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Making friends with the hysterias of confusion, grief, shame, & blame

November 19, 2014

In the course of human events, people may notice preferences and even expectations. One of the most common ways to notice the presence of an expectation is when something else happens other than what was expected.

In contrast, when nothing is expected and something unfamiliar happens, there may be surprise and curiosity and, if there is much interest, learning. But when something is expected and does not happen, that can be quite different.

Instead of ignorance simply being replaced with the new stimulus or perception, when there is already an expectation, that is quite distinct from ignorance. The expectation implies that there is already interest. (If someone is not interested in something, then why form an expectation about it?)

Whenever an expectation is violated (which is inevitable), then there can be confusion. Note that confusion cannot arise without a pre-existing expectation that is erroneous. Total ignorance can lead to surprise, but not to confusion. (Surprises can be scary or fun or many other things.)

Only expectation can lead to confusion: “something is not how I expected it and I do not know why.” When there is an expectation plus an awareness of the violation of some expectation but no further clarity yet, that is called confusion. Someone may not even know which expectation has been violated.

That confusion can lead to seeking clarification and the refining of the expectations. However, that confusion can also lead in to a very distinct pathway, which we will briefly explore now.

I expect something. Something else happens. I am confused. (In other words, I notice that I was already confused about what would happen and then later I suddenly recognized my own prior confusion / erroneous expectation.)

But what next? How do I relate to my own confusion (my error / inaccuracy)? Is it okay to experience occasional confusion? Is it “to be expected?”

Is it ever overwhelming? Is it ever terrifying? Is it ever embarrassing?

Sometimes, an experience of confusion (from an unfulfilled expectation or violated expectation) may lead to embarrassment. Embarrassment is related to shame. That means that I experience fear about one or more other people’s perceptions of me and their behavioral reactions to me (such as violent attack, social shunning, or other punishments).

What next then? Do I withdraw (flee)? What if that simple response to stress is not available? How else could I promote safety?

Do I fight (to promote safety)? Do I freeze (to promote safety)? Do I fake (to promote safety)?

A common reflex for someone who is confused (and then embarrassed about it) is to cast blame. Blame can have an element of antagonism (as in a fight response to the fear / shame).

Blame is a type of complaint: “the only reason that ___ is because the weather is so unusually ______!”

That is basically a request for attention and sympathy. So is this: “the only reason that ______ is because of whoever I blame for this confusing and embarrassing development… and who I blame is ___!”

That is a totally understandable reaction. “I am so confused by the results of my actions that I am embarrassed and so in an effort to attract attention and sympathy and perhaps even assistance, I am blaming ________!”

“Other people should be more _____!”

“I should not have to ______!”

“Do you want to know what I think of that person? ______ is just such a ______!”

Now that I have presented some common patterns in language, you may notice that your behavior may have included some of these statements. (If so, then you are probably over the age of 2.) In fact, you may have noticed quite a few other people who are also over the age of 2, right?

To review, people (by the age of 2) will form expectations and then inevitably some of those get violated and so then people occasionally get confused (and perhaps ashamed about being socially witnessed as confused). That shame can lead to them casting blame.

Blame is a classic coping mechanism in the stages of grieving / learning. Blame can be a form of denial (as in a distraction from the underlying embarrassment or the underlying expectation that was not fulfilled).

Further, blame can lead to resentment, antagonigm, contempt, and lots of arguing: “I think that who is really to blame is not ____, but instead is __________. How can you even be so hysterical to suggest that _______ or that ________? You might as well be saying that _____?!?!?”

All of that is called hysteria. It is still a type of fear and a subset of shame. It is a defense mechanism in the realm of “I do not yet want to simply admit that I expected ________ and instead what actually happened was ______.”

So, how do people relate to the reality that expectations exist and can be violated? What about that confusion can arise, then embarrassment? What about that hysterical blame can arise and then hysterical defenses of the hysterical blame?

What about that sometime around the age of 2, most people develop the capacity to engage in arguments that may appear silly to outsiders? What about that some people continue those arguments for decades, even frequently triggering resentment and contempt so as to justify withdrawal from at least one person who is so unpredictable “because I refuse to update my own expectations in accord with their actual behaviors? I mean… why should I have to!?!?”

Or, maybe someone just seems too erratic for me at a particular time. Maybe my interest in them is not great enough to continue interacting with them because I am not ready to learn that fast. Maybe interacting with them is so challenging to my pre-existing expectations that I can only tolerate them in small doses. “That pesky pest is so annoying!”

If was simply bored, I would not be interested enough to argue, would I? People only argue for decades about things that interest them in some way. Further, people only argue with someone for decades if that other person interests them in some way.

How do I relate to people (such as 2 year-olds) who may on occassion experience confusion, shame, blame, and so on? Do I withdraw from them because they are manifesting a behavioral pattern that I have been repressing? Do I push them away with criticisms and condescension?

If I have been repressing shame, then wouldn’t I flee from any display of shame that scares me? Wouldn’t I flee from anything that scares me? If what scares me is the display of shame, would I flee from whatever scares me?

Further, if for someone reason I was not successful in fleeing, then wouldn’t I attempt to push away the perceived source of stress? Wouldn’t I increase my own stress hormones and go from flight mode to fight mode?

The point is that hysteria is a natural part of life. Some of them last only briefly and some can last decades or even centuries.

Hysteria is a type of fear and the sub-types of hysteria can include grief (a fear about how someone will adapt to some loss or absence) as well as shame (a fear of imagined future punishments) and blame. Blame, when expressed, can lead to compensation and apology and so on. Or blame can lead to other outcomes.

Consider the idea that “____ simply should not exist.” That may already be a form of distressed hysteria, right?

What is so frightening about the possible existence of something to someone that they should say it should not exist? What shames are they attempting to hide, if any?

“Hysteria should not exist! How can all these people still act like 2 year-olds? I mean, seriously, how come they don’t have totally accurate expectations about reality like I do? This is the most frustrating thing ever!”

“I really just don’t understand how all of these people don’t have totally accurate expectations like I do? It’s like they are just freaking out over unfulfilled expectations and that is not what I expected and it is totally freaking me out!?!?!”

“Yeah, that was totally weird, isn’t it? Hey, come jump on this bed with me!”

Why are ignorant jerks so frustrating?

March 27, 2014

We all begin with ignorance. In fact, we are so ignorant at first, that we do not even know it!

Without any effort, we can notice sensations like sounds and sights. We can observe things changing- contrasts and variations.

We may even experience repulsion in regard to other things that are stressful, like very bright lights or sudden loud noises. In contrast to repulsion (or simply a sense of caution toward the unfamiliar), we can also experience attraction to some things or interest in those things.  We can even experience both powerful curiosity and a conservative caution, like being very attentive to a surprising or even disturbing sound (very concerned and unable to focus on anything else, totally distracted or obsessed), but also very hesitant to actually act on our attraction, remaining completely still rather than attempting to identify the source of the sound.

We are still too surprised or shocked to know how to respond. At most, we pause for a period of alertness and simply wait to see if the excitement or stress fades.

So, while we are still ignorantly ignorant, we begin to take actions. We notice patterns, like every time we take a certain action, like crying, than there is a certain result. Maybe we learn that crying brings us attention from mother. Maybe every time that we cry, then she provides us milk. Of course, every pattern of cause and effect can change or even end.

So we can form expectations, but those expectations can be violated or disappointed. When expectations are disappointed, there can be a period of disorientation and confusion.

Confusion is quite distinct from merely being surprised. Surprise refers to the absence of expectation. Confusion instead refers to the presence of an expectation plus the violation of the expectation. I confuse one thing for another- I confuse what is actually happening for what I expected to be happening until I realize that what I expected and what is actually happening are not consistent. My expectation appears to have been simply wrong or imprecise. I was not just surprised by the presence of something unfamiliar, but by the absence of something familiar or expected. That can be quite exciting- even terrifying.


That confusion can lead next to a very distinct stage called exploration. Exploration is intentional learning to explore some mystery or curiosity by using a kind of logic called speculation. That is very distinct from a learning process that is accidental or incidental- like when we repeatedly take an instinctive action and then eventually observe a particular pattern of effects or results.

child on bike

Exploration involves a creative speculating. I may identify a series of actions or experiments to take in order to, first of all, confirm that my prior expectation really was violated. Second, I may attempt to identify other patterns of cause and effect that are beyond my previous presumptions about causes and effects.

So, experimentation is just an intentional exploration to identify cause and effect. Further, it may work well or not at all.

Is a particular experiment always valuable? Is it always fast? Is it always reliable? Are there ever inaccurate presumptions or logical speculations that are later determined to be questionable or even clearly imprecise?

The methods for measuring results can change. The attraction to particular results can shift (with the attraction increasing or decreasing, even to the point of repulsion, like the older child who no longer wants to be seen in public riding a tricycle).

Exploration can be frustrating. Why? Because prior experiments may have been generally fast and successful. Maybe an expectation has been formed that exploration would be easy- or should be easy.

I may expect that, supposing that a certain thing happens, or should it ever happen, then a particular effect will arise. “It simply must,” I could say in exasperation or desperation. “What are all of those other people doing ahead of me in this line? This is so unfair! Seriously? SERIOUSLY!?!?!”

Maybe I expect particular other people to be able to guide me. Maybe I expect them to not only have the ability to guide me but further to drop everything whenever I cry or whine so that they can have the great privilege of investing their time in to guiding me and supporting my explorations.


So, let’s review. We’ve covered the original ignorance, then observing sensations and contrasts, then experiencing attractions and repulsions, including very disruptive surprises. Further, we learned to form expectations, which can be disappointed, leading to confusion. We can experiment to resolve confusions, though that can be a source of great frustration or of great relief.

We can even reach a point of such desperation that we lash out at others to repel them or attempt to attract their involvement and assistance and expertise. When people are frustrated, they have been frustrated by violated expectations that are confusing to them.

