebook), there may be a lot of people who click like. Contempt can be very popular. It can even be a justification for getting up in the morning and who am I say to that it is not as good a justification as any other?

Contempt and resentment may be wildly popular. But that does not make them fun, does it?

If you are interested in having fun, contempt and resentment are practices that can distract from having fun. If you are interested in freedom, then you would be interested in having fun.

Are you? Are you really?

Exactly how interested in freedom are you? Or, do you flee from it in terror in to the familiar arms of resentment?

wrote:

I choose resentment over so called delusional freedom anyday. Why? Because who wants to ignore the obvious truth that all of American luxury or “benefits” is had because of bloodshed and violence? You and yours alike it seems…maybe I am just envious that I can’t be as cold and heartless as CEO’s and the elite. That if at a young age I could just ignore WHY I was surrounded by so much wealth I could have APPLIED my compulsive delusional liar self and been one of the heartless. Give me liberty or give me resentment and I will choose the latter thank you very much.

JR replied:

Why are you so concerned about blood or violence? Do you know that you were trained to abstain from violence (through threats of violence) and then you were trained to have contempt for all “improper / unauthorized” acts of violence.

My comments on resentment are not “be ashamed that you have ever done it and stop doing it.” My comments include “notice the possibillity of displacing resentments that originate with personal interactions and projecting those resentments on distant, vague villains” (like bloodthirsty CEOs and of course the vile and coercive Pirates from Pittsburgh- which is the name of a baseball team that Daniel likes). Further, notice that disappointments that are systemic in origin are often BLAMED on people that we actually interact with.

So, the creation of expectations is systematic, and thus the disappointment is systematic (notice that most everyone has a very similar set of disappointments). Then, we interact with people who we find disappointing because we have delusional expectations from instutitions. Also, they are disappointed by us because they have basically the same delusional expecations from institutions.

The resentment is personal. I resent those who are “arrogant” enough to violate my delusional expectations, including my expectations that they be relaxed and mature (unlike me) when I violate any of their delusional expectations. WTF?!?!?!

So, the resentment is personal, but I project it at relatively distant groups (like at the Federal Reserve or the KGB or the jocks in high school, etc). Realistically, the jealousy / resentment / etc runs in a spectrum, but I raise the issue of people displacing their resentment far away from the true “sore spot.”

That is a coping mechanism. It is so effective that some people use a sequence of different targets of resentment for decades and decades.

After I have the courage to bring the focus of my resentment back to having a delusional expectation that someone violated (and then resenting them for it), next I can admit my terrified condemnation of their non-compiance with my sacred expectation(s). I can repent. I can withdraw my condemnation of their non-action or action. I might even apologize.

“My mother should not have spanked me because that is violent. So, I will now hate her forever because obviously she does not really love me and bla bla bla….”

Now, I notice that I had a mother (actually, two). Yes, I got spanked a few times. So the fuck what?

“The cop who arrested me scratched my wrist and broke one of my fingernails and totally messed up my hairstyle!” Wow, yeah, that is probably the first time that something like that has ever happened to anyone, right?

  • Daniel Fritschler Yeah I hear you. So after a few more decades I may find the courage to repent? Can’t wait
  • Daniel Fritschler I certainly wouldn’t want to let go of programmed resentment now and be at peace…not when there could be some more years of frustration and anger right?
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  • J R Fibonacci Hunn Recall that my definition of “repenting” is simply to acknowledge the experience of fear (past or present). It happens in an instant, not through a 49 second ritual.
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  • J R Fibonacci Hunn (The only relevant ritual would be relaxing with a curiosity in the direction of recognizing what is the origin of the fear, but that is not actually important generally.)
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  • J R Fibonacci Hunn Even if no institutions gave me expectations, I would have formed tons of them by myself. Whenever I have been scared that my expectations may be violated (false), there is an opportunity to repent.

    If you get that resentment is an actual behavior that takes energy and concentration and persistence (and language), then you can just notice it come and go. Let it be.

    Chasing peace is a common form of agonizing. Peace just comes and goes. Agonizing just comes and goes. Anger just comes and goes. Frustration just comes and goes. Courage just comes and goes.

