Only do what is relevant!

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We offer financial programs for investment management, asset protection, & debt management 

For businesses, we offer marketing through websites, search engines, email, & social media

Finally, we offer custom-tailored programs for promoting health & wellness.

What makes us more relevant?
We understand that what you value most in a service is knowing that it fits well with your priorities and circumstances (even as they change). Next, you value the identifying of a target outcome that triggers powerful motivation to keep you focused. Then, you value clear action steps that you will consistently take because they produce quick, obvious results to build momentum and create breakthroughs. You value knowing exactly what is most important to measure and knowing how to precisely measure it.

 

Quick contrasts:

 

Which is more important to you: a recent major change in y​our health ​or ​loyalty to ​the ideas about health that you were taught to memorize​ in the 19​8​0s?
​Which is more important to you: a recent major change in the global economy or a familiar investment method that you ​know was ​very effective in the 1990s?

​Which is more important to you: ​a recent major change in the local weather forecast or what ​the 10-day forecast said ​about tomorrow​ 9 days ago?

 

 

​​​​​ First, find out what is most important to you now.

 

Part 1) Imagine ​being ​a young child (with no presumptions or expectations) who then notices the behavior patterns of people nearby. ​What contrasts might the child notice? ​
For instance, ​many people ​could ​claim to be interested in a particular outcome, ​yet different people have different reactions when they finally get the outcome they say they have been targeting. What do their reactions signal?

After a young child gets fascinated by something and then eventually masters it, what is usually their obvious reaction to their new success? They display delight and pride, right?

Others, after success at some task, seem rather confused. They seem not to know what to do next. Soon, ​they ​may get ​anxious and seek a new obsession  to chase, like they are distracting themselves from something​. They are certainly not operating from the same mode of simplicity that is typical of a young child, are they?


NEXT:

Part 2) Learn the basic signals of acting on innate motivations

Part 3) Notice contrasting reactions to curiosity

​​Part 4) Do you explore your motivations or avoid them?

Part 2) Learn the basic signals of acting on innate motivations

When young children are practicing new skills, they may eagerly pursue a new obsession. If they do not experience immediate success, they simply keep experimenting, right?

Some people, such as young children, may​ seem very clear about what they value and they are not troubled by disappointing results. They are interested in favorable results and they realize that learning can involve lots of small mistakes or failures.

Others seem to be surprisingly frustrated, easily distracted, and frequently embarrassed. Eventually you realize that ​all around you are people who obviously are not really clear about what is important to them, yet they are anxiously pretending to be clear.

Instead of expressing your curiosity or perceptions to them, you

​may ​learn to observe them quietly from a safe distance. You learn to
​stay​ calm and let them practice their pretense of calmness.
 
 

​Repeatedly, they may passionately compete for social validation of the​ possibility​ that they are clear ​ about what is important to them​. ​They may repeatedly insist that they are clear, perhaps attempting to convince themselves.

However, they may ​also ​isolate themselves away from those who do not share their same focus (in regard to whatever they claim that everyone should agree is very important). ​What do they do after isolating themselves? Wouldn’t it be interesting if, instead of simply focusing on producing whatever outcome they say is so important, they neglect that issue and focus on their resentment for those who do not share their focus?

Part 3) Notice contrasting reactions to curiosity

​Some people welcome curiosity. Other people respectfully prefer privacy and decline offers to converse.​ Many people, however, may actually react to curiosity as if it is extremely frightening to them.

If someone occasionally displays ​to them ​an embarrassing amount of curiosity, they may withdraw or even attack their “accuser.” Rather than ​simply highly valuing constructive criticism, they may react with panic, rage, and condemnation at anything resembling an offer of an alternative perception (or even an explicit “correction”).

 
So, in their interaction with others, t​hey ​may ​intensely discourage social curiosity as well as social perceptiveness. Their lives are organized around avoiding embarrassment, although attempting to compulsively avoid any possible triggers of embarrassment can sometimes lead to the sudden recognition of something extremely embarrassing.
 
​When they are successful at things of no lasting importance to them, they continue to ​try to ​hide their embarrassment. ​They may be embarrassed about their core motivations and the fact that their patterns of action are not organized around effectively promoting their core motivations.​


They are trying to avoid humiliation (the arising of humility). Some of them continue in a state of suppressed distress (paranoia) for years or decades.

 

Part 4) Do you explore your motivations or avoid them?

Y​ou might even notice that you have done some of the same things that they do. ​Are you so anxious about other people condemning your motivations​ that you attempt to distract yourself from them? Do you attempt to prevent the social display of emotions which can be very revealing about your values, like rage or delight or hope​ or envy?

How much do you value the curiosity and perceptiveness of others? Do you expect condemnation? If you do, is it important to you to always avoid condemnation? If a child in a store expresses disapproval of your choice of shoes, does that “ruin your day?”

​What is more important to you now: obsessively avoiding the disapproval of others or producing the outcomes that motivate you powerfully? Which is most important: identifying all the things that someone disapproves us or stating clear on what you value most?

​Note that some people highly value regular periods of relaxation, reflection, introspection, and even inviting the input of one or more people that they consider unusually perceptive​. They value being clear on their motivations and they respect that some people distract them (by competing for their approval) while other people challenge them to be more attentive to their own changing priorities (and more effective at promoting the outcomes that they value most).
 
 
Organizing from outside in:
 
​Which would be more important to you: a natural disaster like an earthquake disrupts all transportation in the local area or a plan that you made to get to the airport and get in a plane to leave at the originally scheduled time of departure? In other words, is your original plan more important than the circumstances that were the basis of that plan?
 
 

​M​ost people give too much importance to their own past, including what they said or planned. When your circumstances rapidly change, that can change your priorities, right? So, your priorities are a function of your circumstances.

(These are my unfinished notes for the homepage of a website. At some point, I will have “calls to action” like subscribe or contact us etc….)

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