Frustration is not a type of clarity, but a type of confusion- also mixed with a distinct attraction to a result. When people have had an expectation, then it has been violated leading to confusion, plus they are very attracted to some particular result, then they may experience frustration. Only during frustration, do they get desperate enough to speculate about blaming some alleged source of their repulsive experiences: like what to blame or who to blame for the frustration, confusion, and disappointment.

Someone like that may even be very irritable or highly sensitive about public observation of their confusion or disappointment. Even without any sense of blame, they may tend to be volatile and aggressive to protect themselves from interruption to their process of grieving and relaxing and intentional learning.

They may display behaviors that are unusual for them and be labeled a weirdo or a jerk. Others may ask “why are they so critical about such minor issues?” The simple answer may be that they currently prefer privacy and relaxation to publicity and stress. Maybe they attempt to minimize any interactions that are not very attractive and valuable to them, such as anything that they consider “too predictable” (as well as anything “too unpredictable”).

What is valuable to a person who is being a jerk? Like anyone else, they may value a sense of safety and perhaps also social validation. They may value interacting with people who display clarity and precision and competence- people that they are comfortable trusting.

They may be frustrated with anyone who seems to them to be desperately worshiping unreliable expectations. They may attribute very little value to people who seem to be afraid of any uncertainty or disappointment or frustration or controversy. They may especially value interacting with people who are experiencing a similar kind of exploration to their own.

Those jerks are being critical, being selective, being unusually logical. They have preferences and interests that may be rare or even exclusive. Other people may call them snobs. Oddly enough, these snobby snobs are in fact so snobby that when others criticize them, they do not even erupt in to tantrums of panic like normal people. Why aren’t they paranoid abot pleasing everyone all of the time?

They are total jerks. They are complete snobs.

By the way, I am not jealous of them. I do not wish I was as calm and comfortable as they are. That is crazy.

They suck because I do not understand them at all. How can they be like that? It is wrong. It violates my expectations. I hate them very much because I have no interest in them whatsoever.

In fact, they clearly should be more interested in me! It is a disgrace that they are so confusing and frustrating and disappointing.

I am ashamed of them. I am ashamed of how they act. I am ashamed of… um… I am ashamed… um… of…  oh, yeah… I am ashamed… of other people! And I am very proud of it, too.

Excuse me, but didn’t you just say, “I am ashamed…?”

No, I said that those other people, that they are shameful and horrible and upsetting because they do not behave the way that I expect them to and they owe it to me to fulfill all of my expectations because I am a very sincere person and that is just the way it is. I’m just telling it like it is here, right? Aren’t I? Don’t you agree with me?

I’m only asking you if you agree because I am planning to physically assault anyone who makes jokes about not agreeing with me with the proper enthusiasm like I deserve. In case you did not know, I am going straight to heaven just as soon as God realizes that I have earned being rewarded with eternal paradise… yeah, that’s right, baby- just as soon as God gets off of his snobby butt and starts eternity.




How idealism leads to confusion, distress, guilt, blame, and ill will

December 21, 2013

Emperor Fristchler started this conversation, by commenting on the below image:

Pretty cool right? Hail to Caesar!!!! Now spend the rest of your time and energy kissing everybody’s ass just to be next to broke anyways….great plan….ready, break! ….

let’s all create a world where wealth is God, where bread is my idol and that way we can rest peacefully and comfortably in our own delusion…wow why didn’t somebody think of this plan sooner. Only 7 billion people have but you would think more would. God bless Caesar.

Julius Caesar, Summer garden, Saint-Petersburg

Julius Caesar, Summer garden, Saint-Petersburg (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

How to create your own Personal Jesus (savior)? Which we all will anyhow… one question though: who needs saved? And from what? Your own idealism?

Let go now….surrender….jump off the cliff and trust that you don’t need no stinking idealism (movie quote: “I don’t need no stinking badges!”) or therefore a savior…just turn dough into bread and then bread into wine and then worship it the rest of your lives or live life within the smoke and mirrors.

JR replies:

Inequality is mathematically impossible. That is why we must devote our lives not to practical matters, but to saving the world from a mathematical impossibility.

Or was it equality that is mathematically impossible? Eh, I forget which.

Either way, alertness and clarity are not important. Contempt is holy.


Wealth (Photo credit: alexjtam)

What we should do is follow the programming of the elite which is that we should focus on some idealism about wealth. “People pay too much attention to wealth!” Aha- that is an excellent idealism, so try that one.

People who use the word wealth are the problem. People who use the word idealism are the problem. People who use the words idealistic contempt are the problem.

If it was not for language, we would not have all of these problems, right? If it was not for breathing and oxygen and the solar system, then things would not be so flipping complicated and that is why I am disappointed with how frustrated you should be, so that you can be more like me!

Whatever the problem is, there clearly is one, right? Also blame cannot be the problem. Vilification is not it either. Those are unrelated to each other, to me, and to problems.

The only problem is wealth, which is evil, and the only problem is a particularly evil distribution of wealth, and a particular idealism about the evil distribution of evil wealth, and a particular contempt derived from some linguistic idealism about the very evil distribution of wealth which obviously should not be how it should not be.

So, I am sure that there is a problem and all that matters is that we make up one (not two!) and then operate in distress to save the world from it, or to prevent it, or to reverse it. Distress is the answer- not agonizing! Agonizing is in no way related to distress or confusion, so stop saying that please!

Awareness, alertness, clarity, and noticing the function of things are the only problem. In fact, a really old tradition has a written document that says so in a language that I do not personally understand, but I still KNOW what it says because this one other person who is not fluent in that language either said so very confidently.

People should not be so confused by religious rituals, legal codes, jokes, psychological warfare, delusions, or reverse psychology.
They are not designed specifically to cause confusion, so why is everyone so argumentative over “what does the word gristibular REALLY mean?”

Obviously, it is a real word, so it just means gristibular. In every language that has that word in it, it means the exact same thing. Everyone who uses it- no matter what culture or situation or context or connotation- everyone knows that gristibular is a verb that means “to argue the right way over which definition of a word is the only right one, thereby identifying who is a traitor to all things that are holy and therefore should be immediately condemned for using the wrong definition and ruining my life forever, resulting in me probably going to hell when I die and being trapped in argumentative distress and idealism and confusion and bliss and gratitude.”

People keep acting like it is a code and it could mean more than one thing, but if there is one thing that I know about codes, it is that they do not mean more than one thing. This is ridiculous and far too symbolic, plus slightly ironic, but since I do not have a sense of humor, I do not even use that word.

You know the one I mean. Don’t make me say it again!

You are just trying to cause a bunch of fake drama again, aren’t you? You are a DISTRACTER!

In conclusives, confusion is the problems, not blame. We must prevent it, save the world from it, and experience distress about how confusion is the cause of misinterpretation, naive foolishness, and lack of comprehension.

Ready… break! <CLAP>

Why do the players on the Pittsburgh Steelers football team struggle against the other team? Why don’t they all just stay on the bench and watch the game?

Plus, what if the other team loses? Won’t they feel bad? They should be guilty for scoring more points than the other team. They are selfish and competitive and it is not CHRISTIAN to be so much like how they should not be.

They are too idealistic. THAT is their problem!

Wealth in America

Wealth in America (Photo credit: uvw916a)

That is why there are too many players on the field. There should not be 11 or 22. There should be zero. Everyone should have equality, which means that there should be no one on the field, no one watching, and no one doing anything interesting because that is being a DISTRACTER and an AMUSER and an ENTERTAINMENTAL.

Avoid that. Or else you will go to hell in a retard helmet. That is far worse than in a handbasket.


Clarity about fear, shame, shyness, and courage

October 25, 2013

Clarity about confusion 

Some predators thrive on your confusion. They cultivate new confusions. They identify your old confusions to exploit you. They confuse you and then manipulate you through promises of future reward as well as subtle intimidation and exploiting insecurity.
One of the most popular confusions in modern times is the idea that fear is dangerous. That is ridiculous.
English: Robert Plutchik's Wheel of Emotions

English: Robert Plutchik’s Wheel of Emotions (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Clarity about fear

Fear is the perception of danger. Perceptions can be imprecise or even quite inaccurate, so it is functional to have an accurate perception of danger.
That means to accurately identify real dangers as dangerous. For instance, to fail to identify initial indicators of danger can be catastrophic.
It is also important to accurately identify safe things as safe. So what is the real issue with fear?

Clarity about shyness

Anxiety is a state of mild paranoia in which even things which are actually safe will be avoided. Another word for mild anxiety like that is shyness.
Shyness is about a lack of confidence in one’s own ability to precisely make quick assessments of safety and danger. Rather than risk mistaking any dangerous thing as something safe, shy people simple withdraw.Based on a history of past assessments that were wrong and resulted in fear or panic, shy people habitually withdraw in a constant state of mild paranoia (suppressed panic). Rather than confuse dangerous things as safe, shy people simply habitually reject anything unfamiliar. They may eventually relax and withdraw their reflexive rejection if they are gently exposed to something in a way that is safe for them to privately and calmly investigate it.
What most shy people do not know is that what I just describe fits the vast majority of the population. However, shy people wrongly presume that they are very rare. Below is why.
Dangerous Risk Adrenaline Suicide by Fear of F...

Dangerous Risk Adrenaline Suicide by Fear of Falling (Photo credit:

Clarity about governments promoting shame, shyness, and fear

In fact, there is a culture of the suppression of fear (and the accurate assessment of danger). Governments are operations of organized violence which can dramatically increase the efficiency of their operations of terror through propaganda. If they can merely threaten social ostracizing and produce conformity and compliance, then the actual frequency of incarceration and violence against civilians can be dramatically reduced.
So, should we protest that governments are violent or that they systematically use propaganda to deceive, to distract, and to promote confusion? For what purpose would we protest?
Those who fear social ostracizing will predictably make some “heroic” display of contempt for certain governments (whether “our enemies” or “our own traitorous leaders”). After they display their condemnation and then receive congratulations from all of those who also think of the display of contempt as heroic, then what?

