Posts Tagged ‘fear itself’

How far should we claim to be from “inner peace?”

October 2, 2013

peace- Dr. wayne dyer

I generally like Dr. Dyer’s quote. Nevertheless, I think he is imprecise and even quite misleading.

Peace is not the result of any method. There is no transition required (though we may disturb ourselves with thoughts that “it takes time to eventually obtain peace“).

If we understand disturbance, then we know that there is nothing needed to calm the rippling waves of a bathtub full of water. We simply let the disturbance subside. We simply stop disturbing the water by adding motion to it.

Or we just let the disturbance be. So what? Why be paranoid by obsessively “avoiding paranoia?” Why be terrified of fear by fearing fear itself?

English: Photograph taken of Quaker meeting fo...

English: Photograph taken of Quaker meeting for business in the main hall of York University by Fran Lane (http://jasmine.19inch.net/~narflet/gallery2/main.php). (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Yes, there are “disturbing” thoughts about what should be and what should not be. We do not need to avoid them, which is just more agonizing about how “what should not be” is allegedly the new something that should not be. Huge amounts of “spirituality” are ramblings of utter confusion: both ironic and neurotic.

In peace, the difference between being contentious and being content are clear. In clarity, the difference between confusion and clarity are clear.

Confusion

Confusion (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

To say sincerely that “confusion should never arise” is ridiculous and purely neurotic disturbed naivete. Confusions can arise!

One who is at peace may respect confusion without fearing it or pretending that there could be a permanent cure for it and eventually humanity “should” find that cure. No, confusion is just mistaking one thing for something else. It is completely normal.

Also, to say sincerely that “contentiousness should never arise” is closed-minded, terrified, and… contentious! It is a fanatical, exclusive ideal which breeds contentiousness and argumentativeness and divisiveness and conflict.

That reminds me of the old familiar chant of the new agers and Quakers and so on: “we are better than you because we are above competitiveness.” That rather common hypocrisy is the extreme of unrecognized competitiveness and arrogance. That is contentious and confused.

confusion

confusion (Photo credit: torbakhopper)

However, if one reads the actual statements of the Quaker “central bureaucracies,” they may not be as “anti-conflict” as some idealists within the masses of Quakers. The actual statements may say things like “we prefer non-violence over violence.”

They recognize that contentiousness can be risky, dangerous. They are not confusing contentiousness with safety (or non-violence with security). They prefer safety and thus they prefer non-violence.

Quaker Meeting House

Quaker Meeting House (Photo credit: Salim Virji)

I was startled one Veteran’s day by the tremendous respect that a group of Quakers had for Military Veterans and even Police Officers. I had thought all Quakers were “against violence.”

I was wrong! (I suppose that when you have been in a war zone, you may have more respect for the sacrifices of the soldiers defending your homes and families.)

music video: “smile for the camera man” (the fear of tears)

September 7, 2013

SMILE FOR THE CAMERA MAN (THE FEAR OF TEARS)

To a little child, a sudden change is a big surprise, so I left the stage

with crying eyes and a shaking face. If I need to weep, would you be afraid?

& say: “Stop crying, boy. Just be a man. If you can tie your shoes, then you should never be sad.

Plus, everyone can see and you don’t want that. Hey, I’ll buy you ice cream if you just smile for the camera man.”

Black sesame soft ice cream. in Kakunodate, Ak...

Black sesame soft ice cream. in Kakunodate, Akita, Japan. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Come join the club… of the paranoid. We hide our tears and say “I’m just annoyed.”

We get so mad at the slightest thing because we’re never sad… at least that you can see.

Any sad folks, oh we pity them- by which I mean, privately condemn.

And that old man who knows that we’re afraid, we just avoid him… cause he must be insane.

We say: “Stop crying, boy. Just be a man. If you can tie your shoes, then you should never be sad.

Plus, everyone can see and you don’t want that. Hey, I’ll buy you ice cream if you just smile for the camera man.”

aldo's ice cream

aldo’s ice cream (Photo credit: surekat)

No, I’m not afraid, and I’m never sad- maybe frustrated, surely not mad.

Because I’m good… and that would be bad, so shut your mouth or I’ll give you some’n to cry about

I ain’t afraid of you! Who do you think you are? You’d better agree… or I’m ‘onna tear you apart.

You’re arrogant and rude. You got an attitude. We’ll put you in your place quick if you don’t change your tune.

Oh, everyone should be grateful for their past. Stop being so negative- cause nobody likes that.

You don’t want to end up being alone- as everyone knows. Cause then you’ll calm down and find out

that it’s all just a bunch of popular baloney.

Sincerity… plus confusion doesn’t add up to anything useful

Humility with curiosity goes a long way… well at least for me

Be like a child- maybe even cry… unless you like the hell of the fear of fear itself.

To be in heaven, just stop condemning… all the things you used to find terrifying.

You’d say: “Stop crying, boy. Just be a man. If you can tie your shoes, then you should never be sad. Plus, everyone can see and you don’t want that. Hey, I’ll buy you ice cream if you just smile for the camera man.”

ice cream van

ice cream van (Photo credit: Yersinia)

Stop crying, boy. Just be a man. If you can tie your shoes, then you should never be sad. Plus, everyone can see and you don’t want that. Hey, I’ll buy you ice cream if you just stop being so immature!”

Will you PLEASE just smile for the camera? Look, we really don’t have all day here….”

When Ice Met Cream

When Ice Met Cream (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


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