Attraction, repulsion, & social conditioning

Attraction and repulsion in electricity

Attraction and repulsion in electricity (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

– – /+
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Everyone begins neutral (“ignorant”). Then we eventually experience some kind of “spontaneous” polarizing of our attention, either toward something in particular or away from something in particular (like an overwhelmingly disturbing noise that we may later identify as a fire alarm). That part is simple enough.



++  spontaneous attraction


+/- neutral


– – spontaneous repulsion



However, what if we have been predisposed to be attracted or repulsed by something? What if we have been predisposed to being “on the alert” for a particular set of things? We may be trained to presumptively label certain things in certain ways, to relate to them reactively, to interpret them relative to a pre-existing framework or model.
Schematic illustration of attraction and repul...

Schematic illustration of attraction and repulsion of charged particles (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

In those cases, the chart can be more complex. See the full chart below of 7 degrees of attraction and repulsion (including a neutral “polarity”). Incidentally, this chart was conceived in relation to the experiences of attraction and repulsion toward systems of organized “central” governing, though the comments below could apply to any target of attention.



+++ respectful attraction
++  spontaneous attraction
++/- impaired attraction
+/- ignorance (neutrality)
– – /+respectful repulsion
– – spontaneous repulsion
– – – multiplied repulsion



Demonstrating repulsive force between two nega...

Demonstrating repulsive force between two negatively charged lengths of tape (Photo credit: Wikipedia)



Note that “impaired” refers to the influence of social conditioning, as distinct from “spontaneous” repulsion (or attraction). In other words, programs of idealism can impair the accuracy of perception, producing “conflicted attraction.” Conflicted attraction could be a natural attraction impaired by a programmed repulsion, or 


two competing attractions (especially if one is artificially exaggerated, thus diverting energy from a “natural” attraction), or it could be a presumptive attraction (a programmed attraction) but in which the presumptions are being questioned (wearing off).

Further, a natural repulsion can be exaggerated through propaganda that cultivates contempt (extreme repulsion). Note also that “respect,” as used above, is modeled as an “attractive” force.



++/—-  spontaneous attraction that is systematically suppressed



Finally, I have made reference elsewhere to the idea that the stronger a natural attraction, such as the natural attraction of a dog to a certain smell, then the stronger the conditioning of repulsion must be to balance or neutralize that attraction. A dog that loves the smell of wild rabbits can be trained to resist that attraction. That will be somewhat more challenging than to train the dog to resist a much lesser attraction, like to the smell of a blossoming orange tree.



Demonstrating force of attraction between two ...

Demonstrating force of attraction between two oppositely charged lengths of tape. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)



In social relations, extremes of repulsion can even be multiplied in to aggression. Maybe someone is curious about a foreign nation at first, then strongly attracted to it, then that may be balanced by intense propaganda about how that nation is evil or traitorous or corrupt.

Eventually, the initial attraction may be a source of later pre-occupation, annoyance, irritation, shame or guilt. The initially attractive target of attention may eventually be ridiculed, demonized, and vilified. If the “target” knows an embarrassing secret, then intense repulsions may be cultivated to convert what is initially attractive in to a target of intense antagonism.



The saying comes to mind of “hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.” In other words, imagine a saying like “I do not want to see your face around here.” That is a warning to either flee or fight.



There could be tremendous attraction, but if that intense attraction is “uncomfortable” or in conflict with some other loyalty, then withdrawal is likely. Further, intense repulsion and even aggression may result, such as in the case of jealousy.



"The Name Of My Band Is . . . ?"

“The Name Of My Band Is . . . ?” (Photo credit: Mikey G Ottawa)

“I do not want anyone to see the emotions on my face” may be the actual repulsion behind a statement like “I do not want to see your face.” When attraction cannot be ignored, but also cannot be fulfilled (like in the case of “a woman scorned”), then an intense attraction may be balanced with a repulsion at least as intense.

For instance, a man attracted to women may have a traumatic experience and, though still experiencing attraction toward women, may resolve the conflict by completely avoiding most women. “Less disturbing” attractions may be targeted. We can also postulate that, like a strong charge of protons attracts electrons, “extreme” attractions may actually produce counter-repulsions:



++++/——– “I’m NEVER doing that again” (burn-out)







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