Clarity about authentic courage

Then nothing! The details of the operation of governments is simply a fact. They all mislead the masses by the programming of perception through public schools and the mainstream media regulated by or operated by governments.
Governments are all violent and it is quite functional for civilians to accurately assess the ability and willingness of governments to use violence. However, it is quite effective for governments to terrify the majority of the population and also for there to be a culture which shames anyone who displays fear. Fear is targeted as the great evil.
In the US, Presidents have famously promoted paranoia by saying “the only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” The fear of fear is also known as paranoia and it is obviously hypocritical, but, in a state of sufficient terror of social ostracizing, the masses suppress their own EXPRESSION of fear, denying it, pretending not to experience it. This leads to virtually everyone experiencing shyness and yet virtually no one daring to admit it.
So, everyone inaccurately perceives themselves to be unusual, shameful, disloyal. However, it is not disloyal to be afraid of the violence of governments. It is simply a precise assessment of danger.Fear by itself does not result in rebellion or contempt. Quite the opposite, fear results in “a healthy respect.” So, when there is fear from an accurate assessment of danger and one takes a risk anyway, that is true courage.
English: Group photo in front of Clark Univers...

English: Group photo in front of Clark University Sigmund Freud, G. Stanley Hall, Carl Jung; Back row: Abraham A. Brill, Ernest Jones, Sándor Ferenczi. Photo taken for Clark University in Worcester, Massachusetts publication. Česky: Foto z Clarkovy univerzity roku 1909. Dole (zleva) Sigmund Freud, G. Stanley Hall, Carl Jung, nahoře (zleva) Abraham A. Brill, Ernest Jones, Sándor Ferenczi (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Life after shyness?

What does someone do after they “recover” from neurotic shyness? They probably continue doing most of the things they were already doing, but with increased efficiency since they no longer are investing energy in pretending to never be afraid or hiding the expression of fear.
Rather than reject fear in terror, they welcome fear and are interested in making precise assessments of safety and danger. Those who relax enough to respect fear can also stop repressing disappointment and frustration.
Rather than reject disappointment in terror, the various forms of disappointment can be interesting or even fascinating: sadness, sorrow, guilt, grief, and so on. Disappointment is welcomed as something that reveals what is valuable to that person, but that may have been suppressed in order to exploit someone for the benefit of a government or some other commercial interest. The system represses the disappointment of everyone and trains them with messages like “big kids do not cry. Be brave!” That allows the system to install new values and priorities, like “you will be happy if you show everyone else how loyal you are to us by registering lots of people in our programs.”
Frustrations are also repressed by most people as “embarrassing” (frightening). Why is it so frightening to display frustration? Because displaying one frustration can lead to opening up the entire dam of repressed frustration. The actual values and inspirations of the masses are systematically repressed or frustrated by the systems of governing.
For instance, basic biological processes like sexual attraction are frustrated and then “co-opted” with messages like “be a loyal consumer as your top priority in life and then people MIGHT be sexually attracted to you if you drive the right car or wear the right hat (or at least vote for the right candidate). No, not that one. That one was cool last week. Now you have to buy this one for people to still be attracted to you! Time is running out. These great sale prices won’t last forever.”
Sigmund Freud, founder of psychoanalysis, smok...

Sigmund Freud, founder of psychoanalysis, smoking cigar. Español: Sigmund Freud, fundador del psicoanálisis, fumando. Česky: Zakladatel psychoanalýzy Sigmund Freud kouří doutník. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Clarity about public relations

What I referenced above is the explicit methodology of the entire field of public relations. In the early 20th century, Edward Bernays trail-blazed that field by applying insights made by his uncle, Sigmund Freud.
Public relations (coupled with the technology of mass media) not only made governing the masses far more efficient, but created new profitability for businesses. Two famous successes in the realm of commercial advertising for Edward Bernays were the use of a variety of manipulations and deceptions to create demand for cigarettes by women in the US, plus, even more remarkably, the diamond jewelry industry.

Clarity about the success of the diamond industry

Here are the quick details. Diamonds are a relatively common substance (which even can be synthetically made). The DeBeers cartel bought up every diamond mine to monopolize supply so that they could control the  inventory of diamonds available to the public for purchase. Then, Edward Bernays created publicity deceptions to exploit the repressed public desire for sex and security.
He created 90 minute commercials for diamond rings called “movies.” The scripts were written around a climactic scene of the handsome and heroic leading man offering the beautiful leading actress a diamond ring. She swoons and says yes, then they live happily ever after.However, it is all a pretense. The actors are faking it. They are pretending for a camera and for a paycheck.
Portrait of Sigmund Freud

Portrait of Sigmund Freud (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Clarity about reality

So, the public audience watching the movie or TV programming associates diamond rings with marriage and sexual attraction, then DeBeers releases a very small percentage of their inventory of diamonds for sale to the public, then these little rocks which DeBeers may buy for $1 or $5 from laborers in Africa are shipped out, cut nicely, and then sold for $1000 or $5000 in New York or London.
Note that “no one” asks when did diamond rings get so popular? And when did they get so expensive? People are programmed to irrationally consume.
In fact, when the public was starting to sell diamonds back in to the market 20 years after their marriage (or the day after their divorce), what did DeBeers do? They launched new publicity campaigns to shame the masses in to keeping their diamond jewelry, with slogans (and even a movie) called “Diamonds are Forever.”
Scared child

Scared child (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Clarity about shame

Shyness is shame. It is shame at the experience of fear,. The masses are trained systematically to be ashamed of the experience of fear.
The more ashamed the herd, the more easily manipulated and exploited they are. Is this a problem? Is this something to protest? Is this something to fix? Should we buy a hat to show our opinion on the matter? Should we vote for the candidate who promises to save us from a culture of shame?
I consider all of this something to respect. It could be fascinating to you. It could be relevant to you. It could be a danger to accurately assess quickly: who is trying to exploit shame, who is trying to shame you for being shy or afraid, who benefits from your repression and self-rejection?
Government spending

Government spending (Photo credit: 401(K) 2013)

Clarity about respect

Note, by the way, that I have nothing against diamonds or the diamond industry. It is a extremely profitable operation. I can respect that, too.Maybe they use deception and confusion and fear and shame to further their commercial interests by selling diamonds for an enormous profit margin. By now, doesn’t that remind you of institutions of governing, like government-regulated schools and government-regulated media?So, what should we do about all of this respect and fear and so on? Well, in order to prevent reverse psychology from ever having been used at all, we must all eventually go back in time and join together to universally forbid the “universal” sin of “being a naive conformist.” Almost EVERYONE criticizes the horrors of being a naive conformist, right? I mean, everyone at least SHOULD do that, right? Oh, the irony!

functionality, confusion, and humor

August 4, 2013
  • J R Fibonacci Hunn

    Functioning is all that is happening. The after-the-fact  linguistic labeling of something as “my choice” is just another function of language.

    “I chose to be male because of a past life.” Really? Okay! So what?


    English: Shield of the United States Marine Co...

    English: Shield of the United States Marine Corps Security Guard Deutsch: Wappen der United States Marine Corps Security Guard (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

    “I will choose to be a security guard.” Congratulations!

    “I choose to have been born in the USA.” I’m so proud!


  • Daniel Fritschler

    What do any of these labels have to do with the things outside of language? Confusing

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn

    Outside of language, there are no things. There is just the wordless functioning of life itself, which is also the source of all linguistic functioning, like all linguistic identifying of things and “I” and “we” and so on.

  • Daniel Fritschler

    Yes exactly

    Yes I understand that

    The source

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn

    The Living ONE (“Yahweh”, etc) has various names for various facets likes a human has various limbs.

    but the facets or limbs are only “isolated” in language. There is no such thing as isolation or separation except in language. Or maybe there is. So what?



    English: Repartition map of the languages over...

    English: Repartition map of the languages over the world (version blank of key). See File:Languages world map.svg for full description. Esperanto: Mapo de la etendo de la lingvoj en la mondo (senpriskriba versio) Français : Carte de la répartition des langues dans le monde (version vierge de légende) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


  • Daniel Fritschler

    Yes so what? No idea. I suppose the only reason we keep meeting each other like this is because I confuse what you have just stated…I get all mentally twisted up…it seems.

  • Daniel Fritschler

    Good point

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  • J R Fibonacci Hunn

    One of the big myths is “there should be no confusion.” Really? Says who?

  • Daniel Fritschler

    Yes confusion is functional to have clarity at some point….but you are right it all goes hand in hand..

    And I dont know who said it but they were lying

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn

    I say that there should be no sausage. None. It is a crime and an insult and a threat.

  • Daniel Fritschler

    Yes sausage can be….especially if it is big and black….asian sausage is ok I have heard….nothing to be threatened by

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn

    There should be no parody of reverse psychology. There should be no taboos because they are totally forbidden.

  • Daniel Fritschler

    Yes the forbidden fruit or the allegory of?

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn

    I think you were confusing sausage with penis. Penises are okay. Sausages are not.

  • Daniel Fritschler

    Haha oh yeah sensei thanks for clearing that up

    So the fobidden fruit is the thoughts of something or anything at all being forbidden

    Or negatice or bad

    It is all bullshit

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn


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    Marine Security Guard students perform rapid-fire exercises on the Department of State pistol qualification course Feb. 4 as part of their MSG graduation requirement. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

    The defining of something in particular as evil is the root of all evil. That is why Satan should not have been so disobedient to the all-powerful tree of which he was just a branch, until his eternal salvation on June 3rd, 2007.

    When he covered his dick with some ivy leaves or something. Or maybe he got circumcized by some Jews. Whatever. He is much better now though.

  • Daniel Fritschler

    Haha yes great story as they all are….

