Regret and the condemning of the past

“Wait a minute- hold on- maybe I should not have eaten that. Okay, wow- yep that was not a good thing. Yeah, I really do regret eating that. Anyway, what kind of person would feed a baby a jalapeno pepper? That is just plain wrong!”

As long as there is a sense of repulsion from suffering as something that “should not be,” then regret remains. Regret is the belief in the idea of “something wrong.” It is optional.

"VD CAN BE CURED BUT THERE'S NO MEDICINE ...

“VD CAN BE CURED BUT THERE’S NO MEDICINE FOR REGRET” – NARA – 515957 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

However, saying “there should be no regret” is not the same as withdrawing condemnation of the past. The only way to end the experience of regret is to stop condemning the past as *inherently* wrong. So, there is “forgiving” others of doing wrong and then there is being accepting or even thankful for challenging experiences with no sense of *inherent* condemnation.

Without Regret

Without Regret (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

We can condemn things, but if the condemning is a reaction, that is distinct from *creating* a particular pattern as “the problem” or “what is wrong.” We can make up two exclusive categories of “right” and “wrong,” but until we are the ones creating those categories, then we are subject to regret and suffering, as well as grief and grievance (blaming someone else for the past that we have condemned as wrong).

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