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  • Daniel Fritschler Damn which way did [they go] anyway? That is a lot of coming and going. So you mean things come and things go and we are just supposed to allow the coming and going to occur? What about the force man? Or the blue and red pills?
  • J R Fibonacci Hunn There is no issue of allowing things to come and go. They just do. So do we- we just show up and then eventually we are just gone… but not within our own experience.

    In one’s own experience, the self is immortal and eternal. The self is the trunk of the tree from which all over sensations and experiences arise.

    • Daniel Fritschler I resent myself is the truth I think it is called self loathing and a blast…. What better thing to do on a drunken island with only delusion all around you haha
    • Daniel Fritschler Wow that was really good…..so simple how you explain that…..I like it
    • J R Fibonacci Hunn It is not a new message, but I may not have been saying it so concisely much. So what?!?!
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    • Daniel Fritschler Well I am just admiring your “I can typing!!!” As to dummy it down enough for even a dummy could understand. Not that there is one here… only geniuses in the room of course
    • J R Fibonacci Hunn If you loath an idea of yourself for a while, that is a common practice amongst folks who have been duped by the mainstream culture and are embarrassed at the extent to which they have been duped. You can loath that idea and then loath it some more and eventually all of that attention and loathing may be like the shedding of a snake’s skin.

      As you get familiar with the idea of yourself that you were programmed to have (or otherwise inherited- whatever), then you can go from terror and loathing to respect and amusement and admiration. Self-loathing results in someone becoming secluded or isolated and that isolating serves to give one the opportunity to experience life without social routines to distract us.

      Great work with the self-loathing. You may have it nearly mastered and then you can start teaching it to others who are ripe.

    • J R Fibonacci Hunn Some genius once said “notice the function.”


mantras of freedom and suffering

November 1, 2012
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mantra (Photo credit: mailumes)

中文: 敦煌藏經洞版畫,聖觀自在菩薩千轉滅罪陀羅尼。

中文: 敦煌藏經洞版畫,聖觀自在菩薩千轉滅罪陀羅尼。 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

mental chainsMany mantras of helplessness begin with words like “I should be free, but I am not free because those other people are….” I could call that a mantra of blame or resentment (or envy). We are free to practice mantras of helplessness and blame and resentment and victim hood and indignation. That is how some use their freedom. Some use their freedom to train complacency and to chain powerful beasts to chairs and to program the masses with various mantras about future liberation and rituals of slavery that promise freedom in only seven years or seven lifetimes.

Those who promote rituals promising future liberation or salvation- if they know that their promises are ridiculous jokes- may even offer a service of promoting liberation as they present people with the possibility of interrupting their karmic mantras of suffering by drawing attention to the fact that their karmic suffering is entirely a matter of neuro-linguistic spiritual programs of “symbolic context.” Symbolic contexts are inherently “empty and meaningless” (and it is empty and meaningless that they are empty and meaningless).

This is not the truth, and there are no words that have a monopoly on “the truth.” Truth is merely a word. If you want truth, you can feel the wind on your face or listen to the sound of traffic in the distance. Furthermore, if you do not want truth, you can also feel the wind on your face or listen to the sound of traffic in the distance.

The truth of the letter O is that it is a round shape. There! Did the truth set you free? Or, were you already free and the truth just used some symbolic metaphors to dissolve the illusion that you were trapped, such as trapped by words?

If you make a word or set of words in to “the truth” (as a context or as a way of relating to it), then it becomes a chain of slavery (as long as people relate to it that way). People may call such truths fundamentalism or superstition or statements of faith or idolatry or fanaticism. Beware of such so-called truth. Delusions about “the truth” can be the most challenging so-called “mental chains” to notice that you are pretending to hold on to.

http://thetruthaccordingtotrey.blogspot.com/2012/08/are-your-chains-mental-or-physical.html

creating freedom (through courage and curiosity)

April 14, 2012

Curiosity brings clarity, then courage, then creation, which is freedom.

Freedom is something to exercise from within, not something to eventually get from without. Freedom is fundamentally not something to be delivered by another- not by a release from confinement, debt, or other obligation, not by the acknowledgment and protections of a social authority, and not by collaborating with others to establish a revolution or new order. All of those are secondary and may or may not arise from the exercising of freedom. Freedom is already present and available to be practiced and developed- always.