    Maybe he got poison ivy or some shit

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn

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    English: A Marine Security Guard reviews the embassy’s security alarm system with the regional security officer. Text from (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

    Religions should not promote obedience to any particular authority. That is wrong.

    By the way, do NOT rub poison ivy on your dick. It is highly over-rated.

  • Daniel Fritschler

    Yes calling the tree anything when I am a branch of it is working against the self….I see that as all of the branches have started growing away from me . The poison or the plague

    Haha yes wrong as in painful

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn

    I am so sorry that the other branches are like rays of a concentric thingy and you are not all tangled up in them anymore. That is tragic. How are you ever going to untangle yourself from the lack of tangles?

    Also, do you know anyone who can undo my circumcision because it is ruining my life?

  • Daniel Fritschler

    Haha…I know they messed up my circumcision too…. I get it you cant go back and replace the foreskin

    You cant go back it will make things bitter

    A pillar of salt

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn

    Also, some myths that I was taught when I was young are limiting my perception. There should not be any myths because they are confusing.

    And my perception should not be how it is. This sucks! Can you feel my pain, people?

  • Daniel Fritschler

    Haha yes…I see how sad and pathetic these displays of attention are…good point

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn

    There is just too much salt in the world and I do not know what to do about it and I feel so guilty. I regret not feeling more guilty earlier in my life. How am I ever going to make up for it?

    I hate religions that promote guilt. That is so rare and unusual and odd that any religion would do that because all of the rest do not promote guilt at all.

  • Daniel Fritschler

    Haha yes you are so literal all the time…you really need to stop being so literal all the time

  • Daniel Fritschler

    I suppose if there is too much salt and I didnt do anything about this it is because the salt is the log in my own vision….now that the salt has been seen…so what? Take the log out and enjoy the ride..instead of the dwelling on guilt which is the whole point of anybody who isn’t enjoying this ride called life….what do you think?

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn

    Guilt has a function. Promoting guilt has a function. Religions have a function.


    There is NO development that has no function. The idea that “there is at least one development that has no function” also has a function.

    confusing one thing for something else may serve a function of showing one’s loyalty to a tyrant, conforming to a cultural myth to fit in and not be attacked.

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn

    “My teacher is the most bestest because she encourages us to think for ourselves by using essay questions on her tests rather than multiple choice items.”

    But… how exactly can a teacher promote “thinking for yourself?” Communication is influence. To promote that others think for themselves, would it make more sense to ignore them completely or give them a curriculum of “how to learn to be spontaneous in 72 easy steps?”

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    The best days are not planned (Photo credit: Marcus Hansson)

    In what cultures do we see “thinking for yourself” made in to a sacred ideal and idolatry? Fascist cultures? Isn’t that a bit ironic?

  • Daniel Fritschler

    Haha yes you are right…promoting anything would be promoting something….so you can promote not to promote….pretty silly

    Can not

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    The diver (Photo credit: Roel Driever)

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn

    Which ideal that I have been programmed to have by society is the one that most demonstrates the importance of “thinking for myself?” Would it be the programmed ideal of “think for yourself?”

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn

    Ideals are values are presumptions are biases. That is not a problem. That is the function of linguistic activity- to create bias AKA focus.

  • Daniel Fritschler

    Yes I see the function and understand how I habe been confusing a function for an ideal

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn

    There should be no ideals, no focus, no programs, no conditioning, no priorities, no presumptions, and no linguistic constructions. It is only for your own good that I ram this in to your head.

  • Daniel Fritschler

    Haha..I am sure…asshat

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn

    no preferences, no authority, no confusion, no negativity, etc

    no denial, no antagonism, no rebellion

    no reverse psychology


  • Daniel Fritschler

    Oh…well what is left then?

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn

    The problem with reality is that everything has a function.

  • Daniel Fritschler

    Yes that just totally sucks

    It is a major problem

    We need to fix it

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn

    in order to compensate for your shame and guilt, you should prevent things from having a function and also make the things that do not have any function have a better one.

  • Daniel Fritschler

    Or see the functions and the patterns and understand them and then work with them….maybe?

    Haha yes…persecute the self…ne a martyr. ..give out of lack so that I can be burdened for others…..very wise sensei

  • J R Fibonacci Hunn

    sails are not meant to work with the wind. that is heresy and blasphemy and insanity. that is not the function of sails. wake the fuck up, dude.

  • Daniel Fritschler


    Haha yes sir




Clarifying confusion about money

July 6, 2013

I enjoy writing. By the age of 15, I had written lyrics for several songs. Of course, I also did some writing for school. However, I generally did not especially enjoy writing for school.

I enjoy writing from a passion to communicate some principle or point. I write to focus attention on something of interest to me. I write to produce the result of attracting people in to specific conversations with me. I write to provoke interaction. I write to lead.
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When I write, I often write about some perception that I have which others seem to lack, and which I sense could be of value to them. I write to contribute to clarity- the clarity of others and also to my own clarity. I will give some examples below.
First, writing requires a private, uninterrupted creative process. I am writing at 5 am now- a time that is typically quiet. I write at a wide range of times throughout the day- whenever I am ready. Reading does not require quite as much focus as writing, but it can also be very attractive to have privacy and quiet when reading, right? By the way, I highly recommend that you have a setting that allows you to focus when reading this particular composition….
Anyway, writing songs for me has been to share with others to impress them (get them to like me) as well as therapeutic. The musical aspect of song-writing is quite distinct from just writing like this, where I can also include images and tables of data.
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Money is a rather useful thing. I knew when I began to write this morning that I would say a few things about money.
Many people seem to me to be quite confused about money. Some of us may even be afraid of having “too much money,” and so we may cling to confusions about money rather than allow for clarity.
So, some people may resist the simplicity of the following points about money. Some may intensely reject the points or say they are nonsense (because they may conflict with some pre-existing ideal) or that they do not really care about them (but then, contradicting the alleged lack of concern and interest, they may think to present some rebuttal or explanation of why they do not have any interest in devoting any attention to the subject they are explaining why they do not have any interest in).
To me, those are all signs of fear. Intense rejection (arguing passionately against something) is natural when there is a perception of a threat. If the following words are perceived by you as a threat to some cherished, sacred model which is challenged as potentially inaccurate or imprecise by some comment below, then I would fully expect you to ridicule the point or- even more revealing- to ignore the point itself and instead criticize the author for making it. That is to push the perceived threat away. That is very reasonable and also a very common response to some of my comments on money and economic trends, which I have been publishing for over 10 years.
It involves courage to face certain realities and some people are just not interested enough in something to move through fear in to courage. After all, you may want people to think that you are not interested in money (what it is, how to accumulate it efficiently, and why one might wish to accumulate it).
So, let’s start with what it is. How would you explain the term money to a young child? If a person from a primitive tribe asked you about some money that you carry around with you and what is so unique about those objects, what could you say? What differentiates paper that is money from other paper? What differentiates rounds metal tokens that are coins from other round metal objects, like a button or a washer?
Money of course is particularly useful for influencing the behavior of other people. You can use it to buy items from a merchant or to buy services from an employee or contractor. But why is money useful for influencing the actions of others?
I am using the term money to refer to a particular accounting unit that is declared by a specific institution to be an acceptable form of payment for the tax liabilities invented by that institution. For instance, a casino token is not money unless the operators of the casino go out and coerce people to exchange other things for their token. Likewise, if an operation of organized extortion stops functioning (like the Confederate States of America after their military defeat in the 1860s), then their paper contract which previously was money within the territory of their operation is no longer money because there is no demand generated by their ongoing threat of violence for non-payment of taxes (threats of levy, garnishment, arrest, seizure, foreclosure, bankruptcy, etc…).
In simpler terms, money is whatever a functioning court system declares to be money. The reason it is money is because that court system says they will accept the money to pay the tax claims which they invent and extort from the public.
When the “enforcement” of their system of extortion (“taxation”) is strong, compliance rates are very high. In contrast, if the public senses that the threat of repercussions for non-compliance with a tax system is decreasing, it is typical that rates of compliance will also decrease. Further, if the tax system gets “too effective,” then some people will eventually move their business to other tax jurisdictions that are more attractive to them.
In very simple terms, money is the accounting unit declared to be sacred by a particular system of coercion. Some people find this definition confusing. However, this is a very useful way of defining money.
When you walk in to a temple building past the huge columns and the security guards and then you sit down in the courtroom and the ruling priest of the temple dictates to you what you must pay to the clerk of the temple and then finally threatens you with a ritual of human sacrifice for non-compliance, or threatens the tortures of their Inquisition, or threatens an invasion and occupation of your farmlands by Crusade, then their threat is sacred. It is backed by “the full faith and credit” of the operation of organized coercion for whom the ruling priest is issuing the threat. 
Of course, these definitions of money may be somewhat unfamiliar. You may be reading formations in language that do not precisely fit with things that you may have been repeatedly told in your youth.
You may have been a participant in a ritual in which you were given particular phrases as “the correct answer” and then manipulated in to repeating those phrases and writing them down so as to advance through the ranks of the system. They were testing you. They were training you. They were programming you.
They were influencing your attention and your perceptions and your behavior. They were promoting your compliance.
It is also quite reasonable and predictable that a publicly-funded training program would promote that participants in the training programs be loyal donors to the tax collection agencies of that system. Should we expect a system to last hundreds or thousands of years and not promote compliance through a variety of methods, such as publishing sensationalized stories of the punishments administered to those who do not comply?


Now, the point of all of the preceding was to establish that the public demand for a particular form of money is entirely rooted in the existence of tax systems. When a tax system demands of people that they accumulate a particular sacred object as money, that creates public demand for that sacred object. When a tax system collapses, public demand for their sacred object also collapses.

The only reason that the public want money is because they expect it to be useful in the future. In particular, they expect it to be useful for paying taxes (and avoiding arrest and collection activities by tax agencies).

