Clarity about fear, shame, shyness, and courage

Clarity about confusion 

Some predators thrive on your confusion. They cultivate new confusions. They identify your old confusions to exploit you. They confuse you and then manipulate you through promises of future reward as well as subtle intimidation and exploiting insecurity.
One of the most popular confusions in modern times is the idea that fear is dangerous. That is ridiculous.
English: Robert Plutchik's Wheel of Emotions

English: Robert Plutchik’s Wheel of Emotions (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Clarity about fear

Fear is the perception of danger. Perceptions can be imprecise or even quite inaccurate, so it is functional to have an accurate perception of danger.
That means to accurately identify real dangers as dangerous. For instance, to fail to identify initial indicators of danger can be catastrophic.
It is also important to accurately identify safe things as safe. So what is the real issue with fear?

Clarity about shyness

Anxiety is a state of mild paranoia in which even things which are actually safe will be avoided. Another word for mild anxiety like that is shyness.
Shyness is about a lack of confidence in one’s own ability to precisely make quick assessments of safety and danger. Rather than risk mistaking any dangerous thing as something safe, shy people simple withdraw.Based on a history of past assessments that were wrong and resulted in fear or panic, shy people habitually withdraw in a constant state of mild paranoia (suppressed panic). Rather than confuse dangerous things as safe, shy people simply habitually reject anything unfamiliar. They may eventually relax and withdraw their reflexive rejection if they are gently exposed to something in a way that is safe for them to privately and calmly investigate it.
What most shy people do not know is that what I just describe fits the vast majority of the population. However, shy people wrongly presume that they are very rare. Below is why.
Dangerous Risk Adrenaline Suicide by Fear of F...

Dangerous Risk Adrenaline Suicide by Fear of Falling (Photo credit:

Clarity about governments promoting shame, shyness, and fear

In fact, there is a culture of the suppression of fear (and the accurate assessment of danger). Governments are operations of organized violence which can dramatically increase the efficiency of their operations of terror through propaganda. If they can merely threaten social ostracizing and produce conformity and compliance, then the actual frequency of incarceration and violence against civilians can be dramatically reduced.
So, should we protest that governments are violent or that they systematically use propaganda to deceive, to distract, and to promote confusion? For what purpose would we protest?
Those who fear social ostracizing will predictably make some “heroic” display of contempt for certain governments (whether “our enemies” or “our own traitorous leaders”). After they display their condemnation and then receive congratulations from all of those who also think of the display of contempt as heroic, then what?

Clarity about authentic courage

Then nothing! The details of the operation of governments is simply a fact. They all mislead the masses by the programming of perception through public schools and the mainstream media regulated by or operated by governments.
Governments are all violent and it is quite functional for civilians to accurately assess the ability and willingness of governments to use violence. However, it is quite effective for governments to terrify the majority of the population and also for there to be a culture which shames anyone who displays fear. Fear is targeted as the great evil.
In the US, Presidents have famously promoted paranoia by saying “the only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” The fear of fear is also known as paranoia and it is obviously hypocritical, but, in a state of sufficient terror of social ostracizing, the masses suppress their own EXPRESSION of fear, denying it, pretending not to experience it. This leads to virtually everyone experiencing shyness and yet virtually no one daring to admit it.
So, everyone inaccurately perceives themselves to be unusual, shameful, disloyal. However, it is not disloyal to be afraid of the violence of governments. It is simply a precise assessment of danger.Fear by itself does not result in rebellion or contempt. Quite the opposite, fear results in “a healthy respect.” So, when there is fear from an accurate assessment of danger and one takes a risk anyway, that is true courage.
English: Group photo in front of Clark Univers...

English: Group photo in front of Clark University Sigmund Freud, G. Stanley Hall, Carl Jung; Back row: Abraham A. Brill, Ernest Jones, Sándor Ferenczi. Photo taken for Clark University in Worcester, Massachusetts publication. Česky: Foto z Clarkovy univerzity roku 1909. Dole (zleva) Sigmund Freud, G. Stanley Hall, Carl Jung, nahoře (zleva) Abraham A. Brill, Ernest Jones, Sándor Ferenczi (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Life after shyness?