The essential freedom is what is traditionally called freedom of thought. Ultimately, freedom of action is a conceptual impossibility. One may be free to do some specific action, but one is not free to do all actions. One might be able to go either east or west, but can one go in both directions at once?

In contrast to action, which is fundamentally limited by circumstance, one is free to explore any thought whatsoever. Through exploring freedom of thought, practicing this freedom and developing this freedom, then certain actions may be recognized as relevant, including actions that one may have never considered before.

This stage of freedom of thought is the stage of the transition from curiosity to clarity. When a particular action is clearly relevant, then courage is possible. We could also use the word commitment rather than courage, for no fear is required. However, when fear is present along with clarity, we can call that courage. So, courage is just one form of commitment. However, be clear that fear in no way cancels commitment.

In contrast, fear focuses attention toward a particular value or commitment. Fear is the same energy that, in the presence of clarity, manifests as courage.

Thus, when there is fear without the commitment of courage, that is a sign of a lack of clarity. Further, when there is a lack of clarity, that is a sign of a lack of curiosity. There is never an absence of curiosity, just a relative degree of curiosity for various possible priorities. When curiosity is concentrated and refined to the point of clarity, only then is commitment or courage possible.

Finally, in the presence of courage (or any other form of commitment), action arises. The activity that arises is a creative action. In fact, all action is creative, from every word to every movement. Actions that may be called destructive, such as dis-assembling some composite into pieces, are not literally destructive.

What is sometimes called destruction is actually conversion. For instance, the burning of wood does not destroy the wood so much as convert it into heat and light and smoke and ashes. However, it is also valid to use the term destruction when referencing an instance of converting something from one thing into another.

Just be clear that all forms are temporary. Change is the way of life. Be curious about change and soon change will manifest through you in harmony both with circumstances (which is the outward manifestation nature) and with your inner nature- a harmonizing or partnering of outer circumstances and one’s inner condition.

Your inner nature is creation, which arises naturally from curiosity, then clarity, and then courage. Circumstances develop in consequence of the manifesting of your inner nature, which is creation (creativity). Rather than focus on changing outward circumstances, also called reform as in reacting against circumstances, like in opposition or protest to one or more emerging circumstances, one may be curious as to the manifesting of one’s inner nature outward, that is, creating. The eternal process of creating, which has already been and which continues always, is the way of freedom, the tao of freedom, the expression of freedom, the development of freedom, the creating of freedom.

J.R. Fibonacci is a specialist in freedom of thought and the booming practical issue of financial freedom.

Published on: May 26, 2010

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the secret of reverse pyschology propaganda: resistance is creative attention

April 1, 2012

Resistance is attention and attention is creative.

This posts arises from a dialogue. Here is how it started.

Reverse of the Series 1934 $100 Gold Certificate

Reverse of the Series 1934 $100 Gold Certificate (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Mrs. Hope Johnson wrote:
“Thanks everyone for your comments on this post. They have helped me to more deeply understand resistance and how it can be used to bring about peace and freedom.

Here’s a link to my most recent article, inspired by my interaction with all of you: http://www.thewaytotheway.com/2009/10/27/conscious-resistance/ ”

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My response to her:

Hope, here is my reply to your post, with two links added at the end here. Your conversation is to me like a push against a stack of dominoes that I have been setting up for the last 7 years. Thanks and do enjoy. Comments are of course welcome.

US gold certificate (1922)

US gold certificate (1922) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

re: “Just as eating optimal nutrients resists decay in the body by promoting physical health, so too does peaceful assertion of individual rights resist controlling or oppressive governmental forces by promoting freedom.”

I think of this re “assertion:” as we exercise authority, freedom, sovereignty, responsibility, and prudence, we practice intelligence in our investments of attention and other resources such as money. We organize our finances not around the default legal structures that benefit governments- like automatically putting our assets and revenues under “our own” SSN (it’s actually the SSA’s account, not yours or mine) and in our own legal name (again, a structure that is “legal fiction” as a corporate citizen franchise under the accounting and jurisdiction of the USA or UK or EU etc), such that they are exposed to maximum taxes and court liabilities.