Because lots of people expect that sacred object to be useful in the future for paying taxes, they also can use money in transactions with other members of the public. Everyone values that money as sacred because the court system of coercive taxation demands that everyone pay taxes using the dictated sacred objects.

By the way, court systems are all violent. Justice (as it is defined by the patterns of human behavior called “court systems”) is violent. Justice is coercion, violence, extortion, intimidation, taxation.

When a court system collapses (or is invaded and taken over), then their system of “justice extortion” may no longer produce public demand for the sacred object of their system of justice extortion. For instance, when the USA invaded Mexico and “annexed” the territory now called Texas, a new currency was in demand in Texas. A new ruling system of justice extortion was in operation.

If there were other local systems of extortion in Texas, like gangs and Indian tribes and mafias and Catholic Inquisitions of tithing, those systems are distinct in their lack of widespread geographic influence. In a “county court system,” every taxpayer who “owns” property (real estate) in that county must pay property taxes or else their tenancy (legal access) will be ended in a tax lien foreclosure auction.

In modern-day Catholicism, however, the tithing is voluntary. Non-Catholics may not be terrified of going to hell for not paying tithes to that system. The images of torture and ritual human sacrifice so popular in Catholicism may only terrify a small percentage of a local population in to contributing 10% of their productivity to “promoting the common good” or whatever other mythology is presented by a ruling system of governing human perceptions and behaviors.

So, what is the fundamental difference between a Crusade that is publicly declared by a Pope and a “World War” in which a group of systems of “justice extortion” collaborate to invade a competing system? There is no fundamental difference. All political invasions are violent. The new recipient of tithes or taxes or tributes or treasures may be called a Pope or a Pharaoh or a Queen or a Holy Senate. Their title is trivia.

Empires are just institutionalized piracy. The fact that their violence and extortion and justice are institutional only increases the demand for their sacred object all the more.

Again, all of the preceding has been to gradually “disturb” your presumptions and confusions, to confront you with an opportunity for clarity. Systems of coercive taxation are the ONLY foundation for the public demand for the sacred objects dictated to be acceptable as “money” by that system of coercive taxation.

Now, here is why I mentioned all of that. There is a major shift underway.

Public demand for cash is shifting. I wrote about it in 2003. I just was not as provocative and daring and clear in my presentations. Also, by 2003, the shift was not as obvious as today in 2013.

Here is what shifts public demand for money- changes in any of the following:

1) Demand produced by governments through taxes, fines, licenses, etc….

2) Actual supply of money

3) “Velocity” of money (how willing people in general are to spend it, measured by how many times money changes hands in a given period of time.)

Many people focus on the second item only. Why? Because that is what they are programmed to do by the media and public school indoctrination.

They call it “a concern for inflation.” It is largely a distraction. That is why those people are so often surprised (as in the 1980s, when the spike in metal prices of the 1970s abruptly collapsed).

Let’s start with the first item on the list above. If governments lower tax rates, that lowers the demand for money. If governments increase tax rates, that increases the demand. Got it?

There’s more though. When governments give hand-outs (corporate welfare or socialist welfare or even setting up public systems of education or health care), that redistributes money to the recipients of the government benefits or government spending.

For instance, when governments “rescue” the real estate industry with special loan programs for veterans and tax credits for first-time buyers and so on, that raises overall prices for real estate, right? That also counters the demand caused by taxation (reducing the demand by increasing the supply of money to those beneficiaries, to those favored expenditures).

Tax favoritism for health care MUST raise health care prices. Tax favoritism for IRAs has the same inevitable result on stock market prices.

So, demand for the sacred money of a particular tax jurisdiction is not as simple as tax rates (income, sales, etc). In fact, the income tax system in the US is so complex that one might suspect that lawyers wrote it specifically to create a market for the hiring of tax attorneys and CPAs!

Further, there are things like criminalizing the possession of alcohol or marijuana. Such criminalization schemes can be extremely lucrative for governments, resulting in the collection of huge fines and the seizure of automobiles used for the transportation of criminalized substances.

Is it illegal to sell fresh (raw) milk in your state? If so, then the government may not only confiscate your milk (which they will just discard), but also your computers and your vehicles and your farm. Why? Because you were using those things for criminal activities.

Will the government auction those items and then keep the revenue? Of course!

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Mixed Media Installation by Tony Oursler: 20 Franc / Baronian Francey / The Armory Show 2010 / 20100305.7D.03963.CC / SML (Photo credit: See-ming Lee 李思明 SML)

What if you are a Native American repairing your roof? That is a crime in some places. Someone could be arrested and held in jail until someone else brings thousands of dollars (thousands of units of the sacred object) to “bribe” the rulers to release them.

So, when governments face serious budget crunches, one thing they may do is increase enforcement of existing revenue-producing activities (raising quotas to issue more speeding tickets, etc…). They can also raise the fines for speeding (or for selling raw milk or repairing a roof illegally).

Is your building up to code? Well, even if it is right now, what if the government alters the building code and now your building is not up to code? Of course, that is great for the renovation specialists. For others, it is not so great.

Due the to ADA, lots of businesses in the midwest of the US were forced to close. It was just too expensive to install elevators for disabled people. Many small businesses did not have an extra $15,o00 to comply with the new code. Their commercial property suddenly was not up to code and the value of those properties plummeted.

Why would the government want to charge thousands of dollars for inspections and licenses that drive up most real estate prices? Why not! Mandatory inspections and building licenses (plus stiff fines for non-compliance) increase demand for the sacred object of the governing systems of justice extortion.

As for “money supply,” most people do not understand that the credit bubble greatly skews people’s perception of the supply of money. If it is easy to get credit (like from a bank to buy real estate with mortgage financing), then obviously that will balloon the prices of favored markets like real estate (temporarily). What is not so obvious is that “easy credit” (from furniture stores, car dealerships, credit card banks) also creates a PERCEIVED increase in the total supply of money.

It does not create any extra money when a furniture store says “if you give us $200 on this bedroom set, then we will let you take it home and keep it as long as you pay us $100 per month for the rest of the year.” What is created when people enter in to debt contracts like that is FUTURE DEMAND for cash.

No additional cash is created by the issuing of credit by the furniture store. However, people THINK like there is more money available to them when credit is extended. That is understandable.

If I have $200 and I can get $2000 of furniture for only a deposit of $200, then it is almost like I have $2000 instead of $200. However, I will still owe a bunch of money or else the furniture store can legally come later and repossess the furniture. They still own the furniture. I owe them some amount of remaining debt.

No actual new money has been created. However, extending credit both DECREASES current demand for cash and INCREASES future demand.

In other words, the current global credit bubble both results in people ACTING like there is a lot more prosperity available to them (an increased supply of money in stock for that individual or business) as well as making a HUGE future demand for cash. When the credit bubble starts to deflate (shrink), all of that accumulated demand for cash will result in a huge increase in purchasing power (a collapse in prices across all markets). That is what has happened in Japan in recent decades and it happened in several countries in the 1930s and numerous other times.

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Deflation is simply the releasing of that postponed demand for cash. That is what drives down prices of speculative bubbles and their speculative assets (like real estate, stocks, and gold).

When people promise to pay $200,000 across the next few decades for a particular real estate investment, that does not increase their personal supply of cash at all. That increases their future demand for cash however by $200,000.

Adding up all of the contractual promises of mortgage borrowers and insurance companies and so on, we can see that there is a huge accumulated demand for cash. Imagine that $10 trillion of promises are all chasing $1 trillion of actual money available. Those promises are not an increase in money supply by a single dollar. Instead, that is a huge bubble of demand for cash.

When that demand eventually gets “priced in” to the actions of the masses, the “cash crunch” can also be called a “credit market crisis.” All new debt contracts produce a future “crisis” of meeting the extra demand for cash. When such a surge in demand for cash to pay off old loans all happens at once, like I forecast in 2003 (along with lots of other competent forecasters), that is called a crisis.

It is just a budget crisis. The mainstream media and public school curriculums can present it as a great mystery, but there is nothing mysterious about it.

For instance, the government of Greece accumulated lots of promises to make future payments to it’s creditors (bond-buyers). Eventually, Greece was challenged to fulfill the old promises (meet the demand for cash that they had accumulated).

We may think that the government of Greece could just do what Icelanders did and default. However, there are some differences. Iceland is not in the EU and does not use the Euro as money. Iceland is a long way geographically from mainland Europe and has a population much smaller than any of the first 27 states of the EU.

The Euro currency system is the world’s newest major governing system. Just as 13 independent states in in the late 18th century unified to create the “united States of America,” so have 27 countries in Europe unified under a new central bureaucracy (which dictates the central tax rates that create the fundamental demand for the Euro currency).

The last item on my list was “velocity of money.” The idea is that when people think it will be easy to pay their debts and their taxes and their basic living expenses, they are liberal with spending. When they think it may be challenging, they are conservative with spending.

If a hurricane or earthquake or wildfire interrupts their plans (and contractual promises), they get conservative really fast. If a new contagious disease breaks out and terrifies people, again, they get very conservative- clinging to what is familiar at first, but perhaps desperately opening in a panic to anything that might be somehow helpful.

Now, if a new extortion racket comes to town and says “everyone in Iceland now owes 2% of every transaction to the EU as a sales tax,” then that actually slows down the economic transactions.  People spend a little less. People spend a little more slowly. People hold on to more money longer and save more money “for emergencies” and are more conservative about debt and credit.

The velocity of money declines. Conservatism increases. Liberalism declines or disappears. People cancel their parade when a hurricane warning starts to knock over a few trees, right?

So, there is a shift in regard to how people perceive money. Many myths are about to collapse. Many confusions are about to be clarified. Those who are clear early and act early on that clarity may have very different results than those who focus elsewhere, who are terrified by competent analysts and forecasters, who argue and ridicule rather than slow down and contemplate and inquire.

Who shall inherit the earth and receive the fullness of the blessings of the kingdom of heaven? Will it be the meek and humble and curious and dignified… or the naive and dismissive and argumentative and belligerent and terrified?