What does someone do after they “recover” from neurotic shyness? They probably continue doing most of the things they were already doing, but with increased efficiency since they no longer are investing energy in pretending to never be afraid or hiding the expression of fear.
Rather than reject fear in terror, they welcome fear and are interested in making precise assessments of safety and danger. Those who relax enough to respect fear can also stop repressing disappointment and frustration.
Rather than reject disappointment in terror, the various forms of disappointment can be interesting or even fascinating: sadness, sorrow, guilt, grief, and so on. Disappointment is welcomed as something that reveals what is valuable to that person, but that may have been suppressed in order to exploit someone for the benefit of a government or some other commercial interest. The system represses the disappointment of everyone and trains them with messages like “big kids do not cry. Be brave!” That allows the system to install new values and priorities, like “you will be happy if you show everyone else how loyal you are to us by registering lots of people in our programs.”
Frustrations are also repressed by most people as “embarrassing” (frightening). Why is it so frightening to display frustration? Because displaying one frustration can lead to opening up the entire dam of repressed frustration. The actual values and inspirations of the masses are systematically repressed or frustrated by the systems of governing.
For instance, basic biological processes like sexual attraction are frustrated and then “co-opted” with messages like “be a loyal consumer as your top priority in life and then people MIGHT be sexually attracted to you if you drive the right car or wear the right hat (or at least vote for the right candidate). No, not that one. That one was cool last week. Now you have to buy this one for people to still be attracted to you! Time is running out. These great sale prices won’t last forever.”
Sigmund Freud, founder of psychoanalysis, smok...

Sigmund Freud, founder of psychoanalysis, smoking cigar. Español: Sigmund Freud, fundador del psicoanálisis, fumando. Česky: Zakladatel psychoanalýzy Sigmund Freud kouří doutník. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Clarity about public relations

What I referenced above is the explicit methodology of the entire field of public relations. In the early 20th century, Edward Bernays trail-blazed that field by applying insights made by his uncle, Sigmund Freud.
Public relations (coupled with the technology of mass media) not only made governing the masses far more efficient, but created new profitability for businesses. Two famous successes in the realm of commercial advertising for Edward Bernays were the use of a variety of manipulations and deceptions to create demand for cigarettes by women in the US, plus, even more remarkably, the diamond jewelry industry.

Clarity about the success of the diamond industry

Here are the quick details. Diamonds are a relatively common substance (which even can be synthetically made). The DeBeers cartel bought up every diamond mine to monopolize supply so that they could control the  inventory of diamonds available to the public for purchase. Then, Edward Bernays created publicity deceptions to exploit the repressed public desire for sex and security.
He created 90 minute commercials for diamond rings called “movies.” The scripts were written around a climactic scene of the handsome and heroic leading man offering the beautiful leading actress a diamond ring. She swoons and says yes, then they live happily ever after.However, it is all a pretense. The actors are faking it. They are pretending for a camera and for a paycheck.
Portrait of Sigmund Freud

Portrait of Sigmund Freud (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Clarity about reality

So, the public audience watching the movie or TV programming associates diamond rings with marriage and sexual attraction, then DeBeers releases a very small percentage of their inventory of diamonds for sale to the public, then these little rocks which DeBeers may buy for $1 or $5 from laborers in Africa are shipped out, cut nicely, and then sold for $1000 or $5000 in New York or London.
Note that “no one” asks when did diamond rings get so popular? And when did they get so expensive? People are programmed to irrationally consume.
In fact, when the public was starting to sell diamonds back in to the market 20 years after their marriage (or the day after their divorce), what did DeBeers do? They launched new publicity campaigns to shame the masses in to keeping their diamond jewelry, with slogans (and even a movie) called “Diamonds are Forever.”
Scared child

Scared child (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Clarity about shame

Shyness is shame. It is shame at the experience of fear,. The masses are trained systematically to be ashamed of the experience of fear.
The more ashamed the herd, the more easily manipulated and exploited they are. Is this a problem? Is this something to protest? Is this something to fix? Should we buy a hat to show our opinion on the matter? Should we vote for the candidate who promises to save us from a culture of shame?
I consider all of this something to respect. It could be fascinating to you. It could be relevant to you. It could be a danger to accurately assess quickly: who is trying to exploit shame, who is trying to shame you for being shy or afraid, who benefits from your repression and self-rejection?
Government spending

Government spending (Photo credit: 401(K) 2013)

Clarity about respect

Note, by the way, that I have nothing against diamonds or the diamond industry. It is a extremely profitable operation. I can respect that, too.Maybe they use deception and confusion and fear and shame to further their commercial interests by selling diamonds for an enormous profit margin. By now, doesn’t that remind you of institutions of governing, like government-regulated schools and government-regulated media?So, what should we do about all of this respect and fear and so on? Well, in order to prevent reverse psychology from ever having been used at all, we must all eventually go back in time and join together to universally forbid the “universal” sin of “being a naive conformist.” Almost EVERYONE criticizes the horrors of being a naive conformist, right? I mean, everyone at least SHOULD do that, right? Oh, the irony!


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