In regard to the legal status of “CITIZEN,” I offer this quotation:
Citibank… is deemed a citizen of any state in which
it physically maintains branches.” – US District Ct of
Appeals, 1st Circuit, December 19, 2005.
See also http://groups.yahoo.com/group/redpill_info/msearch?query=citizen+citibank&submit=Search&charset=ISO-8859-1

Further, there is the matter of the prudent allocation of investments, whether in a charitable trust or other structure explicitly exempt from taxation and legally protected by courts from most legal challenges or controversies. Most people ignore the obvious set-ups of recent decades, such as the retiring of the baby boom, and thus were surprised by market developments that I and many others have been forecasting for quite a while. (See https://jrfibonacci.wordpress.com/up-next-investments/)

Rather than benefit from the emerging shift, many have poured themselves deeply into debt, aggressively entering markets like real estate and, more recently, gold. Citing the exact same rationalizations as gold investors did in the late 1970s, gold investors may be almost as disappointed as they were from 1980 to 2000… or even as disappointed as mainstream real estate investors have been recently and [according to my projections] will be much more so in the next few years… or even as disappointed as holders of US gold certificates in 1933, when the Federal Reserve foreclosed on the debts owed to it by the US Treasury and produced a “voluntary confiscation” by criminalizing the possession of gold certificates by US Citizens (but not foreigners, who were outside of the jurisdiction of the US and were not the underwriters or sureties of the debts incurred or billed to the taxpaying citizens by those Doing Business As the USA).

Detail of Preamble to Constitution of the Unit...

Detail of Preamble to Constitution of the United States Polski: Fragment preambuły Konstytucji Stanów Zjednoczonych (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Citizens may complain of constitutions and rights, rather than exercising their intelligence and responsibility. They may ignore the provisions in the US Constitution for the explicit acknowledgment of treaties as one of three components of the supreme law of the land:

Here is the “Supremacy Clause” of Article VI: “The judges of every
state shall be bound” by “this Constitution, the Laws of the United
States which shall be made in Pursuance thereof, and all Treaties
made, or which shall be made, under the Authority of the United
States, [which] shall be the supreme Law of the Land.”

For more, see http://groups.yahoo.com/group/redpill_info/msearch?query=%22supreme+law+of+the+land%22&submit=Search&charset=UTF-8

The basic thing is that people can argue amongst themselves while bullets and bombs are flying, or they can take action to promote security and prosperity. Operations of government begin and end. They are not to be relied on as if they are God- and neither is gold or silver or any currency or investment or legal structure.

I’ve written extensively on the psychology of what is shifting as well as the history and economics. Rather than allowing change to inform their own actions and benefit dramatically from the most obvious and sudden redistribution of economic resources that I personally know of, and perhaps in the recorded history of mankind, how many of us are instead complaining about things like that the FDA is “full of sh!t” STILL. Seriously, when was that not the case? (Their information and agenda is limited…. So what?)

Those who are arrogant shall be humbled. Those who are asleep shall be wakened. Those who are antagonistic shall be mired in conflict. Those who are judgmental shall be agonizing in the hell of shame and guilt.

Deutsch: Polizeiwagen der Federal Reserve Poli...

Deutsch: Polizeiwagen der Federal Reserve Polizeil (Bundesbankpolizei) English: Federal reserve police car, St. Louis, MO (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Pieces of this message are not new to any of us, right? However, when the last piece of the puzzle is put into place, even those of us who have not been looking at the picture on the box in which the puzzle came… will know what the puzzle shows when assembled. By the way, if the governments or mass media or churches give us a boxtop that does not match the actual puzzle that is in the box, that does not mean that we should wait for them to give us the correct blueprint or build the puzzle for us.

Put it all together. Do the math.

Many people will experience dramatic increases in various forms of suffering. We are not at fault for their suffering- nor then for own our past suffering. However, we have the opportunity now to learn as well as to teach.

The meek shall inherit the earth and receive abundance overflowing, but the price of giving up vanity and self-righteousness may seem too high for some, so life may “turn the tables” and raise the relative cost of keeping vanity. Thank heavens for that.

(see also: https://jrfibonacci.wordpress.com/the-eyes-to-see/
and https://jrfibonacci.wordpress.com/benefit-by-accepting-change/)

Published on: Oct 27, 2009

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Description: Newspaper clipping USA, Woodrow Wilson signs creation of the Federal Reserve. Source: Date: 24 December 1913 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

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Most of my life so far, I have claimed that desire is my enemy (or said something like that). Of course, it was a bit of a lie.

I have tried to control desire, but that is desire, too. Desire is of course the reason that I claimed that desire was my enemy. I desired to have desires other than my actual operating desires. In other words, I desired to suppress and repress and re-direct my desires.

That is what society does to organisms. Societies socialize organisms.

Societies glamorize desirelessness and curse desire as shameful and dangerous and evil. It is. Society should do what society does. However, just because desire is demonized, that does not mean that desire is not also valuable.

I was hiding desire to protect it, to save it for later, to hide it from those who may have found it terrifying (or at least inconvenient) – perhaps because they were terrified of their own desire. Or, maybe their desires conflicted with mine so they punished and suppressed my desire.

But we cannot be free of desire. Desire is our vitality. We can hide it or suppress it and that can be useful to survive, but even desiring to be free of desire is a form of desiring. I am free- free to have desire and free to hide desire and free to claim that I am not free and that my freedom is trapped by my freedom and by my desire and by any claim that I may claim to claim.

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I claim that you are also free. I claim that you are free to hide anything and deny anything and claim anything.

 

 

 

 

 

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humor: Winning Political Arguments

January 8, 2012
Winning Political Arguments
Have you noticed that every government in the world was started by heroes, at least according to the people who started any particular government? However, anyone who is trying to overthrow an existing government is a criminal, at least according to that existing government.
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So, how does that work exactly? Anyone who is in the process of overthrowing a government is a criminal, but if they succeed then they grant themselves amnesty or a presidential pardon or their conviction is overturned by the supreme court and then everyone else labels them heroes. Isn’t that right?
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Let’s take Nelson Mandela. To the government he was trying to overthrow, he was a terrorist, right? Then, eventually he was made in to a hero, right?
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In the US, there were a bunch of colonists who were terrorists to the British, who the colonists were trying to overthrow, and then when the colonists succeeded in overthrowing the British, the colonists were labeled heroes. Then, in the civil war in the US, the Confederate soldiers were either heroic or criminal, depending on who you asked and when you asked them.
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If some Native Americans were fighting against the colonists in America, the Natives were obviously terrorists, at least to the colonists. To the Native Americans, the invading colonists were the terrorists.
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So, basically, all governments are formed by criminal terrorists who eventually are considered heroes.  Anyone who is trying to overthrow an existing government is not a hero, unless they succeed. However, heroes are only heroes as long as no one overthrows them.
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People who are trying to overthrow governments never actually call themselves criminal terrorists. That is just what the existing government calls them.
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They call themselves things like freedom fighters and revolutionaries. Then, if they win, they call themselves heroes.
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Every existing government is called corrupt by some people who call themselves freedom fighters and revolutionaries. If you call a government corrupt, especially if you also call yourself a freedom fighter or a revolutionary, then there is probably some existing government somewhere calling you a criminal terrorist or at least a thought criminal.
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If some slaves are trying to escape slavery, they are criminals. If they fight for their freedom, they are terrorists, unless they win. If they win, then they are heroes. Of course, before long, someone may come along to call them corrupt and try to overthrow them or at least escape from their rule.
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Now, what does justice mean? Justice is whatever rules that the existing government uses, when referenced by them.
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However, when revolutionaries talk about justice, they mean some other rules or patterns besides the popular patterns of an existing government. So, justice means different patterns to different people. However, no matter who is using the word justice, justice is whatever pattern that those people want to promote.
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So, if opposing sides in a war or in a political debate are both calling for justice, that would be predictable, right? One side says “our side should win because that is the only way to promote justice.” The other side says something very similar: “our side should win because that is the only way to promote justice.” Every side in every political conflict in human history has said: “our side should win because that is the only way to promote justice.”
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In other words, justice always means “the reason that our side should win.” Justice is the justification for our side winning. Justice is justification.
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For the revolutionaries, they want to promote justice by replacing the corrupt leaders of the existing government. For the existing government, they want to promote justice by preventing the revolutionaries from competing with the heroes of the existing government.
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To an existing government, justice means keeping the old heroes as heroes and preventing any new heroes from overthrowing the old heroes. To a revolutionary competing with an existing government, justice means replacing the old victorious criminal terrorists with some new victors.
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The victors are the heroes. The losers are the villains.
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Maybe you have noticed that the good guys always win. Now you know why. The good guys always win because the winners get to tell the stories about who won and about why the victorious good guys defeated the bad guys.
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It does not really matter if the bad guys were still revolutionary terrorist criminals or were an existing government of corrupt former heroes. As long as the bad guys lost, that guarantees that they will be labeled as the bad guys. The winners label themselves the heroic good guys and the winners label their competition the corrupt criminal villain bad guys.
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So, in summary, the good guys always win. Why? Because they have justice on their side.
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What’s justice again? Justice is the justification that the victors give for why the bad guys were bad and corrupt, as in why some heroes would have ever competed with them. In other words, justice is the word at end of the following slogan used by all politicians everywhere: “our side should win because that is the only way to promote justice.”
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Maybe you want proof for the idea that the winners define who were the heroic good guys and get to tell their story of which kind of justice motivated them to compete and win. Great! How about this?
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Imagine the following campaign speech: “I am an extremely corrupt aspiring politician, in fact, a criminal terrorist. Why? Well, my justification is that the existing government is extremely heroic and good. Therefore, I seek to overthrow them in order to promote injustice.”
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Did you notice that there was something unusual about that campaign speech? Yes, right? Further, you may notice whether or not you have ever heard any politician say the following: “our side should lose because the other side winning is the only way to promote justice.”
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Want more proof for the idea that the winners define who were the heroic good guys and get to tell their story of which kind of justice motivated them to compete and to win? Well, here it is. This is the final and conclusive proof. This will convince you.
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When there is a sports championship, before the competition, both sides may get nearly equal media attention, right? There is at least some degree of balance, right? However, after the event is over, who gets more attention from the media, like more publicity, like almost of all of the publicity: is it the loser or… the winner?
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free from beliefs… about liberation

October 14, 2011

free from beliefs… about liberation

People are inherently free. People are even inherently free to train other people with punishments and rewards. People are free to influence behavior, like imposing inhibitions:

“keep your fingers away from the hot oven”

or

“only cross the street after you stop and look both ways to make sure that no cars are coming.”

Small punishments can be imposed to avoid more severe natural consequences. Punishments presumably would always be intended to promote the best interests of the one exerting attention and energy to impose the punishment. For instance, if a parent trains a child to avoid a certain danger, that is an expression of the parent’s interest in a certain kind of relationship with the child, like with a certain level of well-being for the child being essential to such a relationship.

Attention is interest. Punishment, therefore, is a form of interest. Reward of course is also a form of interest.

Further, the publicizing of punishments and rewards is a form of interest. The energy involved in making several reports of a single punishment (or reward) may be much less than the energy involved in implementing a single punishment (or reward). Note that reporting something may be conducted falsely or in a misleading way.

In advertising, people may advertise that a certain kind of activity is favorable, like an ad for a casino or for a lottery or for an insurance company. For instance, certain possible rewards may be exagerrated.

An ad may not reveal that the insurance company is in financial trouble and may be very unlikley to pay on all of its policies and liabilities. The ad may present the company and a particular investment as secure and safe and so on. The ad may not warn about the risk of inflation or warn about a major lawsuit in which the insurance company may lose at great expense. An ad may present an investment in the insurance company as if it is better in all ways than buying a lottery ticket. That is what the people who design ads are hired to do: influence behavior with emotional associations and, if relevant, rationalizations.

Will the mainstream media, funded by things like insurance companies and real estate advertisers and casinos, emphasize to the public the risks of the public doing business with those companies? That is just not what they are hired to do! If they did that, they would be fired.

So, people are inherently free. They are free to punish and to reward and to indoctrinate or propagandize.

Each capacity (as in capability) is a freedom. Each capacity to influence the attention, language, emotions, thoughts, and behavior of other people with a reward is a type of freedom. Each capacity to influence the attention, language, emotions, thoughts, and behavior of other people with a punishment is a type of freedom.

Since freedom is inherent, it is not provided from others, like from governments or from churches. Of course, people can influence other people’s capacity to perceive clearly and to thrive.

People may be trained to be easily manipulated (at least by certain influencers), stressed, cynical, unhealthy, poor, depressed, angry, afraid and so on. People may be trained to be dependent on certain psychological “essentials” which may offer diminishing rewards but severe punishments for withdrawing from a particular behavior or “psychological crutch.”

In accord with commercial interests, systems may be put in place to promote certain kinds of diets which may be metabolically detrimental or at least expensive to purchase. In accord with commercial interests, people may promote certain kinds of health care services and products over others (like pharmaceutical interventions designed to efficiently interupt and inhibit the functioning of the immune system).

People may be trained to rebel only through certain methods presented as legitimate or patriotic. They may be trained to focus on particular issues for arguing with others.

They may be trained that governments promote the freedom of all people. However, legal rights including civil rights refer to an artificial system of punishments. Violators of rights are threatened with punishment. For instance, the inheritor of a wealthy estate is protected from the masses by the hired guns of the court systems. The legal rights or property rights of the wealthy are not intrinsic, but are created through the governmental systems of organized coercion, which then legitimate the criminalizing of “trespassing” through whatever systems of propaganda, if any.

In simplest terms, the poor are provided the “civil right” to complain through government channels about how governments systematically favor certain people and certain interests over others. All governments redistribute resources to particular beneficiaries in particular. Those resources are acquired through coercive taxation and confiscation.

People may be encouraged to debate over political issues like how much more funding should special education students receive beyond regular students: twice as much, four times as much, half as much, etc? Or how much money exactly should be taken from productive members of society (the working classes) to pay to the unemployed, to unproductive retirees and to unproductive people with various disabilities? Further, exactly how much should be spent to kill foreigners near and far?

Notice that various groups of people may systematically answer these questions differently, such as depending on whether someone works in a particular field or has a particular circumstance themself. The disabled retired military veteran with no children may have a personal bias that is distinct from a couple of young working class parents with several children that are generally healthy.


So, there is no such thing as an inalienable right. There are just various capacities as in capabilities. These can change dramatically and quickly, such as in the first few years of a child’s life.

Also, no two people are created equal. No legal systems provide or promote aboslute equality. All legal systems provide various kinds of rewards and punishments.

While government propaganda may refer to a right to life for all people, governments are widely known to do things like conduct ambushes of enemy soldiers and to even surprise civilians with things like bombs and chemical weapons like Agent Orange. That might be enough to make some of the surviving civilians consider becoming soldiers.

In the case of the Declaration of Independence of thirteen united States, there was a reference to an inaliable right to liberty. However, in how many of those thirteen states at that time were a slave owner’s legal rights over their slaves established and promoted?

Court systems protect inequality. They do so using coercion and “hired guns” (deputies).

Some people may argue that court systems should not do that. However, the argument that court systems should not do that was established and promoted by court systems to obscure the simplest realities of the nature of their operations.

People are inherently free. People are inherently free to form court systems to establish and promote certain inequalities. People are inherently free to indoctrinate others about how and why those inequality-promoting court systems were established.

People are also inherently free to promote their own commercial interests, such as promoting certain kinds of foods and diets and health care services and investments. People are inherently free to invest their attention and resources in operating a business or being a customer of a business, whether that business is a casino, insurance company, health care business, or a court system and so on.

So, people are inherently free. However, people are only inherently free to exercise their actual capacities.

In contrast, people are not free with the capacities of a bird or of a fish. A bird is only free as a bird, not free to be swim as a fish or free to be a person. A fish is only free as a fish, not free to fly as a bird or free to be a person.

Any creature or organism has only and exactly whatever capacities or freedoms that it has. However, no one else makes anything else free or makes anything else be what it already is. Everything is already inherently free, but only in the exact ways that it is already inherently free.

People are even free to claim that some people can make others free as in set them free. One can certainly act to restrict someone else’s capacities and freedom, then later withdraw the restrictions. Withdrawing active restrictions may be called “setting free,” but whatever it may be called, it is simply the discontinuing or withdrawing of a punishment or restriction. You are inherently free.


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