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Easy Money (Photo credit: @Doug88888)

Waking up from naive confusion to clarity

June 12, 2013

Below is a recent conversation about this message:





JL shared this on facebook. Here is our exchange:


JR writes:


“I know you share with what you would call good intentions. However, the “social triumph” theme is not required.


For instance, if one sees the reality of court systems and tax systems, one sees that they have been based on coercion and extortion from the beginning. That is what they do. To call them corrupt is just a new labeling by an individual or group.


Noticing what they are is not a change in what they are. It is not systematic progress. It is the personal recovery from a delusion of propaganda. There were already billions of people who did not experience that delusion. To claim that your own recovery from a delusion is a grand triumph is… another delusion.


Also, “real positive change” is just one way of labeling a change. Everyone always calls the changes that they promote “positive.” Wake up!


People “came together” to create systems of courts and taxation and called it “real positive change.” New systems of coercion and extortion will rise and fall. New systems of propaganda will rise and fall.


Can the media focus on doom and gloom as well as blind, delusional optimism? Yes. No, reality is not limited to what public school systems, churches, and mass media programmed us to perceive. But an arrogant (naive?) sense of triumph at having “defeated” the programming is… “a bit early.” The personal condemnation of one culture is not the destruction of all culture, which might be rather disappointing if it happened.”



” I figure it is weird to just stop where I left off. So, here is more.


I happen to live in one of the civilizations that is most militarily dominant of all global empires in human history. I have a computer and electricity and so much wealth, a huge amount of which came from the labor of people all over the globe and the resources found far away from me. Without the system of imperialist colonialism and hundreds of US military bases, the absence of the intimidation factor would tremendously effect international trade.


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Mount McKinley, or Denali, in Alaska is the highest mountain peak of the United States and North America (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


Where would I get gasoline if not for the US soldiers occupying Iraq? (I know: Alaska). But the point is that our global police state, our new world order, our global empire… is still in operation. If I smugly condemn the currency system that I use to get groceries and pay rent, that is… ironic.


The top 1% of income earners on this planet are those who earn over $35,000 per year. A hugely disproportionate number of them are in North America. It would be very callous of me to assert that the vast wealth and luxury that is in my midst is unrelated to the massive systems of corruption and military imperialism. Most people are ashamed of course of these connections, but they could give their land back to the Apaches and move back to Europe and be beggars and gypsies if they wanted… and I notice that most people do not do that, do they?”


Apache wickiup, by Edward S. Curtis, 1903

Apache wickiup, by Edward S. Curtis, 1903 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


JL writes:


“Lol k so it’s merely noticing what is taking place. You are correct that labeling does not help. We are in a place where we must know one and until then we can notice the other. That is how the evolution and quite frankly the universe/god works.


How can we learn what love is? How can we learn what fear is? How can we evolve to only be present to one thing? These are ultimately the questions to answer.


Another thing in many of your posts it may come off as you know everything or you have to prove you are smart. I am doing what i can do to be responsible for my insecurities in wanting to prove i am worthy. Coming from Landmark Education you may understand where i am coming from.


Lastly, I thought it was rather funny and posted it merely on that also acknowledging for some that may be awakening or see these things may distinguish it differently. No where do i push separation rather awareness of what is taking place. Violence will not make that happen. Ignoring it wont happen. The acceptance and restoration of integrity of self will create change not avoidance and ignorance.”



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JR writes:


“Hi J.L., my sense of you (from prior interactions) is that you are open to alternative perspectives. I ignore posts like these most of the time. I used to make them myself as well.


So, I know what I know, some of which may be imprecise or even totally inaccurate, and I make up a fair amount of stuff as well. Anyway, I am smart. I just made that up, and making it up proves that I am smart, whatever “smart” means. It’s “just a possibility,” too, right? I declare being smart.


Wow, that was very exciting, wasn’t it? Now, what else?


Well, we could exchange comments about what should happen and what will make that happen or not. Violence should not happen and violence is clearly the wrong way to prevent violence.


Now we have that out of the way, too. What else would be fun?


We could stop doing anything and see if that prevents change…. Nope. Stuff kept changing here as I sat waiting until something changed.


Well, I guess what is left is to either create change or create “continuity.” Change will happen, but slowly enough with some things that they will seem to continue stably (since we just get too bored with them to notice really slow things like the grass growing in the soil).


So, prioritizing… how about doing some of that? Okay, I… I am going to close facebook now! (it’s really not a priority)….”


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English: An American Lady butterfly against a cloud-filled sky. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


JL writes:


“The way you create your point Is great and I do appreciate it.
I do also get where ya coming from as well. 
Feel free give you possibility often times I love reading it.
Lastly, could be me being grumpy from not smoking. 
Lastly, funny and very clear on the sarcasm.”




JR writes:


“The disclosure (publicizing) of information is called publicity/ public relations. I know a bit about that. It is also called propaganda and branding and various other things that more or less overlap.


Cultural institutions train the masses in what is good or bad, positive or negative, right or wrong. Different cultures emphasize different things. In certain Arab cultures, it may be very bad for women’s faces to be exposed in public. In the US, women are encouraged to wear cosmetics so that they look younger or healthier or more sexually attractive (whorish?) than they actually are.


It is totally reasonable that some Arabic men say that western female politicians are all whores that just do whatever the lobbyists pay them to do. That is a valid point of view.


Rage is valid. Condemnation is valid. Violence is valid. What does valid mean? Valuable!


There is a value to all things: a time to love and a time to hate, a time to sow and a time to reap, a time to celebrate and a time to panic. Well, that is also just a point of view. It is from the Old Testament (the Hebrew tradition) in a book called Ecclesiastes.


English: Ecclesiastes, (קֹהֶלֶת, Kohelet, &quo...

English: Ecclesiastes, (קֹהֶלֶת, Kohelet, “son of David, and king in Jerusalem” alias Solomon, Wood engraving (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


For me, I might say that most of modern Christianity is in a spiritual dark age, deep in confusion and delusion. Confusion is “things should be what I think they should be because that is what I was trained to presume.” Clarity is “every pattern is a distinct pattern, including the patterns of indoctrination and confusion and arguing.””


J.L. writes:


“Yes it is all valid.

We have come to a point in which all is interrelated. When we can discover for ourselves what it is to be spiritual or religious we may see its time for evolution nit revolution.
One world government has good and bad attributes.
Bad connotation as of now.
When we all get we are all one we may then accept each other as we never have.
You are getting into a conversation I’d much rather have in person.”



Seek ye first the top priority (and then all else shall be added unto you)

May 6, 2013

Self-evident truths:

the farmer in love - il contadino innamorato

the farmer in love – il contadino innamorato (Photo credit: Uberto)

Different patterns of behavior produce different patterns of results. Possible results include clarity or confusion, goodwill or ill will, prosperity or poverty, and agony or salvation.
Now, imagine that there are two farmers and one is confused, distracted, agonizing, panicking, and terrified of failing, then that farmer may be quite ineffective and unproductive. Another farmer may be clear, experienced, mature, resourceful, and insightful and may even take actions to impair the clarity and productivity of a competitor (to contribute to the confusion and ineffectiveness and poverty and agony of the other farmer).
In regard to agony, agony (or “hell”) is one possible result. Agony results from the behavior of agonizing. Because agonizing is optional, agony is optional. Agony only results when the behavior of agonizing persists. There is a way to live that does not include agonizing or agony. We can label that way of living salvation or heaven or the extinction of agony (“nirvana”). That result has always been available and is available now. In the language of the Buddhist tradition, the principles regarding the arising of agony and the extinction of agony are called the four noble truths. However, these same principles are found in every language and every culture and every religious tradition- though there are many translators and interpreters of these principles and so many different levels of clarity or confusion can be recognized as obvious to one who knows these principles as self-evident.

Pattern (Photo credit: digikuva)


In regard to confusion, confusion (or “purgatory”) is one possible result. Confusion results from the behavior in language of confusing one thing for something else. Confusion involves mislabeling, misclassifying, misperceiving, misinterpreting, or mistaking one thing for something else. Confusion only results from a conflict between a pre-existing expectation and later experience. When a new actual experience is so startling or shocking that there is a panic of clinging to an old expectation and rejecting of the recent experience, that process can be labeled as denial or trauma. The panic of confusing one thing for another may be very brief (only momentary) or can last for decades. Such a panic of confusing one thing for another is the only way to produce ill will (whether brief or enduring). After the relaxing of a panic of confusion, ill will dissolves and clarity arises (along with humility, maturity, and goodwill).
Fentress County Jail entrance

Fentress County Jail entrance (Photo credit: (aka Brent))

In regard to ill will, first, let us be clear that ill will is distinct from aggression and violence and coercion.  For instance, a predator has no ill will for prey, like a bully or law enforcement officer may have no ill will for a specific target of bullying or law enforcement. Aggression may or may not include ill will and ill will may or may not include passive aggression or any other form of direct interaction. Ill will is a specific form of fear or panic which involves language and labeling. The labeling of someone or some group as a threat, an adversary, an enemy, a devil, or a villain is called vilifying or demonizing (which is similar but distinct from labeling someone a criminal by prosecuting an indictment and sentencing someone). In contrast to the impersonal aggression of warfare as well as systems of criminalizing certain behaviors, personal ill will is only the result of hysterical vilifying, which only results from a panic of confusing one thing for something else, which only results from agonizing over how to cling to a false expectation in denying some prior experience that was extremely frightening.
Georgia Guidestones

Georgia Guidestones (Photo credit: The Rocketeer)

We can label some experience as “what should not be” or “what should not have been.” That is called denial. It is very common- even essential to the maturing of an individual. When we deny something based on a false expectation of what should be (or what should have been), we are rejecting it in favor of clinging to some false expectation (some idolatry).  Some experience may have been so terrifying for us that we remove our attention from it by distracting ourselves with some ideal that it “should not have been.” In our confused panic of clinging to a false expectation and rejecting some actual experience, we may then agonize over how to prevent “what should not have been.” We may blame some particular group or individual (or activity) as the isolated source of “what should not have been.” We may vilify them (or some behavior). We may resent them or harbor ill will or a grudge or a jealousy or a grievance. A grievance is a psychological coping mechanism for dealing with grief by blaming some vilified enemy as the isolated source of our grief, rather than fully recognizing how our own behavior was influential in producing an experience of vulnerability so terrifying that we may go around with a grievance (ill will) as we search for someone who is mature enough to accept our grievances as functional and healthy.
We may be receptive to someone who does not condemn us for our condemnation of others. We may be receptive someone who is not threatened by our experience of others as a threat. We may be receptive to someone who does not vilify us for our past behavior patterns of vilification. We may seek clarity, salvation, humility, goodwill, and even new concentrations of prosperity.
Prosperity varies in regard to how much wealth and power is concentrated around different groups and different individuals. Resources alone are not wealth. Wealth involves the way that we organize our resources. Wealth involves our patterns of behavior and speech. For instance, two adjacent plots of land that are nearly identical can produce very different yields of harvest depending on what methods of agriculture are used (if any).
English: An old farmer woman, Eastern Europe.

English: An old farmer woman, Eastern Europe. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Again, if there are two farmers and one is confused, distracted, agonizing, panicking, and terrified of failing, then that farmer may be quite ineffective and unproductive. Another farmer may be clear, experienced, mature, resourceful, and insightful and may even take actions to impair the clarity and productivity of a competitor (to contribute to the confusion and ineffectiveness and poverty and agony of the other farmer).
Again, different patterns of behavior produce different patterns of results. Possible results include clarity or confusion, goodwill or ill will, prosperity or poverty, and agony or salvation, as well as rewards and punishments.
Young’s Literal Translation
“but seek ye first the reign of God and His righteousness, and all these shall be added to you.”

In the tradition of bribing children in to conforming to desired behavior through the story of Santa Claus, we can recognize a deceptive method of influencing the behavior of others (those who are relatively naive or unperceptive) through indoctrinating the children with mythical language that obscures the outright bribery which we also may practice quite openly in other cases. In other cases, indoctrination in regard to promoting false expectations takes the form of other religious programming, public school programming, and mass media programming (including marketing). Programs in language influence attention, which influences perception, which influences behavior.


The Ten Commandments are displayed outside the...

The Ten Commandments are displayed outside the Wallace Courthouse (Photo credit: Ríona)

Behavior change (James)

Behavior change (James) (Photo credit: James BonTempo)

We are trained (programmed) to respect the systems of coercion known as governments. We are trained to be obedient to mandatory systems of redistributing wealth, whether in order to save ourselves from eternal torture in hell (called tithing), or the more openly coercive forms of wealth redistribution called taxation or extortion. When a particular form of payment is the only accepted form of payment for invented liability claims (of extortion AKA taxation), we can call that a court-enforced currency. The impersonal threat of violence from the operators of court systems (with no personal ill will toward the targets of the wealth redistribution program) results in public demand for a particular currency. The public will value that currency simply because that currency unit is dictated to be valuable for the payment of invented tax extortion claims.
Bill of Rights

Bill of Rights (Photo credit: david__jones)

To the extent that the public is intimidated by a particular court system of organized coercion, that system’s currency will be popular and valuable. When the public no longer deem a particular currency as holy or sacred, a court system may raise or lower tax rates in an effort to increase public compliance with their system of organized extortion. When a population no longer perceives a particular government or their myths and founding documents as holy or sacred, then a new system of organized coercion may develop to promote a new form of law and order (“justice system”) within that population. That new development may take the form or revolution or civil war or invasion by external opportunists, or the more moderate adjustments of treaties and constitutional amendments (even to revoke prior amendments).
Bill of Rights, Durban South Africa

Bill of Rights, Durban South Africa (Photo credit: bistandsaktuelt)

Each distinct system of religious justice cultivates distinct expectations in their target population. One universal element of all systems of ideology promote the worship of each particular system for governing and regulating human populations as “the best, the most holy, the most just, the most righteous, etc….” Again, programming of expectations through language influence attention, which influences perception, which influences behavior.

Clarity in the midst of contradictions and confusion

April 21, 2013

Clarity in the midst of a hysterical panic about confusing contradictions

Entering from California

Entering from California (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Maybe you know that there is a border between the US states of Arizona and California. Imagine two people standing a few feet apart on either side of the border boundary (a signpost or fence or whatever). The one in California points east to Arizona and says “the border is to the east.” The one in Arizona points west to California and says “no, the border is to the west.”

Can you get the silliness of that? Then they are startled and confused and frustrated that someone disagrees with them so they panic and yell (as if that will help their frustration) and soon they get in to a fist fight and eventually die of their wounds.

Now, I have just described to you how most people relate to… almost everything, certainly a lot of political “debate.” There is no “injustice” and no “east” and no “fundamental rights” outside of you. There are developments that you can observe and sense and then interpret and label.

In my example above, I could have used “right and left” instead of “east and west” or I could have used “right and wrong.” I picked a ridiculous example so that you would not have a hysterical outburst of panic and rage about my example, so your understanding would not be clouded by inaccurate presumptions and confusion and hysteria and rage and shame and hostility, as in terrified panicking.

Figure 2: Simple-minded frame-of-reference example

Figure 2: Simple-minded frame-of-reference example (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

JJ replied: 

so you are making some reference as to the perspective of two people or two groups ….. please make this same example work using up and down…. this changes the frame of reference so it is the same for each of the protagonist. and please leave your rage shame and hostility wherever you keep it when not in use.

JR replies:

The issue is not when there are two people who use language consistently. The issue is when there is a contradiction.

Contradiction only exists in language. There are no contradictions external to you. There are only linguistic contradictions. Contradiction could involve two contrasting “dictions” (sayings). If there is a ironic conflict between a linguistic statement and some external reality, we might also call that a “contradiction.”

Regarding your request about “up and down,” it is like when there are two people at the top and bottom of a stairway and a fire in the middle between them. One of them wants to argue about whether the fire is below or above (up or down). That one may be hysterical. That one may scream at the other person to agree with them. That is focusing on the language and not on the fire.

English: United States Supreme Court building ...

English: United States Supreme Court building in Washington D.C., USA. Front facade. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

For another instance, as the US government begins to implement the same policies that it has been implementing worldwide for decades here at home in the US (like in Boston recently), some people will argue hysterically “but that is unconstitutional!” Unconstitutional is a category in language. When the ruling priesthood of the US (the supreme judges of the court of the rulers’ rules) DICTATES that something is unconstitutional, that may be more important than what you or I say. When the Congress passes a new amendment revoking some other amendment, that is a constitutional reform. What is LEGALLY unconstitutional or constitutional can change in two ways: the Supreme Court issues a new ruling or the constitution is changed (or a treaty supersedes it and so forth, like when the ruling powers of Europe took over the US government without firing a shot by placing the Federal Reserve System OVER the existing national government of the US).

Description: Newspaper clipping USA, Woodrow W...

Description: Newspaper clipping USA, Woodrow Wilson signs creation of the Federal Reserve. Source: Date: 24 December 1913 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The idea that there is a POWERFUL constitution made of paper with powerful shapes of magic ink on the powerful paper is government propaganda. Bullets and bombs have always been the only authority behind that ink on that paper, as well as the only authority behind any court-dictated currency, etc etc etc….

Federal reserve police car, St. Louis, MO

Federal reserve police car, St. Louis, MO (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

A sunset in the Arizona desert near Scottsdale...

A sunset in the Arizona desert near Scottsdale. The climate and imagery are two factors behind Arizona’s tourism industry. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

So, in conclusion, confusion is a sign of inaccurate presumptions. The mature respond to this by correcting their presumptions or at least slowing down with a humble curiosity. The terrified will blame some external trigger for their internal experience of confusion, leading to resentment, hostility, rage, and so on.

That is the basic teaching of the Buddha (the 3rd noble truth, which the prior 2 simply lead up to). However, the vast majority of people who have been exposed to that teaching may have very little actual comprehension of it.

They still think of suffering as something that happens to them. Suffering is something that humans do. It is an activity, a habit, a behavior.

Mostly, suffering is a way to relate to life or label life or interpret life- using language. Suffering is to attribute the cause of confusion to external developments as “what should not be” and then attempt to reform external reality and prevent it from being “what it should not be.” That is the nature of what ancient Hebrew scholars called “hell.”


Only the humble enter heaven and experience the peace of heaven because only the humble are willing to consider that their linguistic practices may be factors in their experience of confusion. This is not a moral superiority. Any who could get in to heaven would. This is an issue of  spiritual development, only accessible by grace.

Expectations and the end of shame

November 4, 2012

Expectations and the end of shame

Jes Koepfler has a "Eureka" moment a...

Jes Koepfler has a “Eureka” moment as she and her lab partner are able to get an Arduino to light up an LED at the workshop. (Photo credit: G A R N E T)


Expectations are natural and inevitable. If you expect to eventually be free of all expectations, that is itself an expectation, but an unrealistic one.
Expectations are natural and inevitable, and it is also naturally inevitable to focus attention on the subject of expectations. That focus on expectations can lead naturally and inevitably to a developing of an awareness and acceptance of how expectations work. A new developing of awareness is what you have available to you right now in this presentation, and the result that is possible now is a new expectation for you of the future- one you may have never expected or perhaps even considered before: an end to the personal experience of shame.
First, how do you expect things to work? Next, have things ever worked differently than you already expected? In other words, have you ever learned anything at all?
If you have ever learned anything, then you recognize that you do not begin with expectations. Expectations  form over time from experience. Expectations can also change.
We eventually notice sequences of sensations, like patterns of cause and effect. For instance, we see a flash of lightning, then we wait as we expect to hear the rumbling crash of thunder, right?

Lightning (Photo credit: Pete Hunt)

When we expect something but then it does not arise, that can be confusing. In other words, expectations are the source of confusion. If there is no expectation, then how could anyone ever be confused that the expected effect did not arise?
I will review three kinds of confusion with you now. First is confusion about the present. Until there is a confusion about the present, there can be no confusion about the past or the future.
We notice the sensory experiences: the flash of lightning, then the crash of thunder. Again, moments later, there is lightning then thunder. Eventually, we notice the pattern and come to expect thunder to follow lightning. But what if we hear thunder without any prior flash of lightning? Or, what if we see lightning, but then several seconds go by and there is no thunder… then perhaps a quiet, muffled rumble that we can barely hear over the background noise around us?

02428 (Photo credit: Grand Canyon NPS)

When our expectations are violated, that experience is confusion. If the confusion is momentary, then we simply forget about it. We may not be interested in a particular instance of confusion.
However, if we were expecting to stay home from school because of a dangerous storm so we would not have to take a test that we expect to be disappointing, then we may be more interested in what is going on with the thunder and lightning. We wonder enough to explore the issue.
Is the storm over? Will school be cancelled or not?

Hope (Obama poster) (Photo credit: bitzcelt)

Imagine that we are expecting for a test at school to be disappointing (which is worry) and then further we are expecting for school to be cancelled (which is hope– a possible relief to the worry). What if the storm is over and now suddenly school is actually not cancelled? Wouldn’t that be frustrating?!?!
I fearfully expect to be disappointed, and then I expect for a particular circumstance or condition to relieve the frightened disappointment, which is called hope, and then my hope is dissolved. That is so frustrating, right?
But how did disappointment ever arise? Can there be disappointment without a prior expectation?
Imagine that there is a flash of lightning. Then, I say to my little sister, “Hey, thunder is coming in just a moment. Listen!”
We listen. We listen more. We keep listening. Maybe lightning flashes again. We keep listening. My little sister says, “there was no thunder. You lied to me!”
So, when I expect something myself and then I tell other people about it, but it does not happen as I predicted, that can be disappointing. They may get angry at me for setting up an inaccurate expectation. I may have disappointed them and they may punish me with criticism and anger and blame.
Dr. Garnet Hertz, center, helps students Jes K...

Dr. Garnet Hertz, center, helps students Jes Koepfler, from the University of Maryland, left, and Anthony Hoffman of the University of Wisconsin, Milwaukee build an Arduino, an open source single board micro controller at a workshop at UCI (Photo credit: G A R N E T)

The expectation led to the disappointment. If I am interested in the attention and respect and interest of my little sister, then I would want to avoid disappointing her, right? However, if I was not really concerned at all about whether she was disappointed, then I would not worry about her approval or respect, right? I might not even notice whether she was disappointed.
First, I experience an expectation (that after lightning will be thunder). Then, I am so interested in others that I create that same expectation for others, perhaps to impress them.  Then, the expectation is violated. The expectation is not fulfilled. It is unfulfilled. The expectation is disappointed. The expectation or hope, when dissolved, can be disappointing.
However, I might also have an expectation of fear. If an expectation of fear dissolves, that can be relief.
So, there are expectations and then ways of relating to an expectation. For any expectation, I can have neutral curiosity, repulsive fear, or attractive hope. If I am only curious about something, then if the expectation dissolves, that may be confusing, but so what?
However, if I fear some expectation and it dissolves, that is relief. If I hope for some expectation and it dissolves, that is disappointing (sadness, sorrow, regret, etc).
Hope is secondary to fear. Hope is an expectation for the relief of a fear.
First is expectation. Next is relating to the expectation (like fearing it). Then, if it is unfulfilled, that is confusion. If I keep trying to produce a result (to cause an effect) and I keep failing, that is the arising of frustration.
expectation -> confusion -> frustration
But for there to be frustration, there must be fear about failure. Failure is not inherently frightening. When there is fear about failure (“worry”), then there can be desperation, which can lead to hope and then a frustration of that hope.
expectation -> confusion -> worry ->  desperation -> hope -> frustration 
I notice lightning and I tell my little sister that thunder is coming. I had the expectation of thunder and I share it with her.
Then, thunder does not come. I notice that I am confused. She is a bit confused, too. She asks me what is going on. She does not really care, but she is curious.
Again, lightning flashes. Again, I say “expect thunder any moment now.” There is still no thunder.
I begin to doubt my expectation. I wonder “what is wrong?” I worry about my entire worldview and all of the expectations I have come to rely on.

disappointment. (Photo credit: gogoloopie)

What if my expectations are actually just expectations? What if there is no such thing as a guarantee (except as a legal liability for penalties if an expectation is unfulfilled)? The guarantee does not mean the expectation will definitely be fulfilled, but that there is a legal promise of a particular liability for compensation whenever certain conditions arise.
So when the thunder does not come, I worry. That means I question or doubt my expectation. Maybe the expectation is wrong. If I do not care much about the specifics of the expectation, I would not worry. But if I really care about whether the thunder will follow the lightning, then I may worry about my reputation and my personal safety. Will my parents still love me if my sister tells them that I lied to her about the thunder?
Again, lightning strikes. By now, whenever lightning strikes, I am beginning to doubt my expectations about what will happen next. Sometimes I hear thunder and sometimes I do not. My sister says, “was that thunder? Did you hear that? I think it sounded a little bit like thunder, don’t you? But was really not as loud as thunder obviously should be, right?”
We have expectations, but more loosely. We are confused about them and worried that they may be inaccurate. 
So, of course we get an advanced technological device that can measure thunder very precisely. We are a bit desperate about establishing whether our expectations are accurate or inaccurate, plus exactly how accurate. Let’s do some research and calculate what we find.
62% of the time, my sister and I detect thunder after lightning. About 50% of the time, the thunder is within 4 seconds of the lightning. Sometimes there are two flashes of lightning less than four seconds apart- and that of course is very confusing and frustrating, but we resolve this issue quite simply by agreeing to ignore any data that do not fit our simplest models of expectation.
What do I call that stage of disregarding experience that does not fit the expectation? I call that desperation (as in despair).
expectation -> confusion -> worry ->  desperation -> hope -> frustration  -> disappointment

Despair (Photo credit: ~Aphrodite)

Out of the worried confusion of desperate despair, then next most severe form of confusion is hope. My sister and I hope that by disregarding the confusing data, we can determine if the expectation is accurate or not, and we are of course committed to proving that we were right (or that our enemy competition was wrong), but that commitment to particular results over another is not bias in our case, because we are very rational about our desperation and panic and so on, in contrast to our enemies who are very biased by their commitment to proving that their expectations are not silly and childish and inaccurate and naive.
Only other people have naive commitments, right? Certainly we do not. That is why we are not really desperate or confused or worried. We are just optimists, damn it! Why can’t you see that, you freaking jerk?
English: Passion Despair promotional poster De...

English: Passion Despair promotional poster Deutsch: Filmplakat “Passion Despair” (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Unfortunately, our optimism does not always protect us sufficiently from reality. Sometimes, no matter how many ways we desperately disregard our own experience, we cannot maintain our hopes and our hopeful expectations lead to frustration, at which time I naturally and inevitably blame my little sister for step 41 of the 73 steps we have taken together, justifying an excommunication for heresy. I am very disappointed in her- not in my expectations- but in her.
Or, maybe I skip resentment and antagonism and shaming her and just be with my shame and disappointment and dejection. Maybe I just reject my own prior expectation and withdraw it.

Expectations (Photo credit: tinou bao)

“I will never make the mistake of expecting anything ever again. Further, when I do expect something again, I will definitely not tell anyone about it- especially my sister!”
I am not a cynic. I am just a realist. 
Here is my reality and you must believe it or else I will excommunicate you, liberate you from your false expectations by killing you, and then declare that your death proves the accuracy of my expectations- I mean of my reality. Ready? (I really do not care whether you are ready, but, just for your information, whatever happens from here on I am going to call “your consent.”)
Expectations are bad. Expectations are bad because confusion is bad. There should not ever be confusion. People should be able to expect living many decades without a single instance of confusion (or expectations). There is nothing more shameful than the experience of confusion (or expectation). 
mental confusion

mental confusion (Photo credit: Quasimime)

By the way, I have never been confused myself. All of the above stories about my little sister confusing me about thunder were largely fictional, especially because I do not have a little sister (to the best of my knowledge). If you were confused by them, that is simply an indication of the established fact that you are a bad person, perhaps the worst person ever.
You should be a perfectionist, but not to such an extent that it makes other people look bad. You should look slightly bad, like not so good that it makes me look bad but not so bad that it makes me look bad. In brief, do not make me look bad- ever!
It would be very bad for you to make me look bad. There is nothing worse than me looking bad. I should never look bad.
“That is called paranoia, as in a severe or desperate form of worrying. The expectation that someone should never look bad is paranoia, which is evidence of a pre-existing shame or guilt. I know that this is true because my little sister, who is a Mormon Catholic Jew, does not really exist,” said Santa Claus. The worst possible development is that history includes myths designed to promote particular expectations about the future. There should be no such thing as myths. 


My version of history is the only version for which it is possible that there is any accuracy. My version has a monopoly on accuracy. In fact, if you want to know how accurate a  particular version of history is, then you can just compare it to my version. Anything that does not fit the expectations established through my version of “accurate history” must be a myth. 
If you do not believe me, then just wait and see if Santa Claus excommunicates my imaginary little sister for challenging my expectations about reality. I guarantee that she is about to be excommunicated and shunned and disbarred and indefinitely imprisoned in a mental institution for her crimes of questioning the Authorized King James Version of the Inquisition. It is just as naturally inevitable as the fact that whenever there is lightning then what always happens next? Not just thunder, little sister, but sincere expectations of thunder!

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