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the simple secrets to an amazing life of happiness, health and wealth

secret #1: WHAT IS LANGUAGE? Language is a part of reality that is distinct from all of the rest of reality. Language is a specific category of human behavior. By language, I mean the entire realm that includes all symbols, codes, pretenses, claims, contradictions, falsehoods, nonsense, beliefs, controversies, arguments, and secrets. Outside of that definition of language, there are no such thing as symbols, codes, pretenses, claims, contradictions, falsehoods, nonsense, beliefs, controversies, arguments, and secrets. Those developments only form through the use of language. 

secret #2: WHAT IS LANGUAGE FOR? Language is simply a type of behavior used for influencing the attention, perception, and behavior of other people. It has absolutely no direct influence beyond that- like on the temperature or on the heat of the sun or on the speed of a car or of the rotation of the earth or the combustion of oxygen or the metabolic biochemistry of cells.

secret #3: HOW IS LANGUAGE RELATED TO AN AMAZING LIFE? Language is the source of amazing results as well as the source of the 3 claims that we use to inhibit our results: I couldn’t, I shouldn’t, & I wouldn’t. People can trade for happiness for resignation (“I couldn’t”). People can trade health for cynicism (I shouldn’t”). People trade wealth for pride (“I wouldn’t”).

The core 3 secrets:

secret #4: “What I couldn’t do” inhibits happiness. Happiness is a function of power. (Imagine something that someone has said “makes” them unhappy. Can the “source” of their linguistic claiming of unhappiness be framed as “I am unhappy because I couldn’t _______?”) People can trade for happiness for resignation (“I couldn’t”).

secret #5: “What I shouldn’t do” inhibits health. Health is a function of acceptance. (Imagine something that someone has said “makes” them unhealthy as in “makes me sick” or “makes me ill” or “makes me ill at ease” or “dis-eased” or “stressed out” as in “totally disgusting” or “completely unacceptable” or “just should not be!” Can the “source” of their linguistic claiming of illness or ill will or unwillingness be framed as “I am unhealthy because I shouldn’t _______?”) People can trade health for cynicism (I shouldn’t”).

secret #6: “What I wouldn’t do” inhibits wealth. Wealth is a function of freedom. (Imagine something that someone has said “prevents” them from being wealthy. Can the “source” of their linguistic claiming of their poverty be framed as “I am not wealthy because I wouldn’t _______?”) People can trade wealth for pride (“I wouldn’t”).

(Before you proceed to the experiment below, you might find the attached image of interest. As you read each emotional pattern of relating to something, notice if any particular pattern of behavior comes to attention as you review the various ways of emotional relating.)

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Experiment:

part 1

list a few things that people can’t do. (it could be for any people or all people)

list a few things that people shouldn’t do. (it could be for any people or all people)

list a few things that people won’t do. (it could be for any people or all people)

part 2

Take the list of can’ts. If people took that list of claims of “can’t” and made them in to claims of unhappiness, how could they do that?

Take the list of shouldn’ts. If people took that list of claims of “shouldn’t” and made them in to claims of unwillingness or illness, how should they do that?

Take the list of won’ts. If people took that list of claims of “won’t” and made them in to claims of poverty, how would they do that?

part 3

list a few things that you have ever said “make” you unhappy. (complaints/blame/justifications)

list a few things that you have ever said “make you sick.” (rationalizations)

list a few things that you have ever said “prevent” you from being wealthy (excuses)

part 4

Take the above list and explore some alternative claims in language using the following forms or templates. List at least 2 answers for each item on your lists that you consider to be realistic and relevant answers. You can include some silly answers (why not?), but only count answers that you actually claim to be realistic and relevant toward your minimum 2 for each item.

If I could, how could I ______?

If I should, when should I _______?

If I would, why would I _______?

Related articles

• Babel No More: Inside the Secrets of Superhuman Language-Learners (brainpickings.org)
• If there’s a connection between linguistics and other sets of symbol systems (losthighwaytimes.com)
• We May Be Less Happy, But Our Language Isn’t (scienceblog.com)
• Millionaire Mindset Secrets – 7 Secrets of Wealth Creation Released (prweb